This Isn’t Therapy

This isn't therapy... it's a conversation about navigating a difference of opinions. In this episode, Jake and Simon ask the lovely listeners to submit a story about a time they had a difference of opinion with someone and it didn't ruin the relationship. They discuss how they approach having disagreements without throwing others in the garbage for thinking or feeling differently. Follow us on Ins...

This isn't therapy... it's a conversation about breaking up with a friend. In this episode, Jake and Simon share two stories from the lovely listeners about how they know it's time to say goodbye to a friend and how they know when a friendship has run its course. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck

This isn't therapy... it's part two of our conversation about Foreboding Joy. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how the act of foreboding joy protects us from shame and judgment and serves as a reminder that feeling good isn't permanent. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck

This isn't therapy -- it's a discussion about foreboding joy. Coined by Dr. Brene Brown, foreboding joy is described as that moment when joy is interrupted by thoughts of “but what if something bad happens.” In this two-part episode, Jake and Simon discuss the ways we avoid feeling extremely happy to avoid feeling extremely disappointed. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @msw...

This isn't therapy, but it's a long-awaited conversation about Big Box Therapy™ companies. Jake and Simon dive deep into the world of digitizing mental healthcare - they talk data privacy, accessibility, and the blurred lines that exist as both a tech company and a healthcare provider. Be sure to read the article linked below for background info about this important discussion. Follow us on Instag...

This isn't therapy, but it *is* a conversation about common myths about therapy. Jake and Simon asked their lovely listeners to submit their need-to-know questions about therapy without holding back. Jake and Simon answer questions such as: Do therapists have favourite clients? Do therapists have therapists? What happens if a therapist is sexually attracted to a client? You didn't hold back, so ne...

This isn't therapy... and we don't talk about Bruno (no, no, no, no). In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about intergenerational trauma through the lens of the hit Disney movie Encanto. They talk about how trauma patterns are passed down through families from generation to generation and dissect the themes that show up in the movie and in real life. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Ja...

This isn't therapy, but this is an episode about loneliness. Jake and Simon chat about the ways that loneliness shows up in our lives and talk about the crisis of connection we all seem to be experiencing to some degree. They unpack what makes us feel lonely and how to increase meaningful connections in our lives. ⁣ Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @di...

This isn't therapy, but this is an episode about boundaries. The pandemic has caused a noticeable shift in the way we interact and spend time with others. Jake and Simon talk about what boundaries are and how to know if you need them or not. They go through the five different types of boundaries and walk us through how to set better boundaries in order to get what you need in life. Follow us on In...

Forming new habits that last is hard to do. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about why that is and how to build habits that stick. They talk about the science of forming a new habit and discuss how habits, both good and bad, affect our mental health. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck

Cue the "New Year, New Me" resolution machine. This isn't therapy but in this episode, we check in on how your resolutions are going. Do New Year's resolutions actually work? What percentage of resolutions are successful? Jake and Simon unpack the barriers that get in our way of following through on our goals and resolutions. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon P...

This isn't therapy but it is an episode about receiving feedback that might be hard to hear. Jake and Simon read submissions from the lovely listeners and share their own stories about how they receive tough feedback. Let's get into it! Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ ⁣ Episode mixed by #1 bossbabe Jordan Paluck

This isn't therapy but it is an episode about relationships and the four signs that might signal the end of one. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss Dr. John & Julie Gottman's concept of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. These relationship researchers have identified the four traits and their associated behaviours that could lead to relational collapse. Check out the article below for m...

Hello, season two! This isn't therapy but it *is* our grand re-entrance into our regularly scheduled programming. In this episode, Jake and Simon have a check-in chat about where we're at and how we're feeling in this stage of the pandemic. They also imagine what our post-pandemic future will look like and what we can do right now to manage fear and uncertainty. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapy...

This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about breaking up with your therapist. Join Simon and Jake as they talk about how to know it's time to find a better fit. Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck

This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about psychological and emotional safety (what!?!) and the pathways we travel to feel safe again. This week, we discuss the Routes of Safety model - a therapeutic tool that helps us achieve a felt sense of safety. ⁣Let's dive in. Content note: Discussion of self-harm (27:48-31:44) ⁣ Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon...

This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about Nature vs. Nurture and the role each of them plays in shaping who we are. This week, we discuss themes from the hit Disney+ movie Cruella to guide our discussion about trauma, relationships, childhood experiences, epigenetics, and more. We also talk about Internal Family Systems, a therapy modality developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, to discuss th...

This isn't therapy but this is part two of our conversation about perfectionism. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the type of perfectionism that keeps us from getting started. Have you ever put something off for fear that it won't be perfect? Have you ever felt so frozen and immobilized by the task ahead of you? Have you ever kept quiet because you won't say ~the perfect thing~? We dig i...

This isn't therapy but this is Part 2 of the episode where we answer your questions! In this episode, Jake and Simon finish their game of 21 questions by asking each other deep questions about life, mental health, and relationships. Tune in to find out which one of them cries first. :') Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Ernst: @mswjake Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Episode mi...

This isn't therapy but this is the episode where we answer your questions! In this episode, Jake and Simon play 21 questions with a list of questions submitted by our lovely listeners. Tune in to hear them answer your questions about life, mental health, vulnerability in friendship, and more. Be sure to check out the next episode, Part 2, where they ask each other their own set of questions! ;-)⁣...

This isn't therapy but this is a conversation about perfectionism. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how perfectionism can fuel our desire to grind, hustle, and achieve more. They also discuss how perfectionism can foster a culture of competition and how we can stop it from dominating our thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. *chefs kiss* Follow us on Instagram @notatherapypodcast⁣ Jake Erns...

This isn't therapy but this is the final episode in our four-part pandemic series. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about The Big Return and what life could look like beyond face masks and pandemic restrictions. They also discuss how our cultures might shift and how we can adjust to The "New" Normal. P.S. Like, comment, subscribe, give us a rate! We will love you forever for doing so. Follow u...

This isn't therapy but this is a *timely* episode about pandemic burnout. In part three of this pandemic series, Jake and Simon talk about how burnout keeps us locked into patterns of stress. They also discuss how burnout results in that "blah" feeling and how it impacts something known as our "surge capacity". P.S. Tune in to the end of the episode for a fun ~contest~ where you can win a ~fabulou...

This isn't therapy but this is an episode about the social struggles we anticipate beyond pandemic times. In part two of this pandemic series, Jake and Simon talk about how pandemic social anxiety might manifest and how we can work through it. They discuss Jake's recent appearance on the CBC podcast Sickboy and make a big mess in the final segment (sorry, Jean-Luc Picard!). Follow us on Instagram...

This isn't therapy but this is an episode about pandemic anxiety & masking up for the greater good. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about pandemic rules and share their thoughts & feelings about anti-vaccination and anti-mask rhetoric. In one of the stories, a listener asks what they can do when friends and family members exhibit unacceptable pandemic behaviour. Follow us on Instagram...