Turns Out I'm Into It!

In this episode, Harley dives into a fun yet insightful analysis of three popular love songs that might make you rethink your playlist: I Lose Control by Teddy Swims, Elastic Heart by Sia, and Grenade by Bruno Mars. Taking on the role of a relationship coach, Harley imagines these song lyrics as if they were clients sitting in a therapy session, sharing their romantic struggles. Harley explores ho...

CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) is often discussed from a woman’s perspective, but what about men? In this episode, I’m joined by Dotch, a Somatica® practitioner who once saw CNC as a hard limit but has since learned to enjoy facilitating these fantasies. Dotch shares his journey, from initial discomfort to embracing CNC in a way that feels safer, consensual, and exciting. We discuss the challenges m...

In this episode, Harley Rabbit delves into the concept of intimacy within the kink and BDSM communities, challenging common misconceptions that equate kink with violence and degradation. Harley emphasizes that true intimacy in kink is built on trust, vulnerability, and open communication. The discussion explores various forms of intimacy that can arise in kink, including the exploration of persona...

I got up to some exciting kinky shenanigans this weekend and I can’t wait to share! Slade and I did our most elaborate roleplay yet, which was a CNC schoolgirl fantasy. This has been a fantasy of mine for a long time, and was also my first time exploring middlespace. In this episode I share the details of the roleplay and what I learned, as well as how it felt to explore a more complicated for of...

In this episode, I talk with Jeanne Baade, a sex and relationship coach who discovered her sexuality later in life after growing up in a conservative christian household. Jeanne shares how she first experienced a clitoral orgasm at 48, and her journey into kink and BDSM. We explore simple ways for beginners to dip their toe into BDSM, like using blindfolds, scarves and rope harnesses to build trus...

In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that might not be the sexiest, but it’s crucial for anyone exploring their sexuality, especially in non-monogamous relationships. I’m joined by Dr. Sara Whitburn, a General Practitioner specialising in sexual health and the Deputy Medical Director at Sexual Health Victoria, to tackle all the awkward questions about STIs. We’ll be covering what you need to...

One of the most common challenges people experience in their sex life is issues with libido. Whether it's a mismatch with their partner's libido or a sudden drop-off, these issues can be frustrating and confusing. In today's episode, I introduce a controversial exercise called “Keeping Your Pilot Light On.” This exercise focuses on finding ways to comfortably tap into your arousal i...

Get ready for part 2 of our conversation about men’s profiles on Fetlife. If you're a man on Fetlife struggling to represent yourself authentically, these episodes provide invaluable tips and advice on how to do just that.  In today’s episode, Slade shares how he implemented the changes we discussed last week, including doing his first writing, updating and refining his bio, and being more in...

Ok guys, if you're on Fetlife and not having much luck with the ladies… How much effort have you really put into your profile? Be honest! In this episode, I'm joined by my Dom and long-term partner, Slade, as we dive into men's profiles. Slade himself is guilty of not keeping his profile updated, and like many men, has a lot more to offer than his current profile showcases. Together...

If you are interested in rope bondage, you need to listen to this episode! Ravel is an experienced rigger from Brisbane Australia, who understands that rope is so much more than just technical skill. With a background in theatre, dance and performing arts, Ravel talks about bringing intention to your rope scenes - that is, knowing what kind of experience and emotions you are wanting to cultivate,...

I know this is an experience on a lot of people’s ‘Fuckit lists’ so I thought I’d share some details that might help you in organising a similar experience... 🌶 In this episode I start by talking about the planning process, recognising agency, and some key factors that helped me transition into the right headspace for kinky play. I also share about what it’s like to include a CNC / free use type o...

I am super excited to have the incredible Chained Valkyrie on the show today. Valkyrie identifies as a pleasure sub, and as you’ll find out, there are many different kinks she enjoyed as part of her submissive identity. These include Impact, pet play, ABDL, degradation, and many more. We also cover the use of intermediate safewords, comparing yourself to others in kink, as well as the good and bad...

What the hell is “fawning” and what does it have to do with kink? Well, that’s exactly what we are talking about on today’s episode. If you are someone who struggles with people pleasing to the point of crossing your own boundaries, this episode may be especially relevant to you. Also in this episode I share my recent experiences joining a yoga studio to improve core strength and flexibility for m...

I have an exciting guest for you today. She is another friend from my Somatica course and her name is Jessica Langley. Jessica is a somatic sexologist, based in Colorado and she is dedicated to liberating humans from toxic shame and helping people live more authentic lives. She believes that embodied pleasure is a birthright, and she can help you reclaim your sacred eroticism. Jessica is queer and...

In this week's episode I reflect on the responses I got from speaking out in episode #54. I am so grateful to everyone who has reached out to me, shared their stories, or told me the episode had an impact on them. I was very nervous about how the episode would be received and this really goes to show that most people in this community are good humans!  Also in this episode I reveal some of my...

Setting boundaries might seem straightforward, but it’s often challenging to recognise and communicate them, especially in the context of kink. This week's episode dives into the complexities of identifying and asserting your boundaries, with a particular focus on the struggles faced by those with anxiety who may have become adept at ignoring their body’s warning signals. I share insights fro...

This week’s podcast was the hardest I’ve ever recorded. It’s easy to share the positive aspects of kink—the great experiences and the joys of exploration. What’s hard is sharing the negative experiences. It would have been much easier to keep this private, but my podcast is about sharing my kink journey openly and honestly. I can't do that if I’m only highlighting the good parts. In this epis...

In this episode, I dive into a recent adventure that took me to Brisbane, where I explored rope suspension for the first time. While I successfully achieved my suspension goals, it was the floor rope scenes with a talented rigger named Ravel (@ravel_shibari on Instagram) that truly transformed my perspective on rope. Join me as I share about these floor scenes, revealing what they looked like, how...

Welcome to the next instalment of our Everyday Kinkster series. In today’s episode I have a chat with Alisa Milard. Alisa is studying at Somatica Institute with me, and she has also just started her practice at Intimacy Illumination as a somatic sex and relationship coach.  Alisa shares all about her kink journey, beginning with what it’s like to be a single female sub navigating this world on you...

I am so excited to dive into this topic today! Most of us learn about blowjobs from porn, which usually shows some very talented actresses and actors taking a lot, very deeply! This is actually pretty hard to do (especially for a long time) and there is no wonder that so many of us think we are bad at giving blowjobs. In this episode I’m going to teach you my biggest secret to giving an insane blo...

Hey friends! Today I am spilling the beads about my plans for a rope trip in Brisbane! Woop Woop! I am doing a rope class with Slade, visiting the Crystal Chateau, and have organised two rope sessions with some amazing riggers! It is super scary to plan scenes, especially with people you don’t know, so that’s why in this episode I walk you through all the steps I took to plan this experience, so y...

Meet the man behind Kangacon - Australia's first Ageplay convention. I had so much fun chatting to DaddaG about his journey as an ABDL and a caregiver. DaddaG is filled with amazing stories about his experiences with other ABDL’s, he also shares about his many trips to CAPCon and TeddyCon in the US, and how these conventions inspired him to start KangaCon in Australia. Tickets to KangaCon are...

Summary: In this episode, Harley Rabbit concludes the mini-series on degradation play, pain play, and taboo kinks by discussing trauma and its relationship to kink. She addresses the misconception that kink is a symptom of trauma and emphasizes that kink is a normal and healthy expression of human sexuality. Harley explores how kink can play a role in alleviating trauma and discusses two pathways...

Summary In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the concept of arousal beyond romance and challenges the idea that love is the sole source of arousal. She introduces the concept of the four emotional aphrodisiacs: closeness, anxiety, guilt, and anger. Harley shares a personal experience of fulfilling a fantasy and discusses a study on peak erotic experiences. She delves into the connection between...

Summary In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the difference between abuse and kink. She shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of agency in kink scenes. Harley discusses how agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations, such as embarrassment, anxiety, and pain. She emphasizes the need for consent, negotiation, and boundaries in kink p...