What Would Love Do?

Is He Afraid Of Love? Do THIS To Build Intimacy With A Man Parenting is a difficult and confusing job. Most parents do the best they can given the tools and knowledge available at the time; yet so many adults can trace dysfunctional lessons back to their childhoods. In fact, our personalities and limiting beliefs are ingrained by the time we’re 8-9 years old based on the lessons learned from...

Why Men (Over 40) Choose You Over Other Women Life is better with company. I firmly believe that we are NOT meant to be alone. Humans need  connection and intimacy and we all remember how isolating it was to be alone during the pandemic shutdowns. But this doesn’t mean jumping from one relationship to the next and just settling for whoever comes along. We are all worthy of finding that partn...

If You Do THIS To A Man, Will It Sabotage Your Relationship? When you’re serious about finding a long term relationship, it’s important to talk about attachment styles. Understanding your own behavior goes a long way to making sense of a guy’s behavior. Understanding your own love attachment style is the first step to NOT sabotaging future romantic relationships. Attachment style...

How Childhood Traumas Affects Our Love Choices with Sabrina Rising I’ve had the pleasure of working with Sabrina Rising personally and am thrilled that she agreed to come on this episode to help explain that what we experience in our childhood directly affects our adulthood. Sabrina is an intuitive guide who helps people transform their lives and align with their innermost desires. She&#8217...

6 “NICE GIRL” Habits ALL WOMEN Must Break! Many people in this midlife age range grew up being told to be ‘nice’ to others. How often did you hear “Nice girls wouldn’t do that,” or being forced to apologize to a sibling or friend because the words you said weren’t “nice.” Now as an adult, I hear these phrases and think about how ‘be...

Men (over 40) Have a Hard Time Opening Up Emotionally Until THIS Happens I talk a lot about being emotionally available or mature in relationships but it dawned on me recently (after a conversation with another dating coach contemporary) that many men don’t understand what that means. It’s hard enough knowing what you want in a relationship but to not understand how to be present emoti...

4 Stages Men Go Through Before They’ll Commit Many midlife women feel like they’re in a rush to find their dream guy. And while I admit that you shouldn’t waste time on men who don’t have the same values you do, rushing a commitment from someone isn’t the best way to build a solid relationship. Some men need more time than women to build a trusting bond. A lot of men...

5 Male INSECURITIES That Women NEED To Know Insecurity is not just a woman problem…men suffer from insecurities, too. Heck, it’s safe to say that ALL humans suffer from some kind of insecurity! This is not something to be ashamed of; it’s a fact of life but it hinders how we act with each other. Add in our awful communication skills and we have the belief that being insecure is s...

Men Love Women Who Do THIS! Secrets To A Happy Relationship Have you ever been in a healthy, happy relationship where you felt equally loved by your  partner? We all have these ideas of what this type of relationship looks and feels like but often times you don’t really know that’s what you’ve found until your deep into it. Relationships bring up all kinds of emotions, from the l...

10 Sneaky Ways Men Use Women Commitment can be confusing for midlife men. When you’re younger, most men understand there’s a commitment to help raise children and provide for a family. But in the midlife years – aka after baby making – many men shy away from commitment for any number of reasons. If you couple this confusion with the women who want a man at any costs, you no...

When A Man Pulls Away, Never Do THIS! Do you remember the television show Seinfeld? Specifically the episode about George and his theory of opposite day. He always felt like he was down on his luck in everything he did so he figured, why not do the opposite of his natural instincts. Naturally, it worked and he was loving life! You’ll find other advice gurus who suggest that when someone pull...

The Power Of Walking Away From A Man Changes His Behavior Think back to your childhood and your parents. Did they fulfill the stereotypical gender roles of the father being the head of the household while the mother was the submissive housewife? For many generations, this is just the way society raised their children. The men seemingly had more power than the women. Starting in the late 1960s and...

If You REALLY Want To Know How He Feels About You, Do THIS Emotional intimacy is different from physical intimacy. In today’s hook up dating culture, kissing and sex are seen as very benign, almost like they’re no big deal. That’s quite a 180 degree turnaround from decades ago where it was frowned upon to have premarital sex. In the past, you developed an emotional intimacy FIRST...

A Man’s Capacity To Commit is Based on THESE 5 Factors If you’ve followed me for any length of time, you know that I teach about the criteria to creating a successful, happy relationship: blendable lifestyles, emotional maturity, and shared values. Couples who are committed to each other will put effort into making each of these things work but it takes time to have those radically hon...

5 Ways To Increase Your VALUE With Men And Get Them To RESPECT You We talk about the dating world as being dysfunctional, especially when the hook up culture is so obvious. No matter what age range you’re in, you will likely come across players who just want to have fun for a night or a month and then move on to the next woman. These are not the men who will be willing (or able) to give you...

99% of Men Feel Respected When They Have THIS! Respect is a two-way street and humans across the board are deserving of respect. Most especially, people who decide to be a couple, maybe even leading to marriage or long term commitment. If you can’t respect your partner, it’s extremely difficult to have any kind of meaningful relationship. Accepting each other’s flaws and annoyanc...

7 Signs He’s A Safe Man and That You Can Trust Him Safety is important when dating because we’re basically meeting complete and total strangers. Friends might still set you up on a blind date but for the most part, the men you meet don’t have a mutual friend who can vouch for their character. But safety isn’t just physical; it’s emotional as well. A guy might treat yo...

Want To Keep His Attention? DON’T CHASE; Do THIS Instead A relationship should be an equal partnership and yet may women feel it’s their responsibility to keep a man’s attention. They want to keep their man so badly that they give and give, often without asking for anything in return. Over giving actually comes from a place of chasing a man, or doing everything possible to keep h...

5 NEW Questions You Should ASK About A MAN In The Early Stages of Dating One of the primary reasons women find dating so frustrating is lack of communication. Too often they are attracted to men who just want to have fun or they’re attracted to the superficial guy instead of learning about his deeper desires in life. Of course, women can suffer from not being open enough, too, but you’...

Want More From Someone? DO NOT Chase; Do THIS Instead! Knowing exactly what you want in a relationship will go a long way to attracting the type of man who can give that to you. It’s not enough to be vague, like my client who said she wants more commitment but couldn’t express what that meant to her. When you know what you want and what type of person will compliment your lifestyle and...

Never Chase A Man. Do This Instead (5 Ways He’ll Invest In YOU!) There’s a huge difference between knowing what you want in a man and going after it versus chasing a man for a date. When you set high standards for yourself and determine the type of may you want in a relationship, that knowledge allows you to be picky when sorting through the dating apps. When women chase men, that&#821...

Guys Have a Hard Time Not THINKING ABOUT YOU When You Tell Him This I’m a big proponent of loving yourself first before looking for someone to fill that void. If you’ve done any kind of personal development or spiritual work, that void might be smaller but it was created back when you were growing up. Take a moment to think about your childhood. One of the most common desires for kids...

Is He Stringing You Along? Men Put Women In 4 Categories While Dating Asking questions is an important part of the dating process, especially early on and if you’re looking for a long term relationship. Consider this a way to pre-qualify the men you’re meeting. After answering your questions, do they meet your criteria for a second or third date? If it feels like he’s stringing y...

When He Pulls Away & Then Comes Back Keep This In Mind! Attraction does NOT equal relationship success. Look at any of the celebrity couples from past or present and tell me how many have been in a long term relationship, never mind still married after 20 years. Just because you have fire-hot attraction for each other does not mean you’ll remain together when the hard stuff comes at you....

Men (Over 40) Need This To Settle Down & Commit As the old saying goes, timing is everything. When two people get together – either for a first meeting or deciding to date one another – if the timing is off, they’ll run into challenges. Of course, life is full of challenges but why not set yourself up for success by being on strong footing both emotionally and financially? Es...