Unblock Your BS

If your dating and relationship life feels like one long loop of situationships, betrayals, or emotional neglect… this episode is for you. I pull zero punches in this solo truth-sesh that unpacks: Why your nervous system is choosing familiarity over fulfillment How projection and past pain create toxic dating patterns The myth of "all men" or "all women" being the problem Why shame isn't the same...

This episode is the self aware dating collab the internet needed: Tara and Kayle Ersek (of The Dating Collective) team up for an emotionally intelligent, no-BS look at modern dating through a nervous system lens. Whether you've been ghosted, breadcrumbed, stuck in a situationship or are wondering why your "good on paper" matches never lead to real intimacy - this episode is going to hit home! They...

You don't need a new job, a new relationship, or a 10-step morning routine to change your life. You just need to understand how your brain actually works. In this quick solo episode, I'm breaking down the exact 5-step process that explains why you do what you do and how to finally feel more in control of your thoughts, emotions, and reactions. Whether you're constantly people-pleasing, shutting do...

If dating feels like a dumpster fire… you're not alone. But what if it's not the apps, the avoidants, or your bad luck? What if the way you're dating is still rooted in who you had to be, not who you are now? In this raw and expansive conversation, Tara sits down with dating coach Kam Berard to unpack why modern dating often feels so disheartening—and how to reconnect with your self-worth, standar...

In this raw and real coaching session, I sit down with podcast listener Marissa, who's exhausted by dating, tired of always giving more in relationships, and wondering why the "right" guys keep fading away. She's done with breadcrumbing. Fed up with chasing clarity. And deeply craving a relationship where love and effort go both ways. Together, we unpack: What happens when you attract men who mirr...

When your whole life explodes in a single moment, how do you survive it—let alone heal? In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Brittany shares what happened when she found out her husband had been sexually abusing their daughter. Overnight, she went from wife to single mom, from deeply loyal to deeply shattered. We talk about the silent trauma so many women carry, what it really means to regulate y...

Chuck is 28, mid-divorce, and drowning in self-blame, rage, and regret. In this powerful real-time coaching session, we unpack the emotional spirals, survival patterns, and nervous system triggers that kept him stuck—and how to start healing them. We talk co-parenting, inner child work, breathwork, emotional regulation, and what it actually means to "do the work" when you're just trying to keep yo...

When Bob first came across the Healthy Men-tality Program, he was stuck, confused, and about to lose his marriage. His wife told him he needed to "do the work" — but no one could tell him what that actually meant. In today's episode, Bob shares his raw, honest journey through heartbreak, healing, and what it really takes to rebuild your life after divorce or relationship breakdowns. We dive into:...

In this episode, Coach Tara sits down with Mark, a husband, father, and graduate of our Healthy Men-tality program, who shares what it's really like for a man to go on a healing journey. They unpack the emotional toll of people-pleasing, what happens when fight-or-flight hijacks your relationship, and how nervous system tools and accountability changed how Mark shows up—for himself and those he lo...

Ever find yourself spiraling over a text, freezing in conflict, or walking on eggshells with a partner or boss? You're not overreacting. You're not crazy. You're just dysregulated—and your nervous system is trying to protect you the only way it knows how. In this solo episode, Tara breaks down: What nervous system dysregulation actually is The 4 trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn Ho...

What happens when a man finally decides to stop running from his pain—and starts getting honest about his patterns? In this guest episode, I sit down with Ryan O'Keefe, a 7-figure entrepreneur and father who's spent the last several years doing deep emotional healing work. From father wounds and failed relationships to confronting his own emotional immaturity, Ryan shares what it really takes for...

Dating after divorce is a special kind of WTF. If you've ever been love-bombed, ghosted, or caught in an emotional tornado, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down the mind games, the attachment styles at play, and how to avoid falling into the same dumpster fire of situationships over and over again.   What You'll Learn: Why dating after divorce can feel like an emotional rollercoast...

Dating after divorce is like walking through a minefield blindfolded—with a bunch of people telling you what you should be doing while they're also clueless. If you're tired of the ghosting, the red flags, and the never-ending cycle of swiping with zero results, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn: Why dating apps feel like a dumpster fire—and how to avoid the worst of it How self-awareness...

What do you do when you want to move forward in your relationship, but resentment and old wounds keep pulling you back? In this episode, we dive into a powerful listener-submitted question about forgiveness, healing from past relationship trauma, and the emotional baggage that keeps us stuck. Brittany, a listener, shares her struggle with resentment, unprocessed pain, and the difficulty of letting...

Going through a divorce is one thing—learning how to heal, co-parent, and rebuild your life is another. In this episode, one of the Unblock Your BS Listeners, Stephanie, and I dive into what it really looks like to start over after divorce. She shares her journey of navigating emotional triggers, creating stability for her kids, and how self-awareness changed everything for her post-divorce. If yo...

What does it really mean to start over after a 21-year marriage ends? In this raw, heartfelt conversation, Joe shares his journey through separation, loneliness, and rediscovering himself as a single dad. From redefining traditions on Christmas Day alone to battling the silence of an empty house, Joe opens up about the real struggles men face post-divorce—struggles that often go unheard. We dive d...

What if the reason you can't "just move on" isn't because you're broken—it's because your body is still holding on to the pain? In this episode, I sit down with my best friend, Victoria, a fellow Somatic Release Breathwork Practitioner, to dive into how heartbreak and trauma actually get stuck in your nervous system—and how breathwork became the missing piece that finally set her free after years...

🚨 What if the way you BREATHE is keeping you stuck? 🚨 What if I told you that your breath—the thing you do 20,000 times a day—is the most powerful, untapped tool you have for rewiring your nervous system, releasing trauma, and shifting your mental state instantly? In today's episode, I sit down with breathwork and cold exposure coach Steven Roccazzella of Ice Life TN —a former law enforcement of...

Relationships can feel like a constant push and pull — who leads, who nurtures, and how do we find balance?  So many of us struggle with the tension between independence and vulnerability, strength and softness, logic and emotion. Whether you're someone who's been told you're "too much" or you feel lost in today's shifting gender roles, this conversation will help you understand why we show up the...

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern, wondering why you're drawn to the same types of relationships or struggling to make meaningful connections?  This episode dives into the roots of those patterns.. spoiler alert, it often starts in childhood! In this episode, Tara sits down with Brian, a listener who reached out for a coaching session. Brian, in his late 40s and living in a small tow...

This episode is part of Tara's Unblock Unplugged series — where she shares more spontaneous, unscripted thoughts that come in the moment. Just imagine you and Tara catching up and talking about life! Tara explores the complex feelings of loneliness, especially as it relates to being single, divorced, or isolated. Many people can relate to the struggles of longing for deeper connections and questio...

Navigating the ups and downs of relationships can be one of life's toughest challenges, especially when trust is broken. In this episode, we're diving deep into the raw emotions, tough decisions, and personal growth that come with healing from betrayal, working through trauma, and finding clarity in the midst of chaos. Today's guest, "Lucy" (a pseudonym to protect her privacy), is a Self Aware Arm...

Divorce is rarely black and white, and relationships are a two-way street.  Navigating the end of a marriage isn't something most people talk about openly. It's messy, emotional, and filled with moments of feeling stuck, resentful, or just plain unsure of what to do next.  In this episode, Tara opens up about her personal experience with divorce, sharing the lessons she learned about taking respon...

Tara's recent post on TikTok about slow burn relationships versus love bombing has received tens of thousands of views and comments, so today, she will dive deeper into this topic. Understanding relationship dynamics, particularly the differences between slow burn relationships and love bombing, is so important because many people are navigating the dating scene without a clear understanding of wh...

Life can be tough and messy, filled with ups and downs that test your strength. But through sharing our stories, we find connection and hope.  In this episode, we're talking about vulnerability, the challenges relationships bring, and how self-acceptance can change everything.  Tara welcomes her very first client, Matthew Hess, who bravely opens up about his journey of change after a difficult div...