Turns Out I'm Into It!

Ever wondered what makes a great flogger—and how to actually use one? In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by local kink maker Chainwire , the man behind Hurty World’s handcrafted floggers, to explore the artistry, technique, and sensation behind one of kink’s most versatile toys. We dive into: The craftsmanship of floggers —from leather selection to balance and weight What to loo...

Welcome to Turns Out I’m Into It . In this unforgettable episode, I’m joined by special guest Cruciator to explore one of the kink world’s most taboo topics: fear play. Cruciator has been active in the BDSM community since 1992 and is the owner of Fetlife’s Fear Play group. With decades of experience conducting high-intensity scenes—including multi-day abductions—he brings a grounded, thoughtful a...

In this extra juicy episode, I am joined by sex and intimacy coach Sam Charles for a very hands-on dirty talk masterclass. What starts as a playful lesson turns into a real-life demonstration of navigating boundaries, expressing desire, and negotiating a spicy scene in real time. I open up about my own edges when it comes to using words during sex, and Sam creates a beautifully safe space to explo...

In this episode, I’m sharing some honest reflections from my recent trip to Brisbane—where I pushed through some big travel anxiety to have one of my favourite rope scenes yet. I open up about what it’s like to manage anxiety while trying to do the things you really want to do, and how I’m learning to meet that part of myself with more compassion. I also talk about the rope scene I did with Deadma...

What if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes? In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink : attunement . We explore: 🔹 What attunement is  🔹 How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others  🔹 Why attunement is crucial for both Doms...

I’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded… a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible!  In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash....

In this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next. You’ll hear about: The beau...

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined once again by the incredible DaddaG—event organiser behind KangaCon and long-time member of the ABDL community. With over 20 years of experience as both a diaper lover and caregiver, DaddaG brings a deep, compassionate perspective to the world of age play. We explore: 🔹 Different age play roles – AB, DL, Daddy, and switching  🔹 Consent, bound...

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by Deadmaxis and Aura Grey—partners in life, kink, and the art of rope. Known for their stunning suspension performances at events like Hardbeat Byron and Berlin’s Dark Circus, this couple brings over a decade of love and a deep connection to their rope journey. We explore: 🔹 How they went from a vanilla marriage to exploring kink together  🔹...

What happens when your birthday brings up more than cake and candles? In this raw and personal episode, Harley opens up about what it’s like to navigate aging as a sexual woman in a culture obsessed with youth. From noticing lines in the mirror to feeling like time is running out for certain fantasies, this episode is a vulnerable look at the internal stories we carry—and how kink can help us rewr...

In this episode, I explore the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity—and why I’m tired of pretending that being attracted to masculine men is something to be ashamed of. Inspired by a scene in Beastars (an anime on Netflix) , I unpack what it means to celebrate masculine power without excusing harm. We talk about violence, tenderness, emotional maturity, and why the sexiest men are...

Do you ever feel like your body just isn’t showing up for sex—even when your mind is totally on board? Maybe you want to feel turned on, but nothing’s happening down there. Or maybe you feel ashamed, confused, or frustrated when your desire doesn’t match what your partner (or you!) expect. In this episode, Harley Rabbit introduces the dual control model , a powerful framework from the world of sex...

Ever felt too self-conscious to fully enjoy sex? Maybe you struggle to switch off from life stress, or you find yourself stuck in your head during intimate moments. In this episode, Harley Rabbit shares a powerful technique for breaking free from insecurity and fully immersing yourself in pleasure—by stepping into a kink persona. A kink persona isn’t just roleplay—it’s a way to tap into different...

When you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control? In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whet...

Have you ever wondered if you're kinky enough to belong in the kink community? Maybe you feel like you don’t fit the stereotypical Dominant/submissive (D/s) mold or that your desires aren’t “intense” enough to count. In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the many ways people explore kink—whether through full-time dynamics, occasional play, private fantasies, or even solo experiences. Kink...

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by the incredible Miss Gen —Shibari educator, performer, and rope sadist. As head of Evil Girls HQ in Brisbane and a Shihan (Master Instructor) in Kazami Ryu Shibari , she has 25+ years of experience training with top rope masters and performing in Japan.  We explore: 🔹 Miss Gen’s journey into rope – From self-tying as a child to discovering h...

Most people don’t realise just how much gender shapes the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re leaning into traditional roles—like masculine dominance and feminine submission—or subverting them entirely, gender dynamics influence kink in ways we often don’t even notice. In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, we dive into: 🔹 How gender roles show up in BDSM 🔹 Masculine dominance vs. feminine sub...

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by the incredible Shelby Devlin , a sex and intimacy coach with nearly a decade of experience specializing in BDSM and kink. With a master's degree in sexuality studies and a role as an advanced instructor at the Somatica Institute , Shelby brings a wealth of knowledge to our conversation. We dive into two powerful topics: 🔹 Religious sha...

Sharing your sexual fantasies with a partner can feel incredibly vulnerable... maybe even terrifying! In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives deep into why it’s so hard to open up about our desires and offers practical, no-pressure strategies to help you navigate these conversations with confidence and curiosity. Whether you're hoping to act on your fantasies or simply share them for deeper inti...

Episode Summary: In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , Harley Rabbit dives deep into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies, exploring why so many of us feel shame about them and how science challenges the idea of “normal” fantasies. Harley breaks down a landmark study, “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?” , which surveyed over 1,500 people to determine which fantasies are rare, un...

It’s time to add a little extra joy to your holiday season! In this special Christmas episode, I’m joined by the fabulous Wendy Setless , a Somatica-trained sexual health, pleasure, and relationship coach, and the resident sexologist at her local adult store. Wendy brings her infectious enthusiasm and deep knowledge to help us navigate the world of adult toys—from vibrators and strokers to kegel b...

In this week’s episode, Harley Rabbit takes a deep dive into the world of sexual fantasies and reveals one of her most provocative ones—a cock worship scenario rooted in her submissive desires. Harley discusses how fantasies can unlock deeper arousal, help you connect with your core desires, and transform your sex life—whether you're indulging solo or with a partner. She explores why fantasis...

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , Harley Rabbit takes on some of the most stubborn myths and misconceptions about women’s sexuality. Whether you’re a woman navigating these expectations or a man eager to understand your partner better, this episode is for you. Harley shares her personal experiences and insights from studying sexology, conversations with clients and friends, and challenges...

In this empowering episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the topic of sex positivity and overcoming shame around sexuality. Sharing personal stories, including a formative memory from high school and a transformative recent experience in a burlesque dance class, Harley explores how societal messages shape our views on expressing sexuality. Harley reflects on reclaiming self-confidence and finding perm...

In this episode, Harley Rabbit opens up about finally getting her first tattoo—a significant milestone that stirred up childhood memories and beliefs. Harley reflects on how her journey into kink and pain play has reshaped her understanding of resilience, pain, and bravery. Sharing stories about childhood fears, needle phobias, and reclaiming agency through kink, Harley discusses how these experie...