The So Extra Podcast

BONUS EP from IG live How do I embrace my tummy/problem area? Love this q that came off the back of my last post 🧡 Firstly, your tummy/ body is not a problem and you don’t need to be fixed ❣️ I invite you to change your language If you’re currently at a stage where you are aware of your thoughts around this area 💭 And you’ve challenged it ‼️ And now you are ready to change it You need to… Choose...

On this weeks poddy I have special guest Sarah Viliamu! Sarah is a self love advocate, model, speaker, business owner, mum, wife and influencer. We speak about all things self love - why women struggle with self love, Sarah's journey to self love, tips on how to practice self love and more. Enjoy sis! You can connect with Sarah here Buy tickets to the 'Move For You' event here (use cod...

Bonus - IG Live Episode How do I practice self compassion? We lack a lot of self compassion when it comes to our body image The mean things we say to ourselves and how negatively we talk about ourselves “I hate my body, stomach, stretch marks, rolls” “I’m not good enough, worthy, attractive” “Ew, I look so fat and disgusting” So I put together a easy to remember acronym - ACT Awareness, Acknowledg...

This week we are talking about why I chose not to go to Lizzo's concert It's a goodie and I hope it helps you expand your thinking Questions to ask yourself... Why am I doing this? What am I prioritising? Am I looking out for my highest self and what that women needs? Are you thinking bout your dream life? Or are you settling for less? If you are ready to prioritise yourself and your relat...

Love this q that was asked in last weeks Fat Fridays Q&A IG live. Have a listen and let me know what you think xx Self compassion is key sis 🔑 And I know it’s hard! When you’re feeling down because of your weight the last thing you think you deserve is self compassion But you do❣️ And if it’s hard to be kind to yourself think of a loved one - how would you treat them if they came to you telli...

BONUS EP from my Fat Friday's Q&A Series How do I stop judging the size of my body when I look in the mirror/photos? Practice self compassion 🥰  Sis you’re incredible! You need to hype yourself up and show yourself all the love and kindness you give to others.  If this feels hard to do, think about a loved one and how you treat them - give that same love to yourself 🧡 Focus on what you love - we...

I've been getting abit of feedback online where people think I am promoting unhealthiness so I want to make it clear... My message is that - Your weight doesn't equal your worthiness You can look in the mirror and love what you see as a fat person You can be plus size and confident in your body I think people get it twisted because they think that fat = unhealthy and I'm here to challe...

BONUS EP from my Fat Friday's Q&A Series I LOVE this question so much cos I think so many people think that self love and weight loss cannot co exist  We think that if someone wants to lose weight they must hate themselves But I think self love is NECESSARY in order to lose weight in a healthy way ❣️ Please listen and let me know your thoughts here Need help with loving you plus size body?...

Stop hiding in photos and videos, bending your body like crazy to look "flattering" Embrace what your body truly looks like! Sure, we want to look good in photos but this narrative reinforces that tummy rolls, double chins, stretchmarks, etc is not beautiful and we must hide it. Secondly, we forget what we look like and then compare the "unflattering" photo our mum posts to the...

Do you struggle with being confident in your plus size body? You dress down or don't wear the cute clothes you want to wear? This episode will help you overcome this and SHOW TF UP! Ask yourself 💭 What’s currently stopping me from showing up confidently?  For me I had a lot of internalised fatphobia I had to unlearn  Uncover what your current belief system is  What do you think of confident p...

Nearly all the ladies i've spoken to that don't love what they see in the mirror tell me that weight loss is the answer. "Once I lose the weight then i'll be happy, i'll be confident, i'll love what I see in the mirror" And i'm here to tell you that's not true! I'm speaking from lived experience too and here's the reasons why... 1. You'll look in t...

1 - If you celebrate someone for weight loss I feel like it’s almost automatic that when they gain weight they feel bad and like a failure. You just told me losing weight was good so when I gain weight it’s obviously bad. Instead of commenting on someone’s weight, highlight the way it’s made them feel or anything else that doesn’t involve physical appearance. For me, my TOP TIER compliment is “Lee...

According to our IG fam it is! I thought I would open up this convo to help people overcome this word. If someone referring to you as fat affects you negatively and sends you on a mental downward spiral I invite you to look at things differently... If we pull it all back - Fat is a describing word. It's not the word, it's what we make it mean. What are you making the word mean? Reclaim it! Take th...

You're gonna love this episode! On this week's podcast I talk to Talita Simpson, she is bloody incredible and multifaceted and I wanted to get her on to have a beautiful korero about being a plus size curve model. She shares with us how she got into modelling, what the industry is like and her top tips. We also talk about self belief, comparison, body image issues and so much more. I can&#...

Sometimes life sucks! Haha I love that title cos it's how I be feeling lately. On this week's podcast I talk about the realisations I had from being in that funk. I am a true believer in "everything happens for a reason" and I believe this funk was a gift because it helps me support and assist the women in The Vibe Tribe better. It reminded me to have compassion and that I am hum...

What an enlightening amazing korero with Tarsh! We speak about culture, the importance of Acknowledging country, what life is like as a first nations Australian and so much more. This episode was exactly what I needed and I hope you get some goodness from it too! Connect with Tarsh here

Welcome to my mind haha this week I share with you a live journal entry on productivity and societies pressure around it as well as my own pressures that cause overwhelm and then I don't do anything lol. I realise... I put too much pressure on myself and need to be kinder to myself The need to always be doing something stems from childhood and having a strict dad I was caught up in the pressur...

This weeks episode is huge! Something i've been uncovering and will continue to uncover as it's something I resonate with heavy. Seeking that external validation from the people around me when I really needed to self validate. I share with you tools that have helped me overcome this! Enjoy! and please let me know your thoughts on today's podcast episode by leaving a comment, rating and...

On this week's podcast I share my story, from childhood to now. I speak on... Neglect and Abandonment Negative Body Image Emotional Eating Being a hoodrat (lol) Being a bully and fighting Drinking at a young age Being a So Extra queen hehe Getting bullied for being a so extra queen Being a Flight Attendant and getting fired Seeking validation online Moving to Melbourne Depression, drinking, sm...

On this weeks podcast episode we talk HIERARCHY! This is something I had to unlearn and realise that I needed to stop putting people on a pedestal, at the end of the day we are all people with and without the titles. The main points in this episode are… I speak on my  “don’t talk back ” childhood It pays to explain things to children, not just “do this cos I said so” Question everything and everyo...

WOOOH i don't think you guys even understand how much of a honour and pleasure it is to have my life coach Erika TQOC on the podcast. Erika has helped me change my fricken life! I have to pay my respects and give her her flowers because the mahi/work she does in this world changed my life and is changing women's lives!! We talk about her childhood, the key factors to her success, not givin...

This week's episode is like a flow on from last weeks, last week I talked about what I physically do to get out of bed cos i didn't want to get into my mindset but as I slowly start to feel better and more myself i've managed to get into the thought work. I share with you a journal entry that made me realise why I was feeling the way that I was feeling. Reminder to have more self compa...

Do the bare minimum! This doesn't sound like the best advice but for me, in moments when I can't get out of bed this has been the best advice. It helps stop me from overwhelm in getting a million and one things done but instead to just take one step at a time. Something is better than nothing. I hope this episode helps you! If you need mental health support please click the link below for...

I am back in Melbourne yal! I had the best holiday in Fiji and NZ and thought I would do an episode on all the lessons I learnt while I was away. This episode was like a little debrief on my holiday 🧡 Connect with me on IG @soextra.__ Want to join The Vibe Tribe? Click here

Want more confidence in your life? Listen to this!!! On this week's episode I share with you the tips and tricks I use to be more confident! 1. Awareness - what are you currently telling yourself? Drop the thoughts/self talk that doesn't help you! 2. Choose to be confident!! Confidence is not something I always have but it is something I always choose to be! 3. Become - What does "Confident (enter...