The Terri Cole Show

Have you ever told someone something important to you in confidence, only to find out they told someone else? Are there people in your life you are hesitant or afraid to share your truth with because you know you'll be judged? In this episode, we are talking about emotional trustworthiness, how to spot it in others, how to maintain it in your relationships, and how to become more emotionally trust...

Today I'm chatting with Allyson Byrd, an expert in entrepreneurship, success, and manifestation. We chat about how creating the life that is true to your inner self today will set you up for financial success in the future. Plus, she shares some tips to help you let go of your learned fear of financial abundance. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/421 Learn more about your ad...

Do you identify as someone who is a kind and generous person? Does that sometimes mean you prioritize other people's wants, needs, and desires above your own? It is possible to be kind and generous without self-abandoning! In this episode, you'll learn why we do this plus the most common signs you might be self-abandoning, so you can up your self-love and begin to take better care of yourself (bec...

Today I'm happy to share an interview with one of my friends, Trudi Lebrón. I've been following her work for many years and have learned so much from her. She's an expert in diversity, equity, and inclusion in business, and just published her new book, The Antiracist Business Book: An Equity Centered Approach to Work, Wealth, and Leadership . We chat about exploring identity, defining what success...

Is there someone in your life who uses guilt to try to get you to do what they want you to do? Or have you ever been on the receiving end of flattery where someone says all these amazing things about you, but then expects something from you? These are both examples of emotional manipulation tactics.  In this episode, I'm talking about the most commonly used manipulation tactics to help you recogni...

Today I'm sharing a chat with Sheleana Aiyana. She is the founder of Rising Woman, an online community with more than 3 million readers. She talks about her childhood experiences parenting her own mother and coping through addiction. Then, she shares some strategies to help you heal, come home to yourself, and heal childhood wounds. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/417 Lear...

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors. We have all experienced some level of primary or secondary trauma over the past few years. The pandemic, the war in Ukraine, and school shootings among other events have brought the topic of trauma front and center in our public discourse. In this episode, I'm breaking down the definition...

Today I'm sharing an interview with Dr. John Delony. He's a mental health expert, podcast host, and author who specializes in making the path to mental wellness accessible for everyone, especially people who don't come from an academic background.  John explained five steps you can take to heal past traumas that are getting in the way of your current life, no matter who you are. Plus, we chatted a...

Are you someone who proudly proclaims that you "never get angry"? Or do you wait so long to deal with your anger that when it finally comes out you explode- only to feel guilty and wish you could take it back? Either way, if you're nodding your head, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down six different types of anger people experience so you can get a better understanding of how your anger mig...

Do you feel like you could use a little more inner peace right now? You're not alone. The world today feels more hectic than ever. Today's guest, Shannon Kaiser, has some tips to help us re-tune inward and protect our inner peace. She also shares her boundary struggles as a world renowned spiritual and self-love teacher as well as guidance from her new book, Return to You: 11 Spiritual Lessons for...

Do you dread Father's Day? Do you find yourself frustrated in the greeting card aisle every year because you feel like you have to get a card but none of the Hallmark messages ring true?  Are you estranged or is your father absent? If so, you are not alone. While Father's Day is a celebration for some, for others, it can bring up feelings of sadness, anger, and disappointment. I get it.  I had a v...

Today I'm sharing a girlfriend jam with the wonderful Kerri Kelly. As a community organizer and author of the brand new book American Detox , her goal is to make well being accessible and inclusive for all.  We chat about the dark side of the western wellness industry: the ways it excludes minorities, appropriates practices, and exploits vulnerabilities. Then, Kerri guides us on how each of us can...

If you're honest with yourself, does the idea of forgiving someone feel like you might be condoning their bad behavior or like they are getting one over on you?  If forgiveness feels complicated (and it is!), this episode is for you. You'll learn about what I'm calling the new forgiveness, which is about releasing resentment that might be holding you back- not about letting someone off the hook. ...

Do you feel like it's impossible to get what you want? Do you love to lift other people up but never really see yourself shine? If those questions resonate with you, today's interview with Julie Solomon is for you. Julie is the recent author of Get What You Want: How to Go from Unseen to Unstoppable . She shares some tips from the book as well as her own experience growing out of a mindset of scar...

Do you think something terrible has to happen in your life before you pick up the phone to call a therapist? Do you think you need to be on the verge of a nervous breakdown or ever think to yourself…well, it's not that bad… I'm not crazy. I should be able to manage this on my own. If you're sheepishly nodding your head yes, then this week's episode is for you. It's Mental Health Awareness Month, a...

Today I'm chatting about blended families and stepfamilies with Jamie Scrimgeour. She's an expert on stepfamily dynamics and the host of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. We have a great conversation about pitfalls to avoid when you join a family and how to appreciate the unique beauty of being a step-parent. Along the way, we share some of our own experiences as stepmoms! Find the show notes for toda...

This week, I'm breaking down simple mental wellness strategies you can incorporate into your daily life to support robust mental health.  While some of the things on this list might be things you already know you "should" do, with 25 years of experience as a psychotherapist, I can tell you a lack of these wellness essentials can negatively impact the quality of your life and how you feel (and you...

Today I'm interviewing Kute Blackson. He's an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher who is an expert on surrender. When you think of surrender, you might associate it with weakness. However, surrender can actually take great strength. In this episode, Kute is going to explain how finding the courage to let go can help you live authentically and fulfill your life's true purpose. I hope...

Grief comes in many shapes and sizes, but one thing usually holds true across the board- we can feel very conflicted about how to respond to curious (even if they're well-meaning) people.   Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of personal questions you don't want to answer?  How did your father die? Why did you get divorced? What happened with your job? If you've ever grieved the loss...

Today I'm sharing a girlfriend jam with my friend Lisa Bilyeu, author of the new book Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life and co-founder of the wildly successful business Quest Nutrition. She tells us how she challenged her family's expectations to transform a life that was not working for her into one that is really, really working for her. I really hope you...

How do you feel when you go to your favorite exercise class and someone is sitting in your spot? Are you low-key burning up on the inside? Let's say you go to Sephora to get your favorite face cream and they've discontinued it…are you really bummed out?  Does change make you uncomfortable, especially when you have no control over it? If so, then this episode is for you.  You'll learn about the pow...

Tricia (also known online as Your Joyologist) is an ex rock-and-roll roadie and current life coach, podcast host, author, and speaker who I've known for at least a decade now. We chat about all the ways it's unhealthy to hold ourselves to "shoulds" instead of acting on our true wants. If you sometimes struggle with shame, guilt, and rumination over what you could have done differently in the past,...

Do you ever wonder if your relationship with your mother (or maternal impactor) is "normal"? Are you curious about how it has affected you as an adult?  Mother-daughter relationships can be complicated and in this episode, I'm breaking down the 7 types of dynamics I've seen the most in my 25 years as a psychotherapist, plus the lasting impact each type has on emotions and behaviors in adulthood. F...

How do you relate to time?  Are you someone who's always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others? If you're nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I'm breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You'll also learn how to better negotia...

Today I'm sharing a special double interview with John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann. Though John and Ana are both amazing authors and have been happily married for decades, their most recent book The Go-Giver Marriage is the first one they have written together. We're chatting about the five secrets to lasting love, as well as their relationship-damaging opposites. Plus, how to keep appreciatin...