Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools

Wait on God or Take Action? 5 Spirit-Led Steps Toward Marriage (Without Forcing It)Join me as I share how I learned to move forward in dating with peace—without striving, panic, or settling—by taking Spirit-led action. In this 4th video of my dating series, I tell the story of how God led me toward my wife, Carrie, including what I sensed the Lord speak to me in Italy, how I began thanking God in...

Dating With Peace: Hearing God’s Voice and Receiving His Best by Faith (4 Takeaways)Join me as I continue my dating series by teaching how faith changes the way you wait, listen, and move forward. God speaks through impressions, thoughts, and scripture, and doubt often blocks hearing God’s voice. During a one-year fast from dating, I asked God if it was His plan for me to marry and sensed God affi...

Dating Feels Like a Minefield? How to Trust God’s Best and Find Peace Before MarriageChristian marriage coach Kelly DuPee explains why he’s teaching on dating: who you marry strongly affects the health of your marriage, so dating requires wisdom and discernment to trust God’s best. He shares how a painful breakup and a friend’s question—“Was she God’s best for you?”—led another friend to challenge...

Dating & Marriage: How I Discerned God’s Best (4 Steps to Trust God While Dating)I share how a friend’s question after a breakup—“Was she God’s best for you?”—completely changed the way I think about dating and discernment. As a Christian marriage coach and pastor who’s been married nearly 39 years, I explain that the purpose of dating isn’t just falling in love, but evaluating whether this is...

Vacation Planning Tips for Couples: How to Have a Great Trip With Your SpouseJoin me as I share practical vacation planning tips to help couples enjoy a successful getaway and avoid the stress that can create conflict in marriage. I emphasize planning logistics and details together, talking through what each spouse wants, and preventing predictable frustrations by making reservations, researching...

7 Habits Husbands Wish Their Wives Had In this video I share what I’ve learned from 1,000+ hours of coaching conversations with couples (plus 38 years of marriage) about the habits many husbands quietly wish their wives would develop—without guilt, condemnation, or turning it into a weapon. I explain why small, consistent habits shape the atmosphere and security of a marriage, then walk through se...

7 Habits Wives Wish Their Husbands Had Christian marriage coach Kelly DuPée shares seven practical habits he says wives most often wish their husbands practiced, drawn from over 1,000 hours of coaching and 38 years of marriage, emphasizing this is not about guilt but growth. The habits are: care about your wife by truly listening and supporting her; don’t get defensive when she raises concerns and...

7 Steps to Set Boundaries That Actually Work (Christian Marriage Help)In this episode, I explain how to move from simply saying no to setting clear, Godly boundaries in marriage when a spouse ignores your “no” and disrespect, pressure, or irresponsibility keep creating resentment. I share a progression I teach—suggestion, wish, request, then boundary—and clarify that a request depends on your part...

Why Saying No in Marriage Feels So Hard (and How to Rebuild a Kind No Without Guilt)In this episode of my “No Series,” I explain why saying no in marriage can feel unsafe and how to retrain yourself to say no with clarity, kindness, and confidence. I cover common emotional barriers—guilt from past manipulation, fear of conflict, fear of consequences like withdrawal or sarcasm, feeling overly respo...

Hearing No in Marriage: How to Respond with Strength, Love, and RespectI talk about why many marriages don’t break down because of a “no,” but because of what happens in the next 60 seconds—disappointment, anger, and pressure turning into conflict. As part of my series on incorporating no into your relationship, I share a biblical foundation (Ephesians 5:33, Matthew 5:37, 2 Corinthians 9:7, Amos 3...

Say No Better to your Spouse. How to Set Boundaries with Clarity & Kindness (Without Starting a Fight)In this episode, I teach how saying no in marriage can be safe, clear, and kind—so you can protect your peace without damaging connection. I explain that no is not rejection but information, and that honest boundaries support unity and trust. Using biblical guidance (Matthew 5:37, 2 Corinthian...

Saying No in Marriage Without Starting a Fight (A Biblical Way to Make “No” Feel Safe Again)I share a simple Biblical way to make saying no feel safe again in marriage by treating “no” as information, not rejection, so you respond with curiosity instead of control. I explain how conflict escalates when a request becomes a fight over what it “means,” and why you actually want your spouse to be able...

Turn Conflict Into Clarity: Making Requests in MarriageIn this episode, I share a simple “volume knob” tool to reduce everyday marriage frustration by improving how we communicate. Using a real example from a couple with an infant, I explain four levels of communication—suggestion, wish, request, and boundary—and how moving from hints to clear, respectful making requests can prevent resentment and...

When You Feel Like You Can’t Do This Anymore in Marriage I spoke to the spouse who said, “I can’t do this anymore,” and shared Hebrews 6:12 to encourage: "Imitate those who through faith and patience inherit God’s promises. For marriages that feel hopeless but are safe, I highlight God’s promises of oneness (Genesis 2:24), agreement (Amos 3:3), and unity through peace (Ephesians 4:3). I defin...

7 Faith-Based Ways Wives Can Show Respect (Without Losing Your Voice)Join me as I share a faith-based strategy for changing the emotional climate in your marriage through intentional respect—especially how wives respect husbands—without becoming a doormat or ignoring sin, abuse, addiction, or betrayal. Using Ephesians 5:33, I explain that respect is not agreement and that tone, honor, and sincere...

7 Biblical Steps to Break the Silent Treatment in Marriage (Without Making It Worse)Silence after conflict in marriage is often another expression of anger or fear, and warns that ongoing silence paralyzes a relationship and gives the enemy an opportunity. You'll learn seven practical biblical steps to break through the silent treatment and resolve the underlying issue: identify what caused th...

Show Understanding + The 5 Rs Apology: The Skill That Calms Hard Conversations (Marriage & Work)I share how a coaching client used a marriage communication skill to calm an explosive workplace meeting by choosing to slow down, listen, repeat the complaint back, and show understanding (James 1:19). When people feel heard, tension drops and collaboration becomes possible. I then explain what to...

Stop Anger From Exploding: 6 Biblical Steps for Quick-Tempered Spouses In this episode, I talk to the husband or wife who loves their spouse and loves God but still struggles with anger that comes out as snapping, sarcasm, raised voices, or slamming doors. I explain from Ephesians 4:26–27 that anger is a natural emotion but becomes sin when it turns explosive and gives the devil a foothold, and I...

Use a Time Out to Stop Explosive Anger in Your Marriage (Christian Marriage Coaching)In this episode, I share one simple tool—a time out—to stop an argument from exploding, protect your connection, and help you come back to actually solve the issue. I explain how anger can damage a marriage through blowups or silent hostility. I ground the teaching in scripture (Ephesians 4:26–27 and Proverbs 15:1...

Break the Cycle of Defensiveness in Marriage In this episode, I share how I coached a wife named Beth and her husband to break a painful cycle of defensiveness that made her feel like she was walking on eggshells. I explain that defensiveness is usually a symptom rooted in pride or fear, and I walk through a biblical approach to changing the pattern using Proverbs 15:1 and James 1:19. I cover why...

Expect to Hear from God! Are you seeking God's guidance for your marriage but feeling uncertain if you're truly hearing Him? In this video I'll guide you through the importance of praying with faith and expectation to hear God's voice. I share practical steps on how to pray expectantly, listen for His guidance through the Word, Holy Spirit, and wise counsel, and act on His prompts...

How to Hear God's Voice for Guidance in Your MarriageAre you praying and asking God to heal your marriage and guide you in becoming a better spouse but struggling to hear His voice? This video is for you. Hi, I'm Kelly Dupee, your Christian marriage coach and author of 'Turn It Up: How to Have The Lifelong Marriage that You Really Want'. In this episode, I'll show you simple an...

Strengthening Your Marriage: Beyond Communication StrugglesAre you and your spouse having difficulties in your relationship and think it's because of communication issues? In this video I explain that communication might not be the real problem. Instead, the core issue is often a lack of connection. Drawing from Biblical principles and my experience, I discuss how drifting apart leads to negat...

Inviting God into Your Marriage: Steps to Healing and TransformationHave you ever wondered if God is listening to your prayers to heal your marriage? In this video, I assure you that God does care and is listening. I'm Kelly Dupee, your Christian marriage coach and author, here to guide you on how to genuinely invite God into your marriage for real transformation. Discover how to truly seek Go...

Transform Your Marriage with Grace and Truth Has your spouse ever told you to change or felt the need to change for a better marriage? Often, we think trying harder is the solution. However, receiving and giving grace can bring real change. I'm Kelly DuPee, your Christian marriage coach, and in this video, I'll share five ways to bring grace into your marriage. We'll explore the true m...