Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools

6 Steps to Earn Your Wife's Respect and AdmirationIn this video, Kelly Dupee, a Christian marriage coach, explains how husbands can earn their wife's respect and admiration. Rather than attempting to change their wives, men are encouraged to become the kind of husbands that naturally deserve respect. Kelly shares six practical action steps, underpinned by biblical principles, to build the...

4 Simple Steps to Be a Good Spouse and Strengthen Your MarriageIn this episode, I'm sharing four simple steps to help you become a better spouse and strengthen your marriage. Discover how to apply biblical principles to everyday relationship challenges, learn the importance of listening, responding with patience, and taking initiative. I'll also guide you in asking your spouse what they ne...

3 Steps to Reconnect Your Marriage After Christmas |Christmas is over and the post-Christmas stress might be impacting your marriage. In this video, I offer you three simple steps to recover your connection: talk about what happened, rebuild intentional moments of connection, and make a plan for next year. These steps, backed by biblical wisdom, will turn any holiday tension into breakthroughs. Le...

How to Protect Your Marriage from Christmas StressFeeling the weight of Christmas stress? You're not alone. In this video, I share practical ways to protect your marriage during the festive season and make your Christmas more meaningful. From prioritizing each other and setting boundaries to rediscovering the true reason for the season, I'll guide you on how to keep your connection strong....

Setting Healthy Biblical Boundaries with Parents & In-Laws: 6 Practical StepsHave you ever felt caught between your spouse and your parents or in-laws? In this episode, I share six practical steps to help you establish healthy biblical boundaries with your parents and in-laws to protect your marriage while honoring God. Learn why boundaries matter, how to pray for wisdom, unite as a couple, co...

How to Maintain a Strong Parenting Team: Tips for Unity and Effective ParentingIn this video, you'll learn valuable insights on maintaining a cohesive parenting team with your spouse. Learn how to stay united with your spouse, protect your marriage from parenting stress, and build a calmer, more connected home. Key principles include focusing on your marriage, avoiding 'shoulding' on e...

What if the fastest way to feel closer to your spouse isn’t fixing a problem, but noticing a blessing? In this video, Christian marriage coach Kelly DuPee shares how one simple shift—gratitude—can lower tension in your home, soften sharp reactions, and help you feel more connected to your spouse, starting today. You’ll discover: - How a daily gratitude practice can quietly transform the way you se...

Becoming the Parent Your Kids Want to Be Around | 4 Key Shifts for Lifelong ConnectionHave you ever thought that parenting is more about becoming the parents your kids want to spend time with? In this video, I explore the transformative goal of not only raising good kids but becoming parents they love being around. I share four key shifts that will help build lifelong connections with your childre...

Effective Parenting: Calm Discipline Without YellingIn this video, I share techniques for disciplining your kids calmly and effectively. You will learn how to create a peaceful home, maintain unity with your spouse, and teach your kids responsibility without power struggles. I also discuss important parenting resources, including the books 'Boundaries with Kids' by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr....

Parenting Together: 6 Practical Tips to Unite with Your SpouseHave you ever felt like you and your spouse are on opposite teams when it comes to parenting your kids? In this video, I share six practical suggestions to help you parent as a team and improve unity, communication, and consistency in your home. Hi, I'm Kelly DuPee, a pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author ded...

Parenting Harmony: Blending Grace and Truth in Your Parenting StylesIn this recording, I'm going to address the common tension that arises in marriages due to differing parenting styles. You'll learn how to blend grace and truth in your parenting approach to create a more peaceful and united home environment. Learn how to make united decisions without power struggles, affirm each other&#39...

Do you feel like you and your spouse are more like roommates than a married couple? In this video, you're going to learn seven practical, Bible-based steps to deepen emotional and spiritual connections with your spouse and move from roommates to reconnected. Drawing upon my expertise as a marriage coach, I provide actionable advice on fostering gratitude, resolving conflicts, and making intent...

4 Steps to Effectively Change Your Marriage Without ConflictHave you ever wanted to change something in your marriage without starting an argument? I'm Kelly Dupee, pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach. In this video, I teach you a four-step progression to bring up changes in your marriage that build connection instead of conflict. Learn how to make a suggestion, express a wis...

6 Biblical Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband: Combat Disrespect in MarriageHave you ever wondered why a simple question or suggestion to your husband can sometimes lead to an unexpectedly hostile or distant reaction? In this video, I explain why men often equate respect with trust and how a perceived lack of trust can deeply hurt them. I share six biblical strategies for effectively communicati...

Be the Spouse Your Spouse NeedsIn this episode, Pastor Kelly DuPee discusses the transformative power of focusing on becoming the spouse your partner needs you to be, rather than trying to change them. Emphasizing the importance of a prayer asking God to help one become the best spouse, Kelly shares five Bible-based steps to improve your marriage. He addresses common relationship challenges, such...

Navigating Marriage Through Grief and Loss: Bible-Based GuidanceHave you ever wondered how your marriage would be affected by a major loss? In this video, I discuss how loss can change a marriage and provide Bible-based steps to help you and your spouse navigate grief together. From giving each other space and grieving together to guarding your connection from resentment and focusing on the hope i...

5 Biblical Steps to Transform Your Marriage CommunicationHave you ever felt disconnected from your spouse, like you're speaking different languages? In this video, you'll learn why communication is challenging for couples today and five Bible-based steps to improve it. Learn the importance of listening to understand, speaking carefully, walking in humility, being present, and practicing gr...

The Secret to a 50-Year Marriage - Revealed by Harvard ResearchersWhat if the key to a long-term marriage isn't about finding your perfect match? Join me, as I reveal surprising insights from a Harvard study that followed 724 couples for decades. Discover the one trait that keeps marriages strong, why trying to fix your partner can destroy intimacy, and learn practical strategies for transform...

Godly Sorrow vs. Worldly Sorrow: The Key to Healing Your RelationshipIn this recording, I explore the crucial difference between Godly sorrow and worldly sorrow and how understanding this can transform your marriage or relationship. If you find yourself stuck in a painful cycle of hurting your spouse, it’s essential to recognize the type of sorrow you’re experiencing. Are you genuinely remorseful...

Transform Your Marriage: The Prayer that Changed EverythingIf you want to have a strong and healthy marriage, this video is for you. Discover a simple change in the way you pray that can transform your relationship. I share my personal journey with you, revealing what I used to pray for regarding my marriage and what I pray for now. Learn why praying for God to change your spouse might be the bigg...

Identify the True Enemy: Winning the Spiritual Battle in Your MarriageIn this video, I explore the common conflicts in marriages, emphasizing that you and your spouse are not each other's enemies. The real enemy, Satan, aims to divide and conquer your marriage through lies, temptations, and unresolved anger. I offer three practical, Biblically-based steps to shift your perspective from fightin...

How to be a More Considerate SpouseIn this video, I delve into seven powerful Bible-based habits that can help you become a more considerate spouse and transform your marriage. From active undivided listening and speaking with kindness, to selfless service and praying together, these habits are designed to reignite connection and consideration in your marriage. Learn how daily acts of love and tho...

Are you tired of hearing "I'm sorry" with no real change? Or maybe you’ve been on the other side—frustrated and hurt when your heartfelt apology wasn’t accepted by the person you offended. In this video, I break down the difference between just saying “I’m sorry” and true Biblical repentance—and why learning to truly repent can transform your marriage and all your relationships. As a...

Benefit of the Doubt in Marriage: 6 Biblical Strategies for a Stronger RelationshipAre you ready to transform your marriage by learning how to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt? Hi, I’m Kelly DuPee—pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author of "Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want." In this video, I’ll show you how the biblical pri...

Overcoming 'I Forgot': 5 Biblical Steps to Strengthen Your MarriageHave you ever found yourself saying, 'I forgot' to your spouse more often than you'd like to admit? Join me, Kelly DuPee, as I dive deep into the implications of forgetting important things your spouse requests. In this video, I uncover why 'I forgot' signifies deeper issues in your marriage, such as pri...