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Today I am starting a new series called Every Day Kinksters. The idea is to interview regular, everyday people, either from Fetlife or wherever, and ask them about their journey - because we all have a story to tell! Today’s episode came about because I was talking to one of my classmates, Will Denison, and he casually mentioned he used to do live sex shows… so of course I stopped him right there,...

Recently I’ve had quite a few DM’s from subs who are new to kink, but are unsure on how to find a good Dominant partner, and how to stay safe in general. So, I figured this would be a great topic for this week’s podcast! First of all, if you are a sub and you’re just starting out on your kink journey, well done!!! This is an amazing world, and you are going to learn and experience so much more tha...

This week it was my absolute pleasure to speak with artist, kinkster and fet!sh photographer KinkyLens ! I know many of you enjoy taking sexy photos of your kinky explorations, and this episode is packed with tips and advice for capturing those magic moments on camera. Len speaks about his experiences, including what it’s like to photograph couples having sx! He shares about his journey in k!nk, b...

This question brings up a lot of feelings for the best of us. Maybe the thought of your partner fantasising about someone else feels really icky for you? Or maybe you are like me, and you need to have all sorts of fantasies during sex, but you feel guilty about it, like you’re disconnecting from your partner?  In this episode we will discuss the role of fantasy during sex, and hopefully disarm som...

There are many things in life we’d like to happen quickly. The 3 minute planking part of your workout, waiting for the microwave countdown timer, or the last hour of the work day when your partner just texted you an eggplant emoji…  Unfortunately, sex usually isn’t one of them. Today’s episode is all about Premature Ejaculation; what it is, and what you can do about it.  I was lucky enough to have...

There are lots of reasons we keep our kinky lives a secret. For some of us, secrecy is part of the fun! For others, it might be about privacy. But for lots of us, we keep this stuff secret because we are afraid of what others might think, if they knew the truth about us.  This creates a source of shame, and leaves us feeling like we have to hide a part of ourselves in order to feel accepted.  I re...

Not everyone is super well matched in the bedroom. You might be an amazing couple, but when it comes to sex you’re just not really compatible. This is the case for a lot of long term couples, but it doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, or that you have to sacrifice a fulfilling sex life.   While there are lots of things couples can do to improve their sexual compatibility, outsou...

Most of us have grown up in a culture where monogamy is the norm. If you enter a relationship it is pretty much expected that you will be monogamous. But times are changing, and alternative relationship styles like polyamory and open relationships are becoming more popular, and more and more people are becoming more curious about them.  I wanted to do an episode specifically about open relationshi...

Happy new year! If you are wanting to have an exciting year of kinky experiences, it’s likely you might need to do some vetting.  So what is vetting? And how do we do it well?  Personally, my vetting process could use an update, so I did some research and found my top 10 questions I will be using to vet potential new play partners. (Honestly, I wish I’d known about these years ago). Each person&ap...

Today we are doing a deep dive into Age Play! I was lucky enough to sit down with Bear, a kinkster from Perth, Western Australia, who is very active in the age play scene over there.  Bear is extremely passionate about this space, as you will be able to tell in the interview. He is a little himself, and he also runs workshops and has recently opened up his own physical store Kelmscott, specialisin...

Last night I got to experience something I’ve been wanting to try for a long time - I got to go into my friend's pool and be tied up in ropes!  If this sounds super dangerous, that’s because it is! But with careful planning, the right people and knowing your own limits, it is possible to have these experiences in a relatively safe way.  In this episode I take you through each step of my first...

Are you curious about the darker, more extreme or taboo side of kink? I know I certainly am! In this episode we are taking a deep dive into CNC and Abduction play.  I was fortunate enough to interview a Fetlifer who goes by the name of Cruciator. Cruciator has decades of experience in kink, and specializes in abduction play and multi day scenes.   Although Cruciator clearly has a wealth of knowled...

Most kinksters (myself included) struggle with shame. One of the reasons for experiencing shame is because what turns us on is often in opposition to our personal values.  For example, you might identify as a feminist, and the idea of a dominant / submissive relationship might feel wrong to you - yet for some reason these dynamics turn you on.  Or maybe you feel strongly about treating all people...

It’s all well and good if you are into romance and passion - you know, the kind of sex you see in the movies - but what if you're not? What if you don’t fit the mould of socially sanctioned sex? Well many kinksters don’t, and that can lead to feelings of shame, guilt and being abnormal.  Although only one very narrow type of sex is usually ever represented in film and TV, the Three Dimensions...

You are such a good girl / boy. Well done for clicking on this podcast. I’m so proud of you for being curious and wanting to explore kink! In this episode we are talking about praise kink. This has been blowing up on TikTok lately and I thought it would be a fun topic to explore on the show. I discuss what praise kink is, what it looks like and how it might bring more confidence to your sex life! ...

What is Sleep Play? Well, Sleep Play is a kink where one person is asleep (or pretending to be asleep) while the other person engages in sexual activity with them.  For some people, this sounds super creepy! But for others, there are lots of great reasons why Sleep Play can be a fantastic turn on!  In this episode we will discuss how Sleep Play may look very different for different people, as well...

Have you ever found it challenging to utter that two-letter word, "no"?  In this episode, I discuss the reasons why saying "no" can be an uphill battle for so many people. I also explore the important role personal boundaries play in nurturing not only your self-worth but also the health of your relationships. I will give you five of my personal favorite strategies to make sayi...

Collars carry a lot of meaning within the BDSM community, and that meaning can be very different depending on the person. I asked the community on Fetlife to tell me what collars mean to them - and I got some wonderful responses which I share in today's discussion. From a simple fashion accessory, to a way to shift into a submissive headspace, to a symbol of the D/s dynamic - collars can mean...

‘Free use’ is a kink that has been getting a fair bit of attention on TikTok lately - which is causing a lot of people to feel curious about what it means, and others to feel concerned about why anyone would want to play like this. In this episode, I provide some answers about the many faces of Free Use. Like lots of kinks, there are many ways to experiment with and enjoy this kink, and this may l...

Did you know, the threesome is the most common sexual fantasy, across different genders and sexual orientations? Rarely is anything to do with what turns us on, ever so universal…so let’s talk about that. In this episode I give a real-life account of my recent threesome experience. I share openly about everything from asking the right person, identifying potential triggers, getting in the right he...

I get a lot of great questions in my inbox, so I thought it was about time I did a Q&A episode on this podcast. Today I discuss some of the most common kinky questions I get asked, from how to establish boundaries, how to communicate your desires with your partner, where to get started with objectification, as well as lots more!  If you have a question you’d like me to answer either privately...

There are a lot of misconceptions around D/s relationships, which on the surface can look as though they are perpetuating a culture of misogyny. This however, is not the case. In this episode, we dive a little deeper into the dynamics of healthy BDSM relationships, and discuss how they in fact, align with feminist values.  If you, like many submissive women (and dominant men) ever feel conflicted...

This week I tried being a cam girl! If you’re curious to know what it’s like to get naked on a livestream then you will love this episode!  I am all about living by my values of sex positivity, body confidence, challenging social stigma, and freedom of sexual expression. Camming to me, felt like a way to fully exemplify those values. That said, it wasn’t all smooth sailing, and the whole experienc...

This week's episode is all about making things happen! No more “someday” goals people, I want you to pick a date, make a plan, and start living your best sex life!  Don’t worry, I’m going to be right there alongside you. To get you motivated, I have set my own kink goal, and over the course of the next few months. On this podcast, I’ll be sharing each step of my journey, so you can see how it...

It might all look happy and confident on the surface, but the reality is, social media (including Fetlife!) isn’t the best place for our self esteem. I’m not telling anyone to stop using these platforms - I actually think they do a lot of good as well, but when scrolling your feed, it’s important to be aware of how it’s affecting you.  In this episode I talk about the 3 most common pitfalls we all...