The Sex After Kids Podcast

Send us Fan Mail If s*x after kids feels awkward, disconnected, or harder than it used to… you are not alone. In this episode, Sofia breaks down why most couples struggle with intimacy after kids — and why it’s NOT because you’re broken, selfish, or “bad at s*x.” Most couples were never actually taught intimacy skills. Instead, we relied on chemistry, novelty, alcohol, low stress, and spontaneity...

Send us Fan Mail Why do so many women shut down sexually in long-term relationships? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional dynamic underneath sexual shutdown, rejection loops, pressure, and disconnection… especially after kids. This conversation explores: why desire can “go underground” how women are taught to manage men’s emotions the connection between boundaries, sexuality, and emo...

Send us Fan Mail What does real intimacy after kids actually look like? In this episode of the S*x After Kids podcast, I’m sharing a real-life bedroom dispatch — including the awkward moments, miscommunication, nervous system shutdown, and honest conversations that almost made us stop halfway through intimacy. Because real s*x after kids doesn’t always look effortless or spontaneous. Sometimes it...

Send us Fan Mail If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you. Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, staying patient, and waiting for things to get better. But sometimes those efforts unintentionally keep couples trapped in the same cycle. I...

Send us Fan Mail If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you. In this episode of the S x After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting s x after kids — and why it’s often NOT actually a libido problem. We’re unpacking: Why desire disappears after kids The “over-needed” nervous system W...

Send us Fan Mail If you feel like your relationship has turned into roommates after kids… this is for you. This episode breaks down 5 things that are quietly killing your s x life after kids — that have nothing to do with s x. Because for most couples, it’s not about desire, effort, or “trying harder.” It’s about the patterns that build distance without you even realizing it. In this episode, we t...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve tried therapy. You’ve had the hard conversations. So why does your sex life still feel stuck? If you feel like you’ve done everything “right” but still end up lying in bed feeling more like roommates than partners… this episode will help you understand why. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why therapy doesn’t always fix intimacy The real reason...

Send us Fan Mail What actually changes when couples fix their sex life? It’s not just more sex. It’s how you talk about it. How you experience it. And how you feel with each other. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down the real shifts couples experience when they rebuild intimacy—without pressure, awkwardness, or constant conflict. This is not the “everything is fixed overni...

Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel so much harder after kids—even when you still love each other? Most couples don’t fall out of love. They fall into patterns where connection gets replaced with pressure, shutdown, and silence. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why intimacy changes after kids The real reason sex starts to feel complicated or avoided The pressure/shutdow...

Send us Fan Mail Are you and your partner amazing co-parents but struggling to feel like lovers—especially with kids in the mix? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down the five habits that help couples with kids move beyond survival mode and rediscover playful, connected intimacy, no matter how busy life gets. We'll talk about radical curiosity, honest feedback, the power of lau...

Send us Fan Mail This is a love letter for anyone who's lost touch with desire and feels the weight of expectation after kids. I know what it's like to feel shut down and alone in your relationship. You don't want sex, you don't know why and everytime he asks it feels like he’s making it a personal failure on your part. In this episode, I unpack the truth behind "not tonig...

Send us Fan Mail Ever find yourself wanting intimacy more than your husband—and wondering what changed after kids? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm talking about the real reasons behind this shift, why "trying harder" isn’t working, and how to start changing the dynamic in your marriage without losing yourself. If you're ready to break out of the cycle and reconnect...

Send us Fan Mail "I just don't care about sex anymore." If that thought has crossed your mind, you're not alone—and it might not be about libido at all. In this episode, we explore how pleasure often disappears from everyday life (especially for parents), and why that has a direct impact on desire. We talk about stress, caretaker mode, and how reconnecting with small moments of...

Send us Fan Mail Most couples are walking into their sex life with the same quiet assumption: If the relationship is good... And if there's love and attraction...Then sex should just work. And when it doesn't? It's easy to believe something is wrong—with you, your partner, or the relationship itself. In this episode, we challenge that belief completely. Because great sex isn't...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it? In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring—a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself during intimate moments instead of being present in your body. If you've ever found yourself thinking things like "What do...

Send us Fan Mail What if rebuilding sexual desire wasn't about trying harder — but about changing the experiences your body associates with sex? In this episode, we explore the concept of the positive feedback loop of great sex and how your nervous system plays a powerful role in whether intimacy feels inviting or overwhelming. When sexual experiences feel safe, pleasurable, and connected, yo...

Send us Fan Mail Why does sex after kids suddenly feel so complicated? Many couples fall into a quiet pattern after becoming parents: one partner keeps initiating, the other starts avoiding, and both end up feeling rejected, pressured, or disconnected. Over time flirting disappears, intimacy becomes tense, and sex slowly fades out of the relationship. In this throwback episode of the Sex After Kid...

Send us Fan Mail In this throwback episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, I delve into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. We cover several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of soc...

Send us Fan Mail If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken. Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenopause and after having children. But most couples aren't taught how intimacy changes during this stage of life — so they assume som...

Send us Fan Mail If sex feels like a chore in your 40s or 50s, you're not broken. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast , we're unpacking why desire disappears during perimenopause — even when love hasn't — and how to reconnect with intimacy without pushing through pain or guilt. You'll learn: How hormone shifts impact desire, arousal, and lubrication Why stress and men...

Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel different after having kids — or in perimenopause and midlife? Flatter, harder, painful, or just... off ? You're not broken. And your body isn't failing you. In this episode, we talk about what actually happens to your body, brain, and nervous system after childbirth, postpartum, and hormonal shifts — and how to start rebuilding intimacy, even if things...

Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest mood killer in your sex life isn't lack of desire, time, or chemistry—but the pressure to be perfect? In this episode, we're digging into why chasing "perfect sex" actually leads to more awkwardness, less connection, and way less fun. Plus, how to shift from performance mode into curiosity and communication. We cover: Why performance anxiety...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to Season 2! We're kicking things off with a hard truth: If sex feels awkward, disconnected, or just plain off, you might be sabotaging your own sex life without realizing it. In this episode, I'm sharing three traps that quietly kill intimacy — even in the most loving relationships — and what you can do to turn things around. We'll talk about: Why "spe...

Send us Fan Mail Is your relationship feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? You're not alone—and you're not stuck. In this episode, I'm walking you through the proven framework that's helping couples reconnect and rebuild intimacy in a real, practical way. We'll talk about: The four phases of intimacy every couple experiences Why sex after kids matters more t...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever had sex end in shutdown, rushing, or unexpected emotion, and neither of you knew what just happened? In this intimate episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I explore why sex can feel heavy, confusing, or emotionally charged for couples, even when there is love and desire on both sides. This episode is for you if: One partner shuts down, goes numb, or gets emotional...