X & Y On The Fly - Dating Podcast | Love | Sex | Relationships

Who knew a funny video featuring two cockatoos would lead to a full-on discussion of one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do mess up our chances in dating and relationships? I'm talking, of course, about trying too hard. Do men, especially so-called 'nice guys', do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks? But w...

In 1968, Tammy Wynette released probably her most famous single, which caused immediate outrage from the Women's Movement. But Wynette countered by saying 'stand by your man' simply meant accepting one's husband despite his faults. But still, by today's standards the song might evoke even more vitriolic outrage. Yet, a recent Facebook post brought up how men are always taught how to treat a woman,...

2020 has finally drawn to a close and it's time to address 2021. What will the 'new normal' look like insofar as dating and relationships go? How soon until we can actually get there? What unexpected surprises might be in store for all of us, whether we're currently in a relationship or looking forward to getting into one? What can be observed from past pandemics and applied to the current dating...

Last week on The Mountain Top podcast I said out loud that I had never met anyone in a happy relationship who was miserable. That concept is worth a deeper discussion, and who better to have it with than the very woman I'm in a happy relationship with? Now obviously, one can be perfectly happy without being in any relationship at all, for sure. But right out of the gate, Emily floats several more...

Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typically manifest itself? Is it a good thing, or is it something we would be better off minimizing the effects of? And wait a minute...are the traits and behaviors that we somewhat automatically consider masculine or feminine really such, or are they simply...

Parenthood is hot, and we can prove it! Curiously enough, however, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn guys on? Is how men act and carry themselves as dads even more profo...

This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, re...

This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, re...

There are certain so-called experts out there who would say two people sharing 'chemistry' between them is a BAD thing. What's up with that? Does it have anything to do with the fact there can be chemistry between two people who don't even LIKE each other? Or is it mostly people who don't have chemistry in their own relationships who say it doesn't matter? But what IS chemistry, anyway? Is it some...

First and foremost, you can find the OPPOSITE conversation on how women talk about men when they're not around over on episode 134 of The Mountain Top Podcast. It's a barnburner just like this one. In THIS episode, however, we talk about drunk confessions, what goes on during men-only excursions, how men treat their 'henpecked' or 'p-whipped' friends, and how they talk about their own girlfriends...

Given how complicated men and women make it to meet and attract each other, it's a miracle there are seven-and-a-half billion of us on this planet, right? With us to explore what makes it all so difficult is none other than fellow dating coach Mike Goldstein from New York City. What has happened in our post-modern world that keeps men and women apart? Was it really easier int he 'good old days'? W...

After millennia of assumptive coexistence, the idea of masculine/feminine polarity is under fire. Is it all really a societal construct designed to oppress women, or are the very building blocks of sexual attraction at stake here? Relationship coaches Brody and Antia Boyd sit in with us to hit this issue with a big, heavy hammer once and for all. Is masculinity all about 'penetration'...and is tha...

Just because you and your significant other are now a couple doesn't mean you stop being two individual humans. Joining us this time are Stephen and Theresa from Ownstream, who do a lot of thinking about this important subject. What's the difference between supporting someone to grow vs. trying to get them to change? If you know something's good for your partner, how do you get them to come along...

How do we go this many episodes without covering this insanely important factor in a healthy relationship? Derek and Heidi from Uncharted Family sit in with us for a fast-paced (and hilarious, as usual) rant on 36-hour anniversaries, non-awkward silences, and seeing each other at our worst. Is being 'cordial' with each other a sign of trouble? Does throwing plates like in The Godfather count as 'c...

After over two years of radio silence, it's time to fire up the XYOTF engine again. What better way than to invite our friends Justin Stenstrom and Sarah Rudin from The Elite Man to join us for an epic breakdown of the infamous Honeymoon Phase? What is it anyway? And does it have to end? Is there really a stage BEFORE the Honeymoon Phase, and another (or several) after it? What happens if a couple...

So you've got a new 'significant other'? Great...now what about your friends? How do you keep your friends from jealously sabotaging your relationship? In fact, how do you keep your friends in general? And what if the friend we're talking about here is your roommate? What are some solid strategies for couples who want to make friends with other couples? There are definitely some surprise pitfalls...

Okay, it's been almost four years since the subject of 'kids' has been brought up on this show, and there's plenty more to discuss nowadays. After all, having children changes the dynamics of an allegedly romantic relationship between a man and a woman, so this is important stuff. And don't 'kid yourself' (pun intended), what's talked about in this episode matters A LOT whether you're a parent jus...

We've all heard the old, worn-out cliche time and again...'If you want a great relationship with your significant other, you're going to have to WORK ON IT every single day.' But do we take that at face value without ever stopping to consider what that really means? And is it even TRUE to begin with? Listen in as Scot and Emily get down to the heart of the matter, dispelling old stereotypes while...

Get ready for a no-holds-barred discussion on all sorts of non-monogamous relationships. Swingers and 'The Lifestyle'? The 'don't ask / don't tell' policy of the rich and famous? Bisexual trysts? The creative possibilities appear to be endless. So is it true that couples who have an 'open relationship' are enjoying better sex lives? Are they happier overall? And do they actually trust each other m...

Where are you? Who were you with? What's more annoying, having to ask questions like that or being on the receiving end of them? Well, in this episode, besides proving that the show is still in production after all, Scot and Emily give you the lowdown on jealousy. What is it anyway? And how can you tell for sure if those jealous feelings you've been having are reasonable? Every angle is explored,...

Let's face it, whether you're a man or a woman there are things about the opposite gender that tend to drive you nuts. Why do they do all that annoying stuff? Well, in this episode you'll get straight answers once and for all from both Scot and Emily...even though they may not be the answers you want to hear. Yet the fact remains that we somehow still love MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) anywa...

Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience for someone of either gender. But it doesn't have to be. Listen in as Scot and Emily talk about simple ways to prepare for first dates, make sure conversation flows easily, ignite the sparks of attraction and--of course--get the second date. Sure, we all know that hitting someone with 'interview questions' is a bad idea already, so plan on d...

What is is about romantic "movie moments" that drive women wild? Better yet, what can guys learn from Hollywood about how to ignite femininity and become exactly the kind of man women desire? Scot and Emily look to uncover all the secrets the motion picture industry has to share, from the early classics all the way through to the present. You'll also find out what NOT to do, courtesy of some case...

Are you a single parent? Or are you dating someone who is? If so, this episode is dedicated to you. With their son just about to celebrate his first birthday, Emily and Scot reveal their strategies for having a real, actual love life even when you've got rugrats in the house...or even teenagers, which presents its own set of challenges. They also share every blasted secret they have from their sin...

Should you really try to get your ex back after a breakup? The answer: It depends. You're about to find out what it depends exactly. Emily and Scot also talk about some great ways to defend against ever having to worry about the entire issue to begin with. And what about exes who create drama? Discover how to handle that, regardless of whether it's your ex or that of someone you're dating now. Don...