Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools

 Did you know that God wants to do a miracle in your marriage? But you need to receive it. He is waiting for you to do something that then allows him to bring his miraculous power into your marriage. God has a plan and a will for you and your marriage. This recording will teach you how to invite God to do a miracle in your marriage.  If you found this helpful please like, share, comment,...

Would you like to improve your marriage? You can by using these marriage tips that I have applied from the 7 habits that Steven Covey taught us in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.   Here are the 7 habits: 1. Be proactive 2. Begin with the end in mind 3. Put first things first 4. Think win-win 5. Seek first to understand then to be understood 6. Synergize 7. Sharpen...

What do you think? Do you use the word should in your marriage? In this recording you'll see all the ways we put shoulds on those we love. You'll learn why doing this is so damaging to your marriage and relationships and you'll learn what to say instead!   How do you "should" on your spouse? Please comment below with your favorite way.    Please like, subscribe, share, comment and r...

Do you know how to have unity in your marriage? Unity is critical to the health of your marriage and it's important to learn how to get there. God also wants you to be united in your marriage and he wants to help you and guide you so that you can walk in unity with each other.  The opposite of unity is division and there are many things that try to divide couples, including your kids.  &...

Would you like to learn how to get what you need in your marriage? All of us have needs that we are looking to our spouse to meet. These are things like belonging, respect, intimacy, love, and being made to feel special. But sometimes those needs and wants are not being met. If that's the case in your marriage, how do you get those those things?  In this recording I will share with you the se...

Your marriage can be awesome but it's not now and perhaps you're discouraged and want to give up.  Let me encourage you with some of the lyrics from the song at the end of Lego Movie 2 entitled "Everything's Not Awesome."    Everything's not awesome But that doesn't mean that it's hopeless and bleak  Everything's not awesome But in my heart, I believe (I believe)  We can m...

Are white lies destroying your marriage? One of the things I’ve observed that can be very damaging to a marriage is the habit some have of giving themselves permission to tell “white lies” to their spouse.   Perhaps you have fallen into this trap. I’m not talking about being tactful, polite or choosing your words carefully to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, but about deliberately misle...

Do you know how to grieve and how to help someone who is grieving? If you have lost a loved one, this will give you a roadmap on how to navigate through your grief. The emotions are overwhelming at times and most people I talk to do not know how to deal with them. So instead of processing the sadness and anger in a healthy way, most people either deny, avoid or self medicate. None of these will he...

Do you feel like you and your husband or wife are going in two different directions? The way to change this is to stop and then turn towards your spouse. I know this sounds easy to say, but hard to do. This recording will give you some ideas on how to stop moving away from each other and start moving towards each other.    Please like, subscribe, share, comment and review. Your engagemen...

Do you know how to create a healthy marriage? In this recording I want to teach you what I think is the best way to do that. It starts with realizing that your marriage is a living entity.   Like all living things, it has needs. It needs to be cared for. It needs to be protected. It needs to be fed. It needs to be prioritized. When you care for your marriage it will grow and be healthy....

Does your husband or wife lie to you? Would you like your spouse to tell you the truth? This recording will help you confront him or her about their  lying and create an atmosphere of honesty in your marriage and relationship.  Trust is an essential ingredient in a healthy marriage. Without it, you'll be insecure and find it difficult if not impossible to be intimate emotionally or physi...

Would you like to have a strong marriage that will withstand the storms of life? God tells us how. Husbands are to love their wives and wives are to respect your husbands, See Ephesians 5:33 But what does it mean to respect your husband? What is respect and how do you do that? This recording will give you 12 ways to show respect to your husband that can change the dynamic in your marriage dramatic...

Did you know that one of the main things your wife wants is to feel special? Do you know how to make your wife feel special? She wants to feel that she is the most important person in your life. She wants to feel needed and wanted and appreciated. She wants to feel loved. This recording will give you 7 ways to make her feel special.   If this is helpful, please like, comment, subscribe or sha...

Do you know how to avoid unnecessary conflict in your marriage? Couples often fight over things that are not important. Once the conflict begins, we don't want to lose or back down or let the other person win. So we fight and argue about things that don't matter. You can break this damaging habit with one simple question. Ask yourself, "Would I rather be right or would I rather be happy?"  &n...

It really is possible to date without getting hurt. This recording will teach you how. I used to think that dating was like running through a minefield trying to reach the other side without getting blown up too many times.  The steps you will learn will keep that from happening and instead you'll be able to find God's best for your life.   Here are other episodes on this topic: https://...

Creating win win in your marriage happens when you both want different things but then put those desires aside and seek to create a situation or agreement that both you and your spouse are happy with. If you and the love of your life find yourself on two different pages and can't seem to come to a consensus, this recording will help.  You will learn the steps that will stop you from the win/l...

Has anyone ever said to you, "You just don't get it!"? You may have been listening but you failed to show that you understand what they are saying and what you think they might be feeling.  In this short video, I explain there are three steps to showing someone you understand.  Here are the points I cover:  1. Listen and empathize - Pay attention, focus and think about what the pers...

 Would you like to know how to manage your finances without ruining your marriage? This recording will give you seven easy to follow steps so that you and your spouse can stop fighting about money, agree on your priorities and set up a system that will help you reach your financial goals.   If you need help getting on the same page with your spouse, this video will help: https://youtu.be...

Every marriage needs this. What do you think your marriage needs? Does it need better communication, more affection, more time with each other? While all of these are good things, let me suggest that  every marriage needs a lifeguard!    Recently I signed up to do a triathlon which consisted of a 1100 yard swim in a lake, a 22 mile bike ride and a 6 mile run. On the day of the race,...

Would you like to have a lifelong marriage? I'm sure you are looking for love that lasts so that you can have a lifelong marriage. It starts with making a good choice of who to marry. Here's my story of dating and then trusting God to bring me his best for my wife.    I hope this recording will inspire and help you. If it does, please comment, share, like, subscribe or review.   If...

Would you like to have a lifelong marriage? I'm sure you are looking for love that lasts so that you can have a lifelong marriage. It starts with making a good choice of who to marry. Here's my story of dating and then trusting God to bring me his best for my wife.    I hope this recording will inspire and help you. If it does, please comment, share, like, subscribe or review.   If...

Another very common mistake couples makes is using "You" instead of "I" statements. This short recording will show you how to change that and have productive and healthy conversations that will strengthen you marriage. I look forward to seeing your comments, reviews, likes and shares. Enjoy! For more free marriage resources, go to www.turnitup.coach

How to resolve conflict in your marriage without losing your temper. All marriages have conflicts and challenges. Do you know how to resolve those conflicts?   This recording will give you practical tools to resolve your conflicts without losing your temper and damaging your marriage. You will learn how to set the groundwork first with your husband or wife and then how to bring up an iss...

Jesus is waiting for you to bring him into your marriage. This recording will give you five ways to do that. As you bring Jesus into your marriage, he will bless it and help you be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to see a good marriage get better or to help a marriage that is struggling, invite Jesus to be in it and to heal and strengthen it. This recording will tell you how and g...

Do you feel like giving up on your marriage? Or if you know someone who feels like giving up and ending their marriage, please share this with them.    If you feel like giving up, I understand that things are bad in your marriage and you just can't see how they could possibly get better. Before you walk away and get a divorce, ask yourself two questions:  1. What does God want me to...