What Would Love Do?

Can Love Happen In Mid-Life? The Golden Bachelor Were you as intrigued with The Golden Bachelor as I was? For SO many years we’ve been inundated with these relationship shows for the younger crowd and I often felt like our whole midlife age group was ignored or forgotten about. This latest installment of The Bachelor brought midlife dating into the foreground. Relationships are NOT just for...

#1 Sign A Man Will Be Loyal To You Are you in a relationship or a situationship? While everyone’s definition of a relationship can differ, a situationship is very casual. There’s no promises of a future together and the conversations are generally superficial talk about the events of your day. There’s nothing wrong with having a situationship provided both parties are in agreemen...

Men Who Do THIS Attract The Best Women What’s your impression of men who come across very fickle about what they want in life and in a relationship? They definitely lack confidence and are usually non-committal. These are the men who hesitate to do any type of inner work to figure out what type of life they envision. There’s a reason why people are confused about what they want (and ye...

Why He’ll Choose You Over Another Woman Men are often slow to realize the benefits of doing personal development work, especially when it comes to healing trauma left from childhood and/or previous adult relationships. For generations little boys were taught to stifle their emotions and that they were sissies if they cried on the playground or ball field. Flight attendants on every flight te...

80% of Men Over 40 Use Dating Apps For THESE Reasons Men and women alike are desperate for connection but find it increasingly difficult to meet people because of our busy lives. That’s where technology and dating apps can save the day because they allow us to meet people we wouldn’t normally encounter in our daily lives. While dating apps make the initial meetings easier, it’s s...

5 Ways A Man Knows He’s With The One and He’ll Commit To Her Are you approaching dating from the soul or from a transactional viewpoint? Those who are soul-based really know what they want in a relationship. They have strong values and have set boundaries and standards about what type of man they’ll let into their lives. Those who are transactional care more about what they&#8217...

How To End A Relationship With LOVE w/Katherine Woodward Thomas More often than not we hear about the messy breakups and the blame game about who was at fault for what. Rarely do we hear about couples who leave a relationship with respect for each other which can lead to respect for future partners as well as happy co-parenting. If a couple has significant differences, why can’t they just go...

Men Go Through THESE 4 Stages Before They’ll Commit In today’s casual hook up culture, it’s more difficult to determine which men are looking for casual situationships versus long term commitments. Men who want commitments ARE out there but knowing and understanding the process it takes to get to that point will ease any doubts you have. Most importantly, have fun while dating. M...

Can An Avoidant Man Speak My Love Language? We’re talking about love attachments styles today and it’s so important to learn about the different styles because one’s love attachment style can indicate whether you’re a good match and if he can fulfill your relationship needs. There are 3 main attachment styles (which stem from our relationship with our parents and/or caretak...

Want To Keep A Man’s Attention, DO THIS! Let me be clear…it is not a woman’s sole responsibility to vie for a man’s attention. It takes two to have a strong relationship, which means the man should also be putting forth effort to drive the relationship forward. One partner doing 95% of the work is NOT a formula for success. But sometimes women can also get complacent, espec...

What Could “Reality Dating Shows” Mean for Modern Culture? with Dr. Birnbaum If you check out any of the streaming services or major networks, you’ll find multiple reality shows about relationships. And they all need to be different to catch the viewer’s attention, so you’ll find multiple twists and plenty of drama. But are these shows healthy to watch? Do they put ce...

Guys Won’t Open Up Emotionally Until You Do THIS! Let’s be real…most guys in the dating world are thinking about one thing…SEX! And men from the Baby Boomer and Gen X generations were taught as children to hide their feelings. So, it’s no wonder that many midlife men are emotionally constipated when it comes to dating. They’re confused about why the women they d...

THESE Men Love To Be Chased | Know THIS! In other podcasts and videos I’ve talked about how women should not chase men, but there’s a big difference between chasing someone and putting effort into a relationship. Emotionally healthy men want women who aren’t afraid of deep conversations and who take the initiative to plan the next date. Women who put in effort truly want to know...

Is He SERIOUS About You? 3 SOLID Signs | Don’t Miss THESE When was the last time you really thought about your long-term dating goal? Knowing whether you want a life partner or just want to have fun with no commitment will help you determine what kinds of questions to ask a potential partner. Also, those looking for a serious relationship will approach dating from a very different energy lev...

7 EARLY Signs A Guy Wants To Be COMMITTED To You Women can often overlook crucial early signs of a partner’s readiness for commitment due to being blinded by affection. Instead of being blinded, let’s take back your power and talk about the seven telltale signs of a man’s sincere interest in a lasting bond. If you have followed me for any length of time, you’ll know that I...

If A Man Does THIS, He’s Loyal To YOU! Establishing trust and building a strong foundation of loyalty from the early stages of dating is the basis for a long lasting relationship. There are certain character traits that contribute to loyalty and without them, each partner may feel insecure and start worrying about the longevity of the relationship. We’ll also chat about the significanc...

Dating: A Failed Technology? What does commitment mean? In our younger years, it means finding someone to build a life with and (usually) to start a family with. Younger people often have a naive outlook on commitment, especially when it comes to marriage, when in reality, the divorce rate in the US is still hovering at the 50% mark. In midlife years, our childrearing is (usually) complete, many h...

Do THIS When He Pulls Away… Chemistry is a huge reason why we connect with certain people. We’ve got various feel-good chemicals and hormones being released that push us into lust and limerence early in a relationship. But this chemical attraction is often misunderstood. Men will often think about how you make him feel instead of how he feels about you . Can you see the distinction? Me...

Do High-Quality Men (Men Over 40) Exist? with @raydoktor What does “high-quality” mean when we’re talking about men (and women)? Basically it means that men are doing inner work and acknowledging that they’re growing as a person daily. High-quality men don’t run away from conversations about feelings and what they want in a relationship. On the contrary, they welcome...

 Why A Man CHOOSES You Over ANOTHER Woman Did you realize that how we related to our parents during our early childhood years deeply affects how we choose our partners later in life? The lessons we learn from the primary adults in our lives from birth through age 8 or 9 shape our personalities and belief system and we carry these lessons with us forever…unless we’re open to doing inner...

Attachment Styles: Why We Choose Who We Choose w/Dr. Stan Tatkin You’ve heard me talk about attachment styles before but today we’re diving deep with Dr. Stan Tatkin to really understand what each style means and how each style manifests during the early stages of a relationship. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, author, and developer of A Psychobiological Ap...

Men Have a Hard Time Not THINKING ABOUT YOU When You Tell Them This Relationships are built on connections and in the early stages of dating someone new, a strong connection can begin to propel the relationship forward. This is often where lust and limerence come into play and everything about this person is new and exciting. Think back to when you were in your teens or young adulthood. Do you rem...

Men (Over 40) Need THIS From a Woman To Fully Commit Commitment for some men is a dirty word. Sometimes men are left reeling after a divorce, so the last thing they want is a serious relationship. When a man is widowed, they can feel guilt when they want to start dating. But none of these scenarios means they won’t ever commit; they just might take longer to figure out what they want in a pa...

Try THIS To Meet High-Quality Men Over 40 with Guest Sabrina Rising I’m thrilled to have fellow coach Sabrina Rising as my guest because there are always different perspectives when it comes to giving advice and seeing the same situations from a male vs female vantage point. One quote from this episode that really stuck out was, “You’re not making mistakes; you’re choosing...

3 Early Signs He’s Ready For Commitment With You I do NOT believe that being in your midlife years condemns you to being single for the rest of your days. In fact, since we humans are living longer – many into their 90s – that should be even more incentive to enjoy the company of others and to embrace the dating process. Yes, there are duds out there, but in general men want stro...