Brown Girl Self-Care

I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there. *Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own life. The point of the share is to not only say her name, but to reinforce the idea of Black women staying Black Woman...

I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t. #2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkable, because Black women are socialized to endure instead of disrupt. But these choices are valid. They are powerful. An...

I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 - You don't owe the world "your pretty" #2 - The self-care in this episode is less about performance and more about affirming your worth, reminding yourself of who you are and feeling great about yourself, FOR YOU In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm giving you five simple beauty practices that serve as...

My sleep has been wrecked since I moved. Last year I had the perfect setup: a bed that supported me, a routine that worked, and deep, consistent rest. Now? I’m on a futon, waking up at 4 a.m. to take my daughter to work, and dragging through the day. n this episode I'm sharing: Why fall naturally shifts your body’s sleep rhythm (and how to work with it) The basics I’m returning to: earlier bed...

This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life. If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I h...

Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me. In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity: Not answering texts right away Saying “I can’t talk right now” Blocking off the first 30 minutes...

We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in you...

I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself. We talk about: The moment I realized my trust was starting to change How my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels now Why trust takes time to rebuild Also, as mentioned: B...

So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength. We talk about: What the Superwoman Contract actually is Why we feel obligated to carry so much How this “strength”...

I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is. We talk about: Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us an...

Hey, hey! Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk. Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and can't get a handle on prioritizing you...

We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good? In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes...

Hey, hey!! This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will. Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about jud...

*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw* Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week. Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of $...

**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse**** It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when y...

This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episode Real talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times. In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern. We’re talking about why so many Black women feel unseen in their bu...

We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself? In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself. You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t m...

In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you. I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in...

Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter Begins In this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays . This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed...

Listen to the episode from 2020 Link to the free mini quide In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional. And I didn’t apologize. This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrin...

Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting her...

In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves. I share: Why crying helped me realize what my soul is c...

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care , we're cut...

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. If you’re feeling heavy the day after Mother’s Day, thi...

Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. First things first! I want to invite you to join me on...