This Isn’t Therapy

This isn't therapy... it's a fun, flirty, fab conversation about our friend perfectionism. In this episode, Jake and Simon read two submissions from the lovely listeners about comparison and needing things to be perfect. Jake shares three essential ingredients for healthy striving, the ultimate antidote to comparing from a place of perfectionism. Let's dive in. :-) Creators & Guests Jake Ernst...

Happy New Year, lovelies! This isn’t therapy… it’s the first episode of 2023! Grab your pens and pencils because in this episode, Jake and Simon are helping you put in the work. Through an important conversation about values, Jake and Simon talk about how to take effective action in your life by picking a Word of the Year. James Clear’s “Core Values List” Brene Brown’s “List of Values” Hello, hi!...

This isn’t therapy… it’s our last episode of 2022— about 2022! Jake and Simon round off the year with a fun and flirty Q&A using The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock. Join us for our last laughs and giggles of the year. Be sure to go back and listen to Part 1 if you haven’t yet! 🥂 P.S. Thanks for being here this year. We appreciate you SO MUCH! Join us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jak...

This Isn't Therapy...but this is an original spin on the famed holiday classic!! This Isn't Therapy presents: 'Twas the Night Before Therapy. On the eve of her first therapy session, Molly is grappling with all her worries and woes when suddenly she's visited by two magical guests from her ~favourite~ podcast. Enjoy this fun, flirty, fabulous BONUS episode narrated (& performed) by Jake and Si...

This isn’t therapy… it’s a conversation about 2022! In this episode, Jake and Simon bounce The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock back and forth. We are rounding up and rounding out the year with a casual and fun two-part Q&A. Get ready to giggle. Join us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ Episode Mixed by Jordan Paluck

This isn’t therapy… it’s a conversation about when the past is present in the therapy room. In this episode, Jake and Simon explore two therapy terms, transference and countertransference, to open up a conversation about what happens when clients own history is transferred onto a therapist and what happens when a therapist’s own history is transferred onto a client. It’s a conversation you don’t w...

This Isn't Therapy...but this is a throwback to a past episode about mindfulness - or what Jake calls "meeting the moment." Through the stories of two lovely listeners, Jake and Simon talk about how to make the most of every moment AND pitch a new chocolatey venture to therapy icon Brené Brown (notice us!!!) Bonjour, Hi! Join us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck:...

This Isn't Therapy...it's a conversation about WHY YOU'RE SO OBSESSED WITH ME. In episode 57 of the pod, Jake and Simon discuss popularity via the seminal film and cinematic masterpiece Mean Girls. What follows is a fetch conversation about status popularity vs. likability and the impact of horizontal/vertical relationships. How much do you love it? The limit does not exist!   Bonjour, Hi! Join us...

This isn't therapy... it’s the episode about social media, dopamine, and the pleasure/pain balance. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the principles of social media addiction and how the devices and apps we love keep us trapped in cycles of overuse. They also discuss the power of dopamine and why you need to know about this important neurotransmitter! Dopamine detox, anyone? Book referenc...

This isn't therapy...it’s a conversation about spotting red flags in therapy. In today's world, there has been increased attention put on the potential warning signs, or red flags, in our lives and relationships. Since the therapy room often reflects the norms of a culture, it is no surprise that therapy and therapists are also getting the red flag treatment. On one hand, this can be empowering fo...

This isn't therapy... it’s the long-overdue episode about anger. Jake and Simon talk about the one quality of anger that makes it so strongly felt and unpack four major types of anger— long anger, short anger, hot anger, and cold anger! Hello, hi! Join us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ Episode Mixed by Jordan Paluck

This isn't therapy...it’s the episode about the morality of therapy-seeking. Recently some therapists have noticed that clients are showing up to therapy without a problem to solve or a goal to work on. They are showing up because “that’s what good people do.” Does going to therapy make you a “good” person? Let’s get into it. Hello, hi! Join us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswja...

This isn't therapy... it's the grand opening of the Ha-Ha Chuckle Hut! Just kidding. It's the conversation about deflecting with humor. In this week's episode, Jake and Simon talk about the ups and downs of using humor to deflect from the things we don't want to feel. Hi friend! Join us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ Episode Mixed by Jordan...

This isn't therapy... it's the episode about Internal Family Systems Therapy! Dr. Richard Schwartz developed IFS in response to clients' descriptions of various parts within themselves. In this episode, Jake and Simon unpack the parts that make up our internal family and give you a taster for what IFS therapy is all about. Grab a notebook and a pen to unlock your best Self! Check us out on Instagr...

This isn't therapy-- it's your how-to guide to building better boundaries. In this episode, Jake and Simon dissect the art of boundary building. Using a fictional client named Kevin, they dive deep into what keeps us stuck in patterns of boundary-less behaviour. This episode is for you if you know what you need to say but you're just having trouble saying it. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypod...

This isn't therapy, bro! It's an episode about the gnarly new film "Bros". In this episode, two bros Jake and Simon bro out to a discussion about the role of (hyper)masculinity in queer culture. For those who are unfamiliar, Bros is the first gay rom-com from a major film studio. The movie takes everything you love about Bridesmaids and Mean Girls and, with whip-smart comedy, shows us the power of...

This isn't therapy... it's an episode about being sexy online. In this day and age, some people are leading hypersexual double lives on the internet which is causing an array of mental health symptoms to crop up. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about social media pressure, hyperreality and hypersexuality, the pressures one might feel to engage in these behaviours, and why this might be occurr...

This isn't therapy...but this is an episode about learning from our mistakes . Jake and Simon reach into two #lovelylistener stories with their grubby little paws to discuss what it means to regret our mistakes vs. to not have any regrets at all (YOLO). What's the greatest mistake you ever made and why does it linger over us like a lil gassy cloud? Also, this episode may or may not feature a speci...

This Isn't Therapy but this is an episode about processing regrets and meeting our shadow parts ! Ooooo, spooky! What are the feelings behind regrets? Why do they feel so bad? What are shadow parts?! What follows is a casual kelly convo between Jake and Simon as they dive into two #lovelylistener stories - one about cheating and one about not spending enough time with a loved one before they passe...

This isn't Therapy-- it's an episode about the not/new trend of "Quiet Quitting." In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the pros and cons of quitting quietly. They also talk about "quiet firing", Gen-Z and the effect of social media on work culture, and the passive aggressive nature of  non-communication. Tune in to find out if quiet quitting is for you! Article: Quiet quitting, firing, even...

This isn't therapy, baby, it's the two year celebration episode. In this episode, Jake and Simon answer listener questions and ask questions of each other. They talk about family grief, use of social media, what they hate about queer culture, and a very exciting announcement! Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ Episode Mixed by Jordan...

This isn't Therapy but this is a conversation about working through grief and loss. Jake and Simon read two stories from our #lovelylisteners. The first, explores letting go of a partner and the other, about the recent loss of a loved one. What follows is a convo about the stages of grief (DABDA!) and so many metaphors - boulders, balls, and jars, oh my! Also, grab your spelunking gear because we'...

Hello, hi! This isn't therapy, it's a chitchat about how to navigate periods of change and growth. You know what they say: Change is inevitable and the only constant in life is change. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how to stay the course when change is too destabilizing. They also talk about the four most effective ways of working through the big feelings that accompany change. Follow...

Thissssss isn't therapy, y'all, it's the sequel to the episode about therapy myths. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss more of the myths about therapy by answering the questions submitted by the lovely listeners. They tackle questions such as: What happens if you run into a client in public? Are you intentional about what you wear and how you design the therapy room? How do you keep stories s...

This isn't therapy... it's an episode about the end of "Forced Fun" in the workplace. Jake and Simon discuss a BBC article that discusses how "the pandemic put an end to required birthday cupcakes, team happy hours, and 'forced fun’ activities." Jake and Simon chat about whether forcing fun is good or bad for our cultures at work and what we can do to solve the problem of forced fun. Article: The...