The Terri Cole Show

Today I'm talking with repeat guest Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. We talk about how codependency, which he calls self-love deficit disorder, attracts narcissists, and why a codependent-narcissist relationship is so damaging. Then, he walks us through the steps to heali...

Let's say you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news–what do you do to help yourself feel better? Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.  In this episode, you'll learn my favorite self-so...

Today I'm sharing a chat with filmmaker, writer, and musician Vandana Kohli. She joins me from India to discuss how our constant interaction with electronics is causing a global mental health crisis. Plus, she shares mindfulness practices that will help you find a balance between your digital connectedness and your mental health. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/395 Learn m...

How do you feel when Sunday rolls around?  Maybe you had an amazing weekend, but slowly but surely, as Sunday afternoon gives way to evening, does anxiety, fear, and dread start to creep in? The "Sunday Scaries" is a real thing, so if this is you, check out this week's episode because in it, you'll learn how to decode why you might be feeling this way and take your Sunday back so you can face Mond...

Today, I'm sharing an interview with author and ex-stand up comedian Pam Gaslow. After more than a decade of sobriety, Pam relapsed into addiction at age 45.  While many people think of marijuana as a harmless drug, Pam's experience was different: She became an addict, living without purpose and barely able to function.  We chat about everything, from why people think weed is completely harmless w...

Are you running low on happiness and joy in your life after everything we have been experiencing for the past two years? Do you have relationships that drain your energy and happiness? If you're nodding yes to either of those questions, this episode is for you. I'm going to share four steps that will help you take charge of your own happiness, joy, and contentment, even when the outside world make...

Kristine Carlson and her husband, the late Dr. Richard Carlson, co-authored the bestselling book Don't Sweat the Small Stuff… And it's All Small Stuff . Today, I am sharing an interview with Kristine about the big stuff: Profound loss, grief, and how to honor your love by healing and choosing to live. Kristine shares what she personally learned from the loss of her husband and explains how allowin...

Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It's scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.  In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency i...

Do you have a friend who always has to follow up your bad day with "It could be worse"? Are you the one who has a hard time just listening when your loved ones need to vent? Both of these scenarios are examples of toxic positivity: when a positive mindset goes too far and makes you feel like having (and sharing) bad feelings isn't allowed.  Today's guest Whitney Goodman is an expert on toxic posit...

Are you endlessly, compulsively doing things for all the people in your life? Do you find that giving to people at work and home leaves you exhausted by the end of the day? If you answered yes, you might be a chronic overfunctioner. On today's episode, I'm going to help you understand why you always seem to give too much of yourself and how you can start creating more balance in your relationships...

Today I'm interviewing New York Times bestselling author, health and fitness expert, and former neurosurgical ICU trauma nurse Tana Amen. If the name seems familiar, it's because she's married to recent guest and friend of mine Dr. Daniel Amen. We talk about her recent memoir The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child , she shares how she broke the cycle of abuse and poverty she was born into, and w...

How much fear and anxiety do you experience every day? Do you think of yourself as a chronic worrier? In today's episode, I'm going to help you understand the roots of your fear and anxiety and share some steps that you can take to have less stress and more joy in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/386 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm interviewing dietician, entrepreneur, model, and actress Melissa Boloña about what it's like to own her business, Beauty and the Broth.  We talk about her transition from acting to entrepreneurship, how she manages the daily stress of her responsibilities for her company, and how the health benefits of bone broth can extend to your mood too! Find the show notes for today's episode at ter...

Do you struggle with repetitive negative thoughts? We all experience some degree of negativity when it comes to our thoughts and feelings, but if it is frequent or intense, it can get in the way of your highest potential in your life, in your career, and in your relationships.  From a psychological perspective, an exaggerated or perseverating pattern of thought not based on facts is a cognitive di...

Today I'm bringing you a special episode with repeat guest Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen is a world-renowned psychiatrist and brain health expert who hopes to end mental illness by revolutionizing how it is treated. Just like any other organ, the brain doesn't work well when you don't take care of it. Dr. Amen shares seven ways you can change your behavior now for a healthier, happier brain, as well a...

Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you've found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you?  If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you.  In today's episode, you'll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out ('cause they're not the same), how to pinpoint...

Today I'm chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace . This book is Gabby's most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healin...

Have you ever met someone you would describe as an "old soul" or seemingly older than their years?  You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity.  Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you...

Today I'm excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the "adult chair" to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We're talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experien...

Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?  Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with "But you do it so much better…" or "I don't know how…" OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?  What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do mor...

Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we're playing catch-up, but it doesn't have to be that way. Today's guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman's Guide...

How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine's Day?  I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you're single or in a relationship, Valentine's Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down...

Today I'm interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don't know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their l...

Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonm...

Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today's guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about...