Two Therapists Talking

David & Sherie talk about trust as the foundation and begin a conversation about some of the healthier ways to show up in our relationships.

David & Sherie finish answering a question about how addiction progresses and how it survives, and how we might see this differently in ways that can help them and the relationshp move forward.

David & Sherie address an issue a listener enquired about - how porn or addiction progresses and if we would speak to that. We begin to explore this issue and agree that it does progress, but there's a lot of nuance. Part 1 of 2.

David & Sherie talk about the four things that really hurt relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Learn more about what those things are, how they show up, and why we want to avoid them!

David & Sherie finish talked about mourning and grieving by talking about healthy and unhealthy depression and acceptance, the final two stages in the traditional process of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance.

David & Sherie continue talking about grieving in healthy ways, covering anger and bargaining. We will continue to talk about depression and acceptance in future episodes!

David & Sherie begin talking about grieving and how to do it well, or how to release and move through it sooner or more effectively. This will begin a series of episodes following the well know DABDA model of grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

David & Sherie finish talking about borderline and what to do to help and encourage someone struggling with it.

David & Sherie start to talk about another important relationship dynamic that might include borderline personality disorder, referred to simply as borderline. What does it look like, what's behind it, and eventually, what can we do with it?

David & Sherie finish talking about the equation for sobriety by finishing the final items: sobriety = self-worth + overcoming addiction enabling patterns + motivation + tools + accountability + consequences. Discover what's missing in order to better establish and maintain sobriety in your life!

David & Sherie talk about what the actual equation is for sobriety and more about each item. Sobriety = self-worth + overcoming addiction enabling patterns + motivation + tools + accountability + consequences. We begin to go into each one of these to help you discover what's missing for you if you're not sober!

David & Sherie begin talking about sobriety and what it is, and how it's the beginning of the recovery process. We talk about what it is and what it isn't, what white knuckling is and begin a conversation on how to get sober long-term.

David & Sherie talk about creating a marriage contract that helps guide the relationship and teaches both partners about the needs of their spouse. Good for rebuilding as well as starting at the beginning!

David & Sherie talk about how trust and safety in the relationship isn't all or nothing, and this can actually hinder recovery, reconciliation and healing. What are the different levels and how can we think about this? This episode will help with this concept.

David & Sherie finish talking about steps to come out of victimhood including personal safety versus relationship safety and finding ultimate meaning from hard things that have happened in the relationship.

David & Sherie talk about specific steps to take in order to come out of victimhood and into a healthier, better place. This includes having empathy and differentiating between unwilling and unable and other helpful tools. This is part 1 of 2 to finish our series on victimhood.

David & Sherie start to talk about how to make meaning out of meaning and how to use this to move from victim to survivor to creator. We also recommend the book The Choice by Edith Eger and how to create positive meaning from negative experiences.

David & Sherie continue talking about the negatives of being in a victim stance or remaining in victimhood. We will then follow up on what to do about it!

David & Sherie talk about the downsides of being in victimhood and why it's not what it's cracked up to be. This is the first part of two episodes.

David & Sherie talk about what victimhood is and how to know if you or someone else might be in it, or what characteristics define being in a victim stance. This comes before we talk about why it can be so dangerous to growth.

David and Sherie begin a conversation about victimhood, and how to avoid being in victimhood despite being a legitimate victim of betrayal or other situation.

David & Sherie review some ways to deal with being in a relationship with someone who is NPD using BIFF (brief, informative, friendly, and firm) and other techniques.

David & Sherie talk about aspects of the NPD cycle, or how they engage with other people. This will help you to recognize even more if you're caught in these patterns.

David & Sherie talk now about how to deal with people who struggle with narcissism and how to try to manage through challenging relationships.

David & Sherie continue talking about narcissism and different classifications or manifestations of it and what it means in relationships.