Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools

Do you know there are three huge common mistakes when grieving? These three things will prolong your grief and pain when you've lost a loved one. When you avoid doing these things you can grieve in a healthy way. This recording will teach you the three things not to do and the one thing you need to do to deal with the death of someone close to you.  If you found this helpful, please hit the s...

Would you rather share information or talk? Some people think that sharing information is talking. Of course to share information you must open your mouth and talk. But have you ever been frustrated because your spouse wants something different from what you want? He might be looking for information, you might be looking to connect and have a conversation that will strengthen your relationship. &n...

Do you struggle with time management in your marriage? I think most if not all marriages struggle with finding time for your relationship. There are a lot of demands on our time: work, kids, hobbies, friends. Often our marriages fall to the bottom of the list and even though you don't mean to, they get neglected.  Here's a simple question to see if this is your struggle. When was the last tim...

Remember this when apologizing. We all make mistakes and need to apologize to someone. This happens a lot when you are married. You say or do something that offends your spouse and they let you know about it. To mend your relationship and keep from damaging your relationship, you need to apologize. There are four critical elements to a sincere apology and they all start with R: Responsibility, Reg...

Do you know how to see your spouse's perspective? Each of us have an outlook or perspective on things. Often we see things differently than our spouse. When this happens to you, the natural reaction is to say that he/she is wrong. They might be wrong but they might just be looking at it from a different point of view.  There really are things in life and marriage that are simply a matter of p...

When you drift apart from your spouse, don't give up. Look for a solution. This recording will give you the ABC's that will help you to start reconnecting again and healing the damage that has been done.   Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a free clarity call with me.   You can watch my  marriage tip videos at my Youtube channel: https://...

Trust is essential to all relationships. Do you know how to build and maintain it? This recording will teach you why trust is so essential, what betrayal really is and how to build trust again after it has been damaged. You'll also learn how to keep strengthening the trust bond in your marriage or relationship.   Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my book, and schedule a...

If your marriage could speak what would it ask for? Do you know what your marriage needs and wants? If you want your marriage to get better, put yourself in it's shoes and listen to it. Your marriage is alive and has needs and wants just like you do. This recording gives you 10 suggestions as to what it might ask you for.    Check out my website www.turnitup.coach to get a copy of my boo...

Think about it. What's the single biggest challenge or frustration in your marriage?  Perhaps its poor communication, or the lack of communication. Perhaps you’re arguing all the time about things that don’t really matter. Perhaps you’re on two separate pages on most issues and can’t agree what to do. Perhaps you’re so hurt that you are finding it hard to trust and be vulnerable again. Maybe...

Why do you think Christmas is a big deal? Did you know it can help your marriage?  Christmas resonates with us as no other holiday. We decorate our houses, exchange gifts, gather with family and everywhere you go there is Christmas music! This recording shares why Christmas is such a big deal and how it really can help your marriage.    Christmas is so special is because deep d...

 Christmas can be both wonderful and challenging. Here are 10 Christmas relationship tips that will help you have a great Christmas.  This 5 minute recording will really help you have the Christmas that you really want.   What are your suggestions to have a great Christmas?    For the full version of this recording, go to https://youtu.be/mRb_-WQz3J8  Please let...

Responding to an angry person is challenging but this recording will teach you how! Our natural inclination is to either run away for fight back. But when you remain calm and use the tips in this 5 minute recording, you will learn how to turn the conversation around so that you can resolve the issue.   Please engage with this post. I'd love to hear your comments and please let me know how thi...

Do you know how to have unity in your marriage? This 5 minute recording will show you why unity is critical to the health of your marriage and why it's important to learn how to get there.   God  wants you to be united in your marriage and he wants to help you and guide you so that you can walk in unity with each other.   The opposite of unity is division and there are man...

How to be thankful for your marriage. This may be a struggle for some who's marriages are having problems. But even if things aren't what you want them to be in your marriage, being thankful can help make things better. This 5 min. video will help you be thankful for your marriage.  Please engage with this post. I'd love to hear your comments and please let me know how this works for you. &nb...

Are your words helping or hurting your marriage?  The way you talk to your spouse can either hurt or help your marriage.  This 5 minute video will give you 10 words that help and 10 words that hurt. When you change the way you speak to each other, your marriage will get better. Guaranteed!   Proverbs 18:21 says Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it wil...

Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? Have a calm conversation. This 5 minute recording will give you 7 steps to follow once you've calmed down and want to have a productive conversation with your husband/wife. Don't explode with anger or instead just ignore the things that hurt or bother you. Instead talk about them in a healthy way.   For the full version of this teaching go to https...

 Is losing your temper damaging your marriage? You can learn how to master your anger and calm down. This 5 minute video will give you a powerful and effective tip that really works.    For a longer version of this teaching, go to https://youtu.be/hQrselw-zcA  Please engage with this post. I'd love to hear your comments and please let me know how this works for you.  &nbsp...

Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? This 5 minute episode can change that. You will learn why explosive anger directed at your spouse is so hurtful and I will give you a tip that can change everything.    Here's the link to watch the full video of this message: https://youtu.be/j_Xmvbb21uo  If you found this helpful please like, share, comment, review or rate. Doing so help...

Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? Yes, it probably is. The cure for that is to have a calm, confrontational conversation. This recording will teach you the seven steps you need to take so that you can have a productive conversation that will bring healing and help you grow closer to each other. Most of us don't like to confront, but by using these steps, you'll see how important it is a...

Do you know how to calm down when you lose your temper? Angry explosions can be very hurtful to your spouse and extremely damaging to your marriage. In this recording we will look at Ephesians 4;26-27 to learn how God can help us calm down and manage our anger in a healthy and not hurtful way. You will also learn a tip that I that learned from my police friends that will immediately help you calm...

Is losing your temper hurting your marriage? All of us have gotten angry at our husbands/wives. What do you do with that anger? Do you explode, yell and attack your spouse? Have you considered that losing your temper might be hurting your marriage and causing significant damage to your relationship? This recording will give you a practical tool that will help you express your anger in a way that w...

Is there a failure to complete requests in your marriage? You asked nicely and even said please, but he or she just doesn't do what you requested. What can you do about this? I suggest you start by understanding why your spouse failed to complete your request. Maybe there's a good reason! When you understand why, then you can respond effectively.  This recording looks at the most common reaso...

Requests. Do you know how to respond when your husband or wife asks you to do something? If you want to have a great marriage that lasts, this is a key skill to learn.  This recording will give you three ways to respond to a request. Mastering this skill will really help you avoid arguments and disagreements.    If you found this helpful please like, share, comment, review or rate....

Do you know how to get what you need in your marriage? You ask for it. But do you know how to ask for what you need in a way that will get the results you want from your husband or wife?  Your spouse is not a mind reader and he/she won't know or be able to meet your need until you ask. This recording will teach you the SMART way to make a request.   Here's the link to the video on using...

The like factor in your marriage is how much you like your husband or wife. Do you enjoy their company? Do you have things in common or do you have different interests that keep you apart? A great way to have the lifelong marriage that you really want is to increase your like factor. This recording will show you how to do that. If you found this helpful please like, share, comment, review or rate....