Unblock Your BS

Joey didn't walk into this expecting anything emotional. He thought he'd get a tactic. Maybe a business insight. Something useful he could apply. Instead, he ended up face to face with something he hadn't fully processed in years. His mom. She passed away when he was 23. He's 48 now. And somewhere along the way, without really realizing it, he'd been trying to recreate that connection. In relation...

This episode is what transformation actually sounds like in real time. Not polished. Not filtered. Not "I've got it all figured out." Just honest. Glenn came into Healthy Men-tality in the middle of a brutal divorce after a 20+ year marriage that had slowly turned into disconnection, resentment, and survival mode. What he didn't realize at the time? He wasn't just leaving a relationship. He was le...

You're successful… so why is your relationship falling apart? If you feel respected, valued, and confident in your career but disconnected, criticized, or unwanted at home… This episode will explain why. Inside this conversation, we break down the real root of "roommate marriages", and why traditional advice doesn't work What You'll Learn: Why your brain is wired to chase achievement over connecti...

She said she was done. No real explanation. Just "I'm unhappy." And everything Skippy thought was stable... wasn't. In this episode, Tara sits down with Healthy Men-tality member Skippy to talk through what the early stages of separation actually looked like, and how he went from full panic mode to something he hadn't felt in years: clarity. In this episode: Why trying harder often makes things wo...

There's a moment when everything you thought was stable… isn't. Not slowly. Not with warning. Just… gone! That's where this conversation starts. Bill was married for 16 years. He thought they had normal problems. Manageable ones. Then one conversation changed everything. His wife asked for a divorce… and he found out she had already moved on. In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with lis...

If your partner is constantly sending you relationship content… and your first instinct is to feel annoyed, confused, or defensive… This episode is going to challenge that. Because what looks like a "TikTok problem"… is usually a communication and emotional safety problem. Inside this solo episode, we break down what's actually happening when someone avoids direct communication, and how your respo...

Most people don't go into marriage expecting it to end. And when it does… they don't have a roadmap. If you're a man facing divorce, you've probably heard the same story on repeat: You'll lose your money. You'll lose your kids. The system is rigged against you. But what if most of that is just noise? In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation...

At 25, Coleman was cheating on his wife, chronically lying, and living in constant fight-or-flight. He didn't just lose his marriage. He realized he didn't like who he had become. This episode is the raw, unfiltered story of what it actually takes to change,  not through mindset hacks, but through nervous system healing. From rock bottom… to somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, breathwork, an...

Some moments in life split your story into two chapters: Before. And after. For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair. After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight. His nervous system spiraled. His identity shattered. And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly. But that breakdown became the b...

Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn't even realize we were living inside of. In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relationship coach Erica Wright to unpack the deeper dynamics that show up in relationships, especially after betrayal, divorce, or emotional disconnection. The conversation explores how codependency develops, why people often ignore their intuition in rela...

Divorce is messy. It's grief. It's a relief. It's rage. It's freedom. Sometimes all in the same week. In this solo episode, I break down what really happens after divorce, especially for the men I work with inside Healthy Men-tality. The bitterness. The bargaining. The shame spiral. The temptation to jump into something new just to avoid being alone. And here's the bold truth: Dating while you're...

You're good teammates. Good parents. But behind closed doors? Something's missing. The spark. The fire. The "I can't wait to touch you" energy. Most couples don't talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it. In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what's really underneath the roommate marriage phase  and why trying to "get more sex" is oft...

Two D' Days.  That's what Clayton calls them. The day he discovered the sexual affair. And the day he found out it wasn't the only one. She cheated. Twice. When he found out about the affairs, his reality shattered. He stopped functioning. Sat on the couch. Scrolled TikTok for answers. Six months later? His marriage is still rocky. But he's calm. Clear. Grounded. And not afraid anymore. In this ep...

You finally decided to do the work. You're learning about nervous system regulation. You're reflecting on your patterns. You're trying to show up differently. And instead of relief… She says: "Why now?" "I've been asking for this for years." In this episode, Tara breaks down: Why resentment often shows up when growth begins What emotional shutdown in women actually means Why your healing doesn't a...

If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, "Why does this keep happening?" This episode is for you. In today's conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn't confidence or self-advocacy… it's a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring . We're unpacking: Why y...

When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual "unprecedented times" stuff), you learn real fast what "emotional safety" actually means. And here's the thing: emotional safety has become a buzzword. A lot of women use it. A lot of men hear it and instantly translate it as physical safety. "I've never hit her." "I don't scream." "I would nev...

Wayne is separated from his wife of 30 years and after starting therapy, he's realizing something that hits a lot of men like a truck: He spent decades hiding emotions to keep the peace… until his body couldn't do it anymore. In this coaching episode, we talk about emotional shutdown, suppressed rage, and why Wayne mostly feels anger and barely joy with almost nothing in between. We break down wha...

He came home from an AA meeting. The kids were gone. His wife was gone. Divorce papers were sitting on the counter. And that was just the beginning. In today's coaching episode, I'm talking with Onus bout what happens when: your nervous system lives on high alert, being misunderstood feels like a threat, anger shows up before vulnerability, and your relationships become a constant attempt to "earn...

When your partner is "mad," most people react like anger is the problem. It's not. Anger is usually protection and what's underneath it is what actually needs care, leadership, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, I'm going to break down what happens when men outsource emotional labor to women, why women's hormones can amplify stress without either partner realizing what's happening, and h...

You can know all the nervous system language, do the breathwork, read the books, got therapy… and still find yourself lying awake at 3 a.m. replaying every conversation with your partner (past or present), wondering why you STILL feel like a failure. In today's episode, I coach Autumn - a recently divorced listener to the pod - through the question that's been running her entire life since childho...

When you're going through a separation or divorce, the holiday season doesn't feel magical… it feels like a spotlight on everything that's changed. Waking up in a quiet house… splitting time with your kids for the first time… trying to act "fine" while everyone around you is celebrating,  it can make even the strongest men feel cracked open. In this episode, I share what no one prepares you for du...

When Brian joined Healthy Men-tality, his marriage was on life support. He was desperate to fix the cracks that had formed after trust was broken but what he discovered was that the real repair had to start within himself. In this raw, powerful conversation, Brian shares how learning nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and inner healing shifted him from people-pleasing and fear of abandon...

Men: if you're exhausted trying to "be enough" and fix everything at home, this episode shows how to stop self-abandoning, regulate, and lead yourself so connection actually grows (instead of resentment). In this coaching episode, we unpack the real reason many men feel "not good enough" and why trying to manage your partner's emotions keeps you stuck. You'll learn how codependency forms, why her...

If you've ever been praised at work and lost at home, you're not alone. My good friend and guest on today's episode is Paul Coleman, who thought "providing" was enough for his family… until conflicts, distance, and a daughter's simple note exposed the truth: true connection with loved ones was a skill and he was lacking in it. Paul is a former professional athlete and top 1% California real estate...

Modern dating is a minefield of mixed signals, ghosting, and people saying they want "real connection" while avoiding the real work it takes to build one. But what if the chaos wasn't a punishment - what if it's a mirror? In this episode, two men pull back the curtain on how to date with radical transparency and integrity in a world full of band-aids and quick fixes. Chris Bates, Dating Coach for...