The Quiet As Kept Podcast With Shawnti B.

Being the strong one is praised—but rarely supported. In this episode, Shawnti talks about survival mode, burnout, and the emotional cost of always holding it together. If rest feels unsafe and exhaustion feels normal, this conversation is for you. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-sel...

Affirmations without boundaries don’t work—and this episode tells the truth about why. Shawnti explores how guilt, access, and emotional over-availability keep people stuck, even when they’re “doing the work.” This conversation challenges the idea that healing is soft and exposes the discomfort required to protect your peace. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Ma...

New year, same patterns? Let’s talk about it. In this episode, Shawnti Refuge cuts through the motivation fluff and gets honest about why so many people repeat years instead of changing their lives. This conversation is about comfort, avoidance, survival mode, and the quiet lies we tell ourselves to stay familiar. If you’ve been saying “this is my year” but nothing feels different, this episode wi...

 The new year isn’t about resolutions — it’s about reclamation. In this powerful finale to the Healing Through the Holidays series, Shawnti Refuge guides listeners through reflection, release, and rebirth. Learn how to reclaim your peace, embody your healing, and prepare to step into The Audacity of a Healing Woman beginning January 14.  ✍🏾 JOURNAL PROMPTS Let’s write this out together, sis. What...

 Self-care is not selfish. It’s sacred. In this soothing episode, Shawnti Refuge reminds us that true rest is a form of resistance. Through storytelling and guided prompts, she shares how to release guilt, reset your energy, and build new rituals of nourishment during the holiday season.  ✍🏾 JOURNAL PROMPTS Grab your journal, love. Let’s check in with your body and spirit: What does my body need...

Oprah opened the door to a powerful conversation about estrangement — but there’s a whole side of this experience that didn’t get covered.  The grief, the guilt, the identity shift… the part where mothers are hurting too. Estrangement isn’t simple.  It isn’t black and white.  And it isn’t always about blame — sometimes it’s about survival, emotional safety, and the painful work of breaking generat...

  Boundaries are not rejection — they’re protection. In this powerful episode, Shawnti Refuge dives into why it’s so hard to say no during the holidays, how guilt is part of growth, and why peace should never come with a price tag. Through honest storytelling and guided prompts, you’ll learn how to create guilt-free boundaries that honor your healing.  ✍🏾 JOURNAL PROMPTS Let’s get into some refle...

 Grief doesn’t always wear black. In this raw and honest episode, Shawnti Refuge opens up about the silent grief that shows up during the holidays — the kind that comes from broken relationships, lost expectations, and the versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown. Learn how to honor your emotions, redefine healing, and turn your pain into purpose through journaling.  ✍🏾 JOURNAL PROMPTS Let’s take a m...

 Some homes feel like healing, others feel like history. In this week’s episode, Shawnti Refuge opens up about the emotional reality of family gatherings during the holidays — and how to protect your peace when family ain’t safe. Learn how to set boundaries, redefine love, and give yourself permission to choose distance without guilt.  ✍🏾 JOURNAL PROMPTS Pull out your journal, sis. Let’s unpack t...

In this powerful episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge dives into the emotional and psychological impact of the ongoing government shutdown — not from a political lens, but a deeply human one. When the government shuts down, it’s not just budgets and offices that pause — it’s people’s peace of mind. Shawnti explores how uncertainty, delayed benefits, and unpaid work create real men...

The holidays can bring both joy and grief, especially when you’re carrying unspoken pain. In this episode, Shawnti Refuge opens up about her own healing journey after divorce and shares three powerful pillars for finding peace through the season: honoring your truth, creating rituals that serve you, and setting boundaries that protect your energy. You’ll walk away with fresh perspective, real stor...

Ever feel like the “strong one” who carries everyone’s problems? In this episode, Shawnti Refuge breaks down why we take on emotional baggage that doesn’t belong to us, and how to finally set it down. Learn how to love without losing yourself, plus a journaling prompt to help you reclaim your peace. Perfect for anyone tired of being the family savior or holding burdens that were never theirs. Appl...

Fall is coming — and so is the chaos. If you don’t set boundaries now, you’ll be running on fumes by October. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge breaks down why “yes” has been your default answer, how overextending yourself is draining your peace, and why it’s time to pre-decide your limits before the busy season hits. You’ll learn: Why boundaries are an act of self-love...

Ever prayed for peace… only to panic when you finally got it? In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge breaks down why peace can feel uncomfortable when survival mode has been your normal. From pacing in a quiet house to over-functioning when no one even asked you to, this one goes deep into the nervous system, trauma patterns, and why so many of us sabotage our stillness. You...

In Episode 36 of The Quiet as Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge speaks directly to those still holding onto hurt, waiting on an apology that may never come. She explores how to reclaim your peace when closure isn’t on the table. With real stories, science-backed insight, and journal prompts, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to stop waiting and start healing. 🎧 Listen now and explore hea...

In Episode 35 of The Quiet as Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores what it means to transition from survival to softness. If you inherited strength, hustle, and hyper-independence—but now crave rest, joy, and peace—this episode is your permission slip. Through storytelling, neuroscience, and journal prompts, Shawnti shows how softness can be a radical act of self-love. 🎧 Tune in now and reclaim...

In Episode 34 of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge challenges the idea that joy must be earned. Instead, she reminds listeners that joy is a daily practice, not a reward for suffering. Through storytelling, science, and powerful journaling prompts, this episode helps you reclaim joy in the ordinary and give yourself permission to feel good—every single day. 🎧 Listen now and explore guide...

In Episode 33 of The Quiet as Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores the subtle—but powerful—difference between isolation and peace. Is your solitude part of your healing… or a shield from your pain? This episode offers gentle truth, powerful journaling prompts, and a reminder that real peace doesn’t require you to go numb. 🎧 Listen now and download journaling tools at ShawntiRefuge.com Send us F...

In Episode 32 of The Quiet as Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge kicks off the Reclaiming Joy series by asking two powerful questions: What does joy mean to you, and when did you lose it? Through storytelling, science, and guided journaling prompts, she helps listeners explore how trauma and survival mode can strip us of joy—and what it takes to get it back. 🎧 Tune in now and visit ShawntiRefuge.com f...

In this emotionally raw episode, Shawnti Refuge shares her personal experience navigating the mother wound, including going no contact with her mother to protect her mental health. This episode explores what happens when maternal love comes wrapped in trauma, how to begin healing, and how journaling can support you through it. 🎧 Tune in and visit ShawntiRefuge.com to access support tools, journal...

In this gentle and powerful episode, Shawnti Refuge explores unresolved grief—the lingering kind that we carry silently. Whether you’ve lost a person, a relationship, or a version of yourself, this episode offers space to name your loss, honor your story, and begin healing with the help of guided journaling prompts and soulful reflection. 🎧 Listen now and visit ShawntiRefuge.com for free support...

In this episode, Shawnti Refuge unpacks the emotional toll of being “the strong one” in the family. From childhood pressure to cultural expectations, she shares her personal story and the psychological impact of performing strength. Learn how journaling helped her release the weight and reclaim softness—and how you can do the same. 🎧 Listen now and visit ShawntiRefuge.com to access support and he...

In this raw and powerful episode, Shawnti Refuge shares her personal journey of going no contact with her mother for the sake of her mental health. She unpacks the emotional weight of choosing peace over patterns, especially in cultures where family is held sacred—even at the expense of wellbeing. This is a must-listen for anyone navigating toxic family dynamics and the grief of protecting your pe...

In this follow-up episode, Shawnti Refuge shares her personal story from Quiet As Kept —a chapter about being estranged from her children and the journey of reconnection. She discusses what it means to rebuild trust, hold space for uncomfortable truths, and begin again. If you're navigating healing after distance, this episode is your reminder: restoration is possible. 🎧 Listen now and visit...

In this deeply heartfelt episode, Shawnti Refuge unpacks the complex grief of estrangement between parents and adult children. Whether you’re grieving in silence or trying to understand what went wrong, this episode offers reflection, journal prompts, and emotional support. 🎧 Listen now and visit ShawntiRefuge.com for the free ebook Still Love You, Always and support group details. Send us Fan Ma...