The So Extra Podcast

We’re done glorifying burnout queen! Hustle culture had its moment—but the truth is, overworking yourself isn’t the flex it used to be.  In this episode, we’re diving into what’s replacing it: alignment, ease, and success without self-abandonment.  You get to create a life you love—without the grind! Want my $27 Training That Changes EVERTHING? Click here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/5...

What if you got curious instead of critical? 🤔 The next time you see a photo of yourself, instead of picking it apart, ask yourself: Why do I feel this way? Where did this belief come from? Because your worth was never tied to an angle, a pose, or the way the camera caught you in that moment. A photo is just that—a moment, not a measurement of your beauty, value, or confidence. You are still THAT...

This week’s poddy is inspired by your question: "How do I cut ties with fake friends?" I’m sharing my own experience, guiding you to have an honest conversation, take responsibility for your part, and heal—so the next friendship you attract is one that truly aligns with you. 🎧 Tune in now to take your next step forward! If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need, join my program...

Who told you that self-love has to take years? That you have to suffer, struggle, and ‘earn’ your way to feeling worthy? 👀 The truth is: you get to decide how long it takes you. Quantum leaps aren’t reserved for a lucky few. You don’t have to wait until you hit rock bottom or achieve some imaginary ‘perfect’ version of yourself to start loving the woman you are today. You could spend a lifetime h...

🚩 You’ve heard them. Maybe you’ve said them. Phrases like: ❌ “You carry your weight well.” ❌ “I need to slim down before [event].” ❌ “She’s so confident for her size.” ❌ “I was so bad for eating that.” These comments might seem harmless, but they reinforce fatphobia—both in the way you see others and how you see yourself. The more you say them, the more you internalise them. 🎧 In this episod...

Do you find yourself looking at old photos, wishing you could have that body back? The one you still picked apart back then? 🙃 In this episode, we’re unpacking why you romanticise your past body, how this mindset keeps you stuck, and what it really means to embrace the body you have right now.

I used to HATE my curly hair. 😞 For years, I straightened my curly hair every single day.  I thought my curls were messy, unruly—something to be fixed. But the truth? My rejection of my curls was just another way I was rejecting myself. 💔 I was rejecting my Polynesian identity without even realising it. I had been taught—like so many of us—that our features, our hair, our natural selves weren’t...

We’ve all been there—feeling unseen, unheard, and unappreciated by the people around us. But here's the truth: If you don’t value yourself, others won’t either. In this episode, we dive into why you feel undervalued and how to start owning your worth, setting boundaries, and demanding the respect you deserve. Tune in to discover how you can shift from feeling invisible to being the woman who stand...

Who said Valentine’s Day is just for couples? Queen, it’s time to flip the script. Instead of waiting for someone else to make you feel special, how about you become the love of your own life? 💐 In today’s episode, we’re talking about: Why self-love should come first (always) How to de-center relationships & reclaim your power 🌹 The best ways to spoil yourself like a QUEEN this Valentine’s B...

Queen, your body is already bikini ready! Confidence isn’t about changing your body—it’s about changing the way you see it. This episode will help you ditch the fear, own your space, and actually enjoy summer without holding back. And if you’re ready to put this into action, come to Your Safe Space Pool Day —a judgment-free zone to celebrate your body, have fun, and be fully YOU! Grab tix here Nee...

I have a confession to make… 😅 Last week, I caught myself deep in scarcity mode. You know that feeling when you’re questioning your goals and playing small because fear creeps in? Yep, that was me. But THIS week? Ohhh, Queen, we’re flipping the script and stepping into ABUNDANCE. 💫 On this episode, I’m sharing how I shifted out of lack and into possibility, resharing my 2025 goals (and saying th...

QUEEN! HAPPY NEW YEAAARRRRR! We are back in action and kicking off 2025 with a powerful episode to inspire you to THINK BIG and set goals that truly reflect self love this year!🚀  In this first episode of the year, I'm challenging you to step outside of your comfort zone and dream beyond the limits you've placed on yourself.  It's time to set intentions that will elevate your life and bring you c...

The holidays are here - a time for joy, connection, and celebration. But for many, it can also be a time of stress, overwhelm, and self doubt. In this episode, we're diving into what it really means to practice self love during the holiday season. From navigating family gatherings to setting boundaries and prioritising your well being, this conversation is packed with tips to help you feel grounde...

Navigating the holiday season can feel heavy when fatphobic comments are flying about but you don’t have to sit in silence. The holidays are meant for joy and connection, not bracing for body shaming remarks or diet talk. In this episode, I’m sharing how to protect your peace, set firm boundaries, and handle those triggering moments with confidence and grace. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by uns...

People often convince themselves that they will start 'one day' - but that ‘one day’ is a lie. As the holiday season approaches, you may push your goals to 2025, thinking there’s always time. . The truth? Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, and waiting for the 'perfect' moment only delays progress. In this episode, I tell you why you must stop deferring your future and take action now. The most powerful ti...

Queen, how many summers have you sat out of your own life? How many beach days, BBQs, and moments of joy have you skipped because you were afraid to be seen in your body? You’ve been sold the lie that summer is only for those with “perfect” bodies. But here’s the truth: Your body is already worthy of sunshine, laughter, and memories NOW! The world doesn’t need you to shrink to fit in. It needs you...

It’s not just about them , Queen - it’s about you . The type of partner you attract reflects the relationship you have with yourself. If you’re settling for less, accepting breadcrumbs, or chasing unavailable people, it’s time to ask: What am I tolerating within myself that allows this? This episode dives deep into why you keep choosing the same toxic patterns and how to break the cycle by loving...

You say things like, 'I look like a whale,' or 'I shouldn’t be eating this in front of people 💔 These aren’t just throwaway comments - they are reflections of how you truly feel about your body. This week’s podcast is a raw, honest look at why you put yourself down in front of others and how those words impact your confidence, relationships, and self worth. Tune in to learn why it’s time to stop...

Queen hello! Thank you for being here! In this episode, I tackle a vital conversation - how to dress for your size and feel truly unstoppable. Fashion should be an expression of who you are, not some sort of restriction. I share insights on breaking free from societal norms and embracing styles that empower you to own your body and dress sense confidently. This isn’t just about clothes - it’s abou...

Such an important msg on today's podcast! You are enough as you are right now! No conditions babe. Love you! Want to work with me? Destination Self Love is NOW OPEN! Click here

Hey gf! Thanks so much for being here! On this week’s poddy ep, I’m joined by the incredible  Ama Phillips  of  Lashfix Powerhouse ! Ama is not only a good friend but an incredible biz coach, and I knew I had to have her on to talk about the crucial role confidence plays in business It’s clear that true confidence comes from a foundation of self-love and self-trust 🧡 We dive deep into limiting be...

What’s some daily habits that can help me build body confidence over time? Stop talking 🤫 Like actually STFU 🤐 We’ve normalised disrespecting, mocking and speaking poorly about ourselves and it needs to stop ✋ I need you to filter yourself (And this is the only time I’ll tell you to do this) But you need your filter the words that come out of your mouth 👄 Too often I hear women say things like...

I hate seeing my sister struggle with her confidence, how do I help her? Such a beautiful q, I love that you care so much about your sis 🥰 But unfortunately you can’t want it more than her You can’t become confident and then transfer it to her What you can do tho is keep doing you boo 🙌 Keep showing up as the most confident version of you And maybe some of your confidence magic may land on her...

How Do I Stay Confident In Times Of Uncertainty/Change? 🔥 Ground yourself - take a deep breath 🔥 Be present - don’t go future and worry about all the what ifs 🔥Focus on what you CAN control - your thoughts, attitude and actions 🔥 Be kind to yourself, practice self compassion, give yourself a cuddle hehe 🔥Trust that you can adapt and step into a solutions mindset 🔥 See it as an opportunity fo...

I’ve been working on my body confidence but negative thoughts about my body keep popping up. Is this normal? Yes❣️ Building body confidence takes time ⏰ Think about it - these negative thoughts have been around most of your life (For me they were around for OVER 20 years) 😒 Acknowledge the thought without judgement When these thoughts pop up, instead of getting caught up in it Become aware and d...