The So Extra Podcast

What are you holding onto so tightly that it's costing you your peace? For me, it's looked like trying to control my finances, worrying about my family, wanting certainty about my future, and believing that if I just planned a little more or worked a little harder, everything would finally feel okay. But lately, I've been learning that surrender isn't giving up but letting go of the things that we...

Everyone wants a high quality life. But very few people ever stop to ask... " What actually is a high quality life?" Is it more money? The dream relationship? The perfect body? A successful career? Or is it something much deeper? In this week's podcast episode, we're diving into what I believe creates a truly high quality life and why confidence isn't the destination... it&#3...

"You accept the love you think you deserve." But what if it's not just love? What if you also accept the life you think you deserve? The opportunities you don't take. The boundaries you don't set. The dreams you keep putting off. The way you allow others and yourself to treat you. In this week's podcast episode, we're diving into how your self worth impacts every area...

Hi my love! In today's podcast episode, I'm sharing 33 things I've learned at 33! Eeeekkkk! The truths, mindset shifts, and life lessons that have shaped who I am today. 🎧 Tune in and let me know which one resonates most. Want more? Join the "So Extra Sisterhood" here - ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/g/17qNMd8RWj/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the 21 Day Confidence Boo...

Some women struggle to make big life decisions but also can’t decide what they want for dinner 👀 And honestly it goes SO much deeper than being “indecisive" A lot of women have spent YEARS disconnecting from themselves through people pleasing, overthinking, fear of judgement and constantly prioritising everyone else so eventually they stop asking “What do I actually want?” In this podcast ep...

Most women think taking action means feeling confident first. But real action is doing the thing while fear is still there. Wearing the bikini while overthinking. Posting the video while doubting yourself. Speaking up while your voice shakes. Because confidence isn’t built BEFORE action, it’s built THROUGH it 🧡 In this podcast episode, I’m talking about: ✨ why fear keeps women stuck ✨ how avoid...

So many women think they lack confidence… But what they’re actually stuck in is the cycle of self doubt. You want to change your life. You want to show up bigger. Speak up more. Back yourself. Go after what you really want. But then the overthinking starts. “What if I fail?” “What if people judge me?” “What if I embarrass myself?” So instead of taking action… you wait. You wait to feel more ready....

Most women believe confidence comes first. They think only confident people take action but the truth is, people become confident BECAUSE they took action. Confidence is built through evidence. Evidence that you can trust yourself. Evidence that you can follow through. Evidence that you can survive discomfort and still keep moving. Every time you take action scared, you build self trust. And self...

“I’m not doing enough" A thought so many women carry every single day. Meanwhile they’re surviving hard seasons, battling self doubt, healing childhood wounds, showing up for everyone else, trying to build a life they love, carrying pressure nobody sees and still telling themselves they should be doing more. In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking about the exhausting pressure women live unde...

When you say, “I don’t feel like I’m enough…” …compared to what? Because that feeling is built on standards you didn’t consciously choose. Standards that tell you to be smaller, be better, be more, be different and no matter what you do, it still doesn’t feel like enough. In this episode, I’m breaking down: why “not enough” is actually a comparison who you’re really measuring yourself against and...

Move before the doubt has you spiralling. If you’ve been stuck in overthinking, self doubt, or fear of taking action , this episode will show you exactly how to break that cycle. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: 🧡 Why overthinking keeps you stuck (and how to interrupt it) 🧡 How to take action even when you don’t feel ready 🧡 The truth about confidence and why it comes after action This is for...

You’re stuck because you keep telling yourself “I already know this” Every time you hear something and mentally check out, you block your own growth. Because the truth is if you were fully living it, you wouldn’t be closing off from it. So many women think growth is about learning more…But really, it’s about staying open long enough to actually embody what you already know. It affects how you show...

You’re insecure because of what you’ve been taught to believe about yourself. If you grew up being criticised, compared, body shamed, overlooked, or made to feel like you were “too much” or “not enough”… Of course insecurity was born there. So many women think insecurity is just about confidence… But really, it runs deeper. It affects how you show up. How visible you let yourself be. What you tole...

You say you want more confidence, self love, visibility and freedom but are you still moving through life as the old version of you? 👀 In this episode, I’m talking about: 🧡 why identity is at the root of self love work 🧡 how old versions of you keep recreating the same life 🧡 one powerful step to start becoming the woman you actually want to be Enjoy! And let me know your takeaways in the comm...

So many women are living lives they never actually chose. The job. The relationship. The pressure. The body shame. The people pleasing. The beliefs. And then they wonder why they feel disconnected. In this episode, we’re talking about intentional living, self awareness, and how to stop living on autopilot and start asking: What is the reason? Do I actually want this? Or am I just repeating what I...

If you feel like you keep attracting the same situations, the same people, and the same feelings, this is not a coincidence. In this episode, I break down why you keep repeating patterns in your life whether it’s body image struggles, toxic relationships, people pleasing or feeling like you’re never enough and what these patterns are actually trying to teach you. I share my personal journey with:...

Sometimes ignorance isn’t a lack of awareness. It’s a coping mechanism. We say “I didn’t know” or “I didn’t realise”… but deep down there’s often a part of us that did know. Because facing the truth might mean we have to change something. In this episode I talk about how ignorance can show up in our lives, why we avoid certain truths, and how self-awareness is the first step to real confidence and...

You don’t actually want the goal. You want the feeling you believe the goal will give you. Confidence. Freedom. Peace in your own skin. So many women think they’ll finally feel good about themselves when they lose the weight, reach the goal, or become a “better” version of themselves. But what if you could start creating those feelings now? In this episode I talk about why the feeling matters more...

Everyone says places like Australia have “more opportunities”… but what if it’s not the country and it’s the confidence you step into when you give yourself permission to be seen? In this episode, we unpack how opportunity isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you recognise, claim, and create through the way you see your life. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overlooked, or like life would be bet...

Why do you keep sabotaging yourself even when you really want to change? In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about self sabotage, self worth, and why you keep holding yourself back from the confidence, body love, and life you say you want. Queen, self love is self protection! If you’ve ever procrastinated, doubted yourself, stayed quiet, people pleased, or talked yourself out of opportuni...

Unpopular opinion: I don’t believe in unconditional love when it comes to relationships with other people. In this episode, I unpack why unconditional love is often romanticised in a way that actually teaches women to tolerate disrespect, overgive, and abandon themselves in the name of being “loving.” We dive into: – How “loving unconditionally” can keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics – The dif...

How many times have you held back… Waiting for someone to approve you? Choose you? Validate you? Tell you it’s okay to go after what you want? In this episode we’re talking about self worth, confidence, and breaking free from people pleasing and perfectionism. Because waiting for permission is often fear! You don’t need permission to: 🧡 Start the business 🧡 Leave the relationship 🧡 Speak up in...

Hey queen! In this episode we talk about identity, ancestry, and the power of reconnecting to your roots as a pathway to deeper self worth and confidence. When you disconnect from your culture, you can start to disconnect from yourself. And when you reconnect, you remember who you are. You remember your strength. You remember your belonging. This episode is for the woman who feels caught between w...

Love yourself enough to be seen. Not when you lose the weight. Not when you’re more confident. Not when you’ve “fixed” yourself. NOW! In this episode, I’m talking about self love, confidence, visibility, and why so many women shrink themselves in relationships, at work, online, and even in their own lives. We hide our bodies. We silence our opinions. We play small so we don’t make other people unc...

What if self love isn’t about getting it right but about letting yourself be bad while you learn? In this episode, we’re talking about why so many women stay stuck, silent, and small because they’re terrified of being seen trying. Perfectionism, people pleasing, and the fear of embarrassment keep women in a chokehold. So we avoid starting. We avoid learning. We avoid becoming. But confidence isn’t...