The Sex Addiction Podcast For High-achievers and Entrepreneurs

Betrayal trauma adds a complex layer to relational recovery. Sex and porn addiction takes a toll on the betrayed partner and they will need specific things to heal the marriage and rebuild trust. Empathy for their pain is one of the big ones. But, being empathetic is easier said than done. Often guys report that empathy statements feel unnatural and robotic. In this episode, I interview Kristin Sn...

Sex and porn addiction happen in an environment that allows them to happen. Often, men try to “stop.” But, stopping something that your brain wants to do is quite difficult. There is a reason that they call overcoming sex and pornography addiction “recovery” rather than “quitting.” This is because change is required. You weren’t born a sex addict. You became one. Therefore, if you were able to rec...

There are a ton of resources, podcasts, and books about making it through the initial crisis following sexual betrayal. But, there's hardly anything about thriving as a couple after betrayal. My clients are high-achievers who refuse to settle for anything mediocre. This includes their marriage. The goal is not just to avoid divorce... You want to be in the best possible marriage you can be in. My...

If you have a sex or porn addiction, then you've heard about the shame/acting-out cycle. But, can you break the cycle if you don't understand shame and how it works? Troy Love is a Psychotherapist, Educator, Consultant, and Keynote Speaker. He’s also a two-time Amazon Best-Selling Author. I love Troy's approach to sex addiction treatment. He has a simple approach to complex concepts. I first heard...

Humans are hard-wired to succeed. But, what is success? Is it money? Is it being able to get any woman you want? Is it being wanted and lusted after? Sex and porn addiction is not about sex and porn... There is a motivator underneath these behaviors and your recovery depends on YOU uncovering it. For high-achieving men, the motives often revolve around attention-seeking, validation, respect, and a...

We know that the opposite of addiction is not sobriety… It's connection. Here’s the problem though… connection is complex. Every sex addiction therapist, counselor, podcast, book, and YouTube video will tell you to connect with other addicts. You will hear them telling you to call guys from group when you are struggling or experiencing cravings/urges. All of this advice is spot on… but connection...

Relapsing as a sex addict has significant consequences. You could end up divorced, ruining your relationship with your kids, and possibly unable to stay in a committed relationship. Jason VanRuler (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) works with high-achieving men who struggle with sex addiction, porn addiction, and infidelity. He has a unique approach that focuses on customization and efficiency. A...

You've probably heard that "childhood trauma" is the leading cause of sex addiction. But, what is childhood trauma? And, what are you supposed to do about it? Trauma is not just physical abuse, sexual abuse, or verbal abuse... It can be as simple as telling your child what to do, where to go to college, and what to do with their life. Your job as a parent is not to shape your child, it is to allow...

Connection is everything in sex addiction recovery. But, what if you can’t find men that you connect with? Just because you are in a room or on Zoom with a bunch of guys doesn’t mean that connection is happening. To thrive in recovery, you need to find your tribe. This episode is from the Addicted Mind Podcast. Duane Osterlind interviewed me on the topic of community and connection in sex and porn...

Is sex or porn addiction really the right word? You can be the judge after listening to this episode. Compulsive sexual behavior can have many causes ranging from societal influence, successful male culture, unmet needs, a desire for control, and many other factors.  This episode will break down each of the four categories so that you can determine what it is that drives your compulsive sexual beh...

Many successful men struggle with sex addiction, porn addiction, and having affairs. While many of them seek treatment, a full recovery from sex addiction requires a significant commitment. Duane Osterlind and I map out what is required to come out of sex addiction better than ever before. Most successful men achieve success in business and in their marriage while only giving a fraction of themsel...

Can you activate your sex addiction without violating your sobriety? In this episode, I share with listeners how I was able to get “sober” for 7 years only to discover that I was actually in my addiction the whole time. The brain processes that you are activating when engaging in sex addiction can also be activated by things that have nothing to do with sex or pornography. This poses the question…...

Men often hit a point in their sex addiction recovery where they get stuck. They begin losing motivation, their marriage starts to struggle again, and therapy starts to feel repetitive as if no more progress is being made. This is called recovery fatigue and it’s a dangerous place to be. This is where men will often slow down, begin to give up, or even stop making further progress.  Recovering fro...

Sex addiction is what is called a process addiction. If you truly want to achieve long-term sobriety, you need to understand what this means for you and your specific compulsive sexual behaviors. Every guy's sex and porn addiction is unique to them. Understanding this uniqueness is how you will recover. There are specific brain processes that you are chasing and it is identifying these that will f...

Sex and porn addicts must disconnect from themselves in order for them to do what they do. People who are connected to their purpose, needs, desires, and emotions typically do not become sex and porn addicts. High-achievers and entrepreneurs dehumanize themselves over time by transforming into "productivity machines." In a world where achievement is the priority, emotions become an inconvenience a...

Sex and pornography addiction is different for high-achievers and entrepreneurs. Their brains operate differently from the rest of the population. Therefore, their recovery will also be unique. Like most things in this world, the majority of information on sex addiction that you will find is geared towards the majority of the population. Well, high-achievers are not the majority. They make up just...