Turns Out I'm Into It!

What’s the difference between degradation and humiliation? While these kinks often get grouped together, they actually tap into very different emotional experiences. In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores: the difference between degradation and humiliation play why these dynamics can feel so intensely erotic how old emotional experiences can sometimes shape our fantasies why consensual kink can f...

Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one.  Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and...

This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including...

Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen...

Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring...

Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surp...

Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually...

Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast , from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language...

This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, s...

In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I cou...

I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble.  This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. W...

For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big sc...

Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of th...

If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home. Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go . We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who...

It’s officially December, which means two things: Christmas chaos is upon us, and I am absolutely going to find ways to make it kinky. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, an...

Hey friends, Harley here! This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica . From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise. In this episode, I explore: The surprising origins of tentacle erotica in Japanese shunga art How censors...

Hey friends, it's Harley here. In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur , the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality. Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong s...

In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei , one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu . Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong. In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-tea...

Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt? In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender. I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of...

This week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1 , a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville. Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope. We explore: Slade's lessons in pe...

We did it! Turns Out I’m Into It has officially hit 100 episodes .  This week isn’t just about celebrating the podcast milestone, it’s about celebrating you and everything you’ve achieved in your kinky journey so far. From building the courage to reach out to new partners, to finding your voice around desires and boundaries, to embracing your kinks without shame—these are massive wins, and today w...

When most people hear roleplay , they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom! But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level...

In last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices. Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is m...

Ever met someone in the kink scene who acts like they invented BDSM? Yeah… those are the kink police. 🙄 In this episode, I’m breaking down elitism, rope snobbery, and why anyone telling you there’s a “right” way to do kink is full of it. We’ll talk about: Why your kinky journey is 100% your own The difference between confidence and ego How to spot predators who isolate newbies (major red flag ale...

This week, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my journey — from being a guitar-obsessed, heavy metal teenager to chasing a music career, and eventually finding my way into sexology. On paper, those two worlds couldn’t be more different… but in this episode, I share why they’re deeply connected for me. I talk about the moments that made music feel like my safe place, the way eroticism reaches the...