The So Extra Podcast

If you feel like you keep attracting the same situations, the same people, and the same feelings, this is not a coincidence. In this episode, I break down why you keep repeating patterns in your life whether it’s body image struggles, toxic relationships, people pleasing or feeling like you’re never enough and what these patterns are actually trying to teach you. I share my personal journey with:...

Sometimes ignorance isn’t a lack of awareness. It’s a coping mechanism. We say “I didn’t know” or “I didn’t realise”… but deep down there’s often a part of us that did know. Because facing the truth might mean we have to change something. In this episode I talk about how ignorance can show up in our lives, why we avoid certain truths, and how self-awareness is the first step to real confidence and...

You don’t actually want the goal. You want the feeling you believe the goal will give you. Confidence. Freedom. Peace in your own skin. So many women think they’ll finally feel good about themselves when they lose the weight, reach the goal, or become a “better” version of themselves. But what if you could start creating those feelings now? In this episode I talk about why the feeling matters more...

Everyone says places like Australia have “more opportunities”… but what if it’s not the country and it’s the confidence you step into when you give yourself permission to be seen? In this episode, we unpack how opportunity isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you recognise, claim, and create through the way you see your life. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overlooked, or like life would be bet...

Why do you keep sabotaging yourself even when you really want to change? In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about self sabotage, self worth, and why you keep holding yourself back from the confidence, body love, and life you say you want. Queen, self love is self protection! If you’ve ever procrastinated, doubted yourself, stayed quiet, people pleased, or talked yourself out of opportuni...

Unpopular opinion: I don’t believe in unconditional love when it comes to relationships with other people. In this episode, I unpack why unconditional love is often romanticised in a way that actually teaches women to tolerate disrespect, overgive, and abandon themselves in the name of being “loving.” We dive into: – How “loving unconditionally” can keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics – The dif...

How many times have you held back… Waiting for someone to approve you? Choose you? Validate you? Tell you it’s okay to go after what you want? In this episode we’re talking about self worth, confidence, and breaking free from people pleasing and perfectionism. Because waiting for permission is often fear! You don’t need permission to: 🧡 Start the business 🧡 Leave the relationship 🧡 Speak up in...

Hey queen! In this episode we talk about identity, ancestry, and the power of reconnecting to your roots as a pathway to deeper self worth and confidence. When you disconnect from your culture, you can start to disconnect from yourself. And when you reconnect, you remember who you are. You remember your strength. You remember your belonging. This episode is for the woman who feels caught between w...

Love yourself enough to be seen. Not when you lose the weight. Not when you’re more confident. Not when you’ve “fixed” yourself. NOW! In this episode, I’m talking about self love, confidence, visibility, and why so many women shrink themselves in relationships, at work, online, and even in their own lives. We hide our bodies. We silence our opinions. We play small so we don’t make other people unc...

What if self love isn’t about getting it right but about letting yourself be bad while you learn? In this episode, we’re talking about why so many women stay stuck, silent, and small because they’re terrified of being seen trying. Perfectionism, people pleasing, and the fear of embarrassment keep women in a chokehold. So we avoid starting. We avoid learning. We avoid becoming. But confidence isn’t...

Boundaries are not about being mean. They are about self respect. In this episode, we talk about why so many women struggle to hold boundaries, how people pleasing affects confidence and self worth, and why boundaries are a non negotiable part of self love and emotional healing. I share real examples from my own life — why I didn’t rebook a podcast after being stood up, why I didn’t speak to my pa...

Self love isn’t avoiding your emotions, it’s learning how to feel them safely and without shame. In this episode, Love Yourself Enough to Feel Your Feelings Instead of Numbing Out, I talk about why so many women disconnect from their emotions, how emotional suppression impacts confidence and body image, and why feeling your feelings is a core part of real self love. You’ll learn: • why avoiding em...

We’re more connected than ever and more disconnected from ourselves at the same time. In this episode, we talk about what constant scrolling is really costing you: your presence, your confidence, your nervous system, and your ability to hear your own voice. If you’ve ever picked up your phone without meaning to, felt overstimulated, or noticed yourself avoiding your own thoughts this episode is fo...

Eating well isn’t about being “good,” following rules, or fixing your body. It’s about caring for yourself in a way that supports your energy, mood, and life. In this episode, we talk about what eating well actually means when you’re done with diets, food guilt, and all or nothing thinking. We cover: • why eating well has nothing to do with restriction • how food became moralised and tied to self...

So many women ignore aches, pains, and symptoms because they’ve learned to minimise themselves. In this episode, we talk about why we put off going to the doctor, brushing things off as “nothing,” or telling ourselves we’re overreacting even when our body is clearly asking for attention. We unpack: • why so many women delay getting checked • the fear of being dismissed or not taken seriously • the...

Movement was never meant to be a punishment. But for so many women, it became something they forced themselves to do instead of something that supported them. In this episode, we talk about why moving your body matters (not for weight loss but for confidence, mental health, and self love) You’ll hear: • why it’s important to move your body in a way that supports your life• how to move your body wi...

Welcome back to episode 4 of the "Love Yourself Enough To..." series. On this episode I'm talking about the moments you abandon yourself - the standards you lower, the dreams you postpone, and the parts of you that go quiet to feel safe. We explore: Why you settle What area you settle in How to find out you want more What choosing yourself actually looks like in real life This conver...

You don’t stay because you’re stupid. You stay because you were taught to doubt yourself. In this episode, I name the signs you’re in a toxic relationship (the obvious red flags and the not so obvious ones) including emotional manipulation, constant self doubt, lack of boundaries, people pleasing, and feeling unsafe being yourself. We talk about toxic relationships in romantic partnerships, friend...

Shut up! I'm so happy I'm backkk! Thank you for the love! Please enjoy this episode and take action TODAY! Love you xx

My loves! I'm backkkk!! And over the next 14 days I'm going to be doing back to back episodes for Valentines. This series is called "Love Yourself enough To" and I just know it'll help you show up more confidently and intentionally in your life with so much love! Please enjoy and show me some love in the comments/by sharing with your friends. Love you xx

Hi my love! If you're going through it please know things WILL get better! I am proof of this! I love you! Please listen to this episode where I share how I keep going after I feel like my world is crumbling. You got this queen! Leesh xx If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/ Want to...

🔥 NEW EPISODE with Special Guest Brooke Pomare 🔥 Ahhhh I’m SO excited to have the incredible Brooke Pomare on the poddy today! This one’s for the woman who’s walked through fire… and is still standing. Brooke gets real about what it’s like to grow up in a broken home, hating her life, hating her family, and the people around her and the long road it took to finally find herself. She opens up abo...

This ep will blow your mind… You don’t need to change your body, relationship status, or bank account to feel happy or worthy. But most women are stuck in the trap of:👉 “I’ll be happy when…” 👉 “I’ll be worthy when…” And it’s keeping them stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from their power. In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reason why you still don’t feel good enough and how to finally...

Queen, if you’ve ever felt like food is the enemy or movement is punishment this episode is for you! 🧡 I’m so grateful to have had Cherie and Kendall from Active Pacific on the poddy this week! They’re a powerhouse duo in the fitness and nutrition space, specialising in personalised training and nutrition for Polynesians. Cherie focuses on strength and mindset, reminding us that feeling amazing i...

You’re loud and confident in some rooms and quiet and unsure in others. That’s confidence code-switching — a survival pattern where you change who you are based on who’s around. In this episode, I’m breaking down: 🔸 Why you shrink around bold women🔸 Why you lead when no one else does🔸 And how to stop shape-shifting just to feel safe Ready to be the same YOU everywhere? Listen now! If you're...