The Sex After Kids Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Why do you feel unchosen, unsexy, and alone, even when your relationship looks "fine"? If you're the one always initiating hard conversations, tracking emotional distance, or trying to "fix" disconnection... you may be managing the emotional labor of the relationship by yourself. And over time, that role quietly erodes safety, intimacy, and desire, not bec...

Send us Fan Mail How do you actually share the mental load without constant fighting, resentment, or feeling like you’re doing it all? This is part 3 of a 4-part series on the mental load — and today, we're getting practical . I'm sharing how my partner and I used the Fair Play Method by Eve Rodsky to manage the mental load in our house — what worked, what didn't, and how we adapted...

Send us Fan Mail If talking about the mental load already feels like walking into a fight, this episode is for you. Because most mental load conversations don’t fail due to bad intentions — they fail because couples are stuck in an unspoken manager–assistant dynamic that kills safety, teamwork, and desire. In this episode, we unpack: Why the mental load isn't just about chores, but responsibi...

Send us Fan Mail If the two of you feel like you're living in the same house but carrying completely different worlds, this episode will hit home. Welcome to Mental Load 101. This is the first in a four episode series that explains why resentment is high, intimacy is low, and why you keep having the same fights no matter how many systems or chore charts you try. In today's episode: • Wha...

Send us Fan Mail Porn often feels like the easier option — no pressure, no rejection, no emotional work. But when it becomes your go-to outlet, it can quietly chip away at intimacy, connection, and confidence... without you even noticing. This episode isn't about shame. It's about clarity. We're unpacking the real impact of porn in relationships — especially if you're a dad, a...

Send us Fan Mail If you're the higher-libido partner and every "not tonight" feels like a gut-punch, this episode might change everything. Because it's not the rejection that turns her off — it's how you respond afterward. Most men were never taught what to do when sex disappears after babies, stress, or burnout. When connection feels out of reach, every "no" can...

Send us Fan Mail You keep initiating. She keeps pulling away. If you're a dad (or higher-libido partner) hearing "stop pressuring me," this is for you. You're not broken, creepy, or needy — you're reaching for connection with the only tool you've got. Let's show you a better one. Try my Roommates to Romance Challenge to create connection, rebuild trust, and bring...

Send us Fan Mail Why do dads seem to shut down after kids,  or push for sex that doesn't feel connected? Dan Doty has spent 20 years working with men and boys in deeply intimate spaces. In this episode, he shares why sex often feels like survival for dads, and why so many men feel emotionally orphaned after becoming parents. If your partner seems checked out or constantly initiating (and you&...

Send us Fan Mail If you’re tired of hearing "not tonight," this episode is for you. For the partner who is asking for sex all the time, facing constant rejection feels personal. It chips away at your confidence and makes you want to stop trying altogether. But what if the "no" isn't about you at all? This episode is the final installment of our Perimenopause + Intimacy ser...

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever found yourself wondering, "W ho even am I right now?" - you're not alone. This episode is a must-listen for couples navigating midlife, marriage, and the hormonal rollercoaster known as perimenopause (and andropause — yes, it's a thing). My guest Brooke Davis gets real about how these changes can wreck emotional regulation and connection if...

Send us Fan Mail If your partner's libido seems MIA since perimenopause showed up or if you are wondering where your own went, this episode is for you. We're unpacking what's really going on with libido changes in this season, and how to stop treating each other like broken sex robots. This is part 2 of our Perimenopause + Intimacy series, and today's convo includes the science...

Send us Fan Mail If you're feeling like roommates instead of lovers, perimenopause might be playing a bigger role than you think. Whether you're the higher libido partner waiting for things to "go back to normal," or the one navigating body changes, stress, and zero desire... you're not alone. This episode kicks off our Perimenopause + Intimacy series — and it's packe...

Send us Fan Mail Today we are going deeper into how your stress impacts your relationship, and your intimacy, and what to do about it. We have a special guest interview this week on the podcast with Naturopath Heather Drummond whose speciality is the nervous system.  Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & Guest Welcome 3:59 - Heather's Background & Nervous System Work 6:43 - Nervous System...

Send us Fan Mail Do you mistake stress or tiredness for a hard no when it comes to intimacy? You’re not alone! In this episode, I unpack the “traffic lights” of the nervous system and how to stop defaulting to NO—so you can discover more ways to say yes (or a real, empowered maybe) to connection after kids. Timestamps & What You’ll Learn: 00:14 – Introduction to Sex After Kids Podcast 00:59 –...

Send us Fan Mail Ready to get out of the initiate-and-avoid rut and back to playful, flirty, connected sex - without the pressure? In this special episode, I share why I created The Naked Fun Comeback™, what makes it different from all the "just try harder" advice, and how you can join this summer's case study group. Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome & why this is a direct invitation...

Send us Fan Mail Save this one for Saturday night. Follow along during this guided date and see where the evening takes you. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast I share a guided date night experience from the Sex After Kids Summit Vault. Follow along as I show you through one of my favourite activities to get you out of busy parent mode and into landed lover mode. These guided date night...

Send us Fan Mail Wondering if you need a sex coach, a couples counsellor, or both? I discuss my honest take on how each one can help, what most couples are really feeling (and why), and why it’s not about “fixing” you or your partner—but learning new skills together. Timestamps & What You’ll Learn: 01:14 – Sex Coach vs Couples Counsellor 03:09 – Common Relationship Struggles 05:03 – Why Most P...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absolutely exhausting. (No, thank you!) If you’re even flirting with the D-word—even in your head—this episode is for you. Because keeping those...

Send us Fan Mail Whether you’re fresh into postpartum or it’s been years since your last baby and your body still feels unfamiliar, you’re not alone. In this episode, I get radically real about intimacy, body image, and feeling sexy in the body you have—right now. What You’ll Learn: 01:08 — Intimacy & Body Image After Kids 01:32 — The Reality of Postpartum Bodies 02:48 — Pressure, Partners, an...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner). What we cover: 01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again 02:11 — Ze...

Send us Fan Mail Is scheduled sex really the death of desire…or is it your secret weapon for reigniting connection after kids? In this episode, Sofia (your TMI bedroom advice bestie for parents) busts the myths about putting sex on the calendar—and shows you how to turn obligation into anticipation. What You’ll Learn: 01:07 Debunking the Scheduled Sex Myth 01:21 Why People Resist Scheduling Sex 01...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling like “roommates” instead of lovers? You’re not alone. In this episode, I share my absolute favourite sex books that every parent should have on their nightstand—plus the real-life stories and expert tips behind each pick. What you'll learn: The best books for reigniting desire and connection after kids How to talk about sex without shame or awkwardness Why exploring t...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I share when my partner and I went to couples counselling after the birth of our first child. From my post-partum anxiety I was experiencing resentment and contempt and didn’t want this to be the theme of our relationship.  In this episode I cover:  04:05 Why I hated admitting they needed help  06:12 Why everything wasn’t all my partners fault (much as I wanted it...

Send us Fan Mail In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing the one   secret that helped me go from six months of shut-down to regularly saying yes (and even initiating!)—without faking, forcing, or bypassing my body’s needs. My vagina had a tantrum last week and we are going to talk about it. Whether you're the higher libido partner wondering what’s going on behind the “no,” or the lower l...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling resentful, disconnected, or just done with intimacy because you're the one holding everything together? Or maybe you're doing your share —and still hearing that it’s not enough? This episode is for you. We’re diving into the mental load : what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system (and your sex life), and why even splitting things 50/50 doesn’t always...