The Quiet As Kept Podcast With Shawnti B.

This season we've talked about emotional exhaustion, carrying invisible burdens, healing, peace, and what happens when you ignore yourself for too long. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain. This isn't just a conversation about rebranding my business. It's a conversation about rebranding my life. In this season finale of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, I'm sharing what has chang...

At some point, your mind, body, and spirit stop whispering. They start screaming. The anxiety.  The burnout.  The resentment.  The exhaustion.  The feeling that you've somehow lost yourself. None of it happens overnight. It happens when you've spent years ignoring your own needs while showing up for everyone else. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores the...

Have you ever prayed for peace... and then felt uncomfortable when you finally got it? Have you ever found yourself questioning healthy relationships, overthinking good situations, or creating problems where there weren't any? You might not be addicted to drama. You might be addicted to familiarity. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores why peace can feel unse...

You slept. You took a day off. You tried to rest. So why are you still tired? Because not all exhaustion is physical. Sometimes your body isn't asking for sleep. It's asking for relief. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores emotional exhaustion—the kind of tired that doesn't go away after a nap. We'll discuss the signs people miss, what research...

Everyone can see when you're physically tired. What they don't see is the mental load you're carrying every single day. The appointments. The deadlines. The worries. The emotional labor. The constant responsibility of being the one everyone depends on. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores the invisible weight so many people carry while still showing...

Healing isn’t aesthetic. It’s uncomfortable, messy, emotional, and deeply personal. In this episode, Shawnti Refuge closes out Mental Health Awareness Month with a raw conversation about what healing actually requires: accountability, honesty, boundaries, grief, and the willingness to stop romanticizing survival mode. If you’ve been saying you want peace, growth, or healing—but keep repeating the...

Not every mother-daughter relationship feels safe, and that’s a truth many people struggle to say out loud. In this episode, Shawnti Refuge unpacks the complexity of loving your mother while still needing healing, boundaries, or distance. From emotional neglect to generational trauma, this conversation explores the “mother wound” and the silent guilt that often comes with it. If you’ve ever felt c...

Motherhood is praised publicly… and suffered through privately. In this episode, Shawnti Refuge gets real about the emotional weight of being “a good mother” and how unrealistic expectations, silent pressure, and unprocessed trauma can slowly break you down. Backed by research and lived experience, this conversation dives into mom guilt, burnout, identity loss, and the mental load that nobody talk...

Everybody keeps saying they’re “fine.”  But anxiety is loud. Burnout is real. And functioning doesn’t mean you’re okay. In this episode, I’m breaking down what mental health actually looks like when you’re the one everybody depends on. The strong one. The reliable one. The one who “got it.” Because just because you’re showing up doesn’t mean you’re not silently drowning. We’re talking high-functio...

You’ve acknowledged it.  You’ve faced it.  Now it’s time to release it. In this final episode of the Emotional Spring Cleaning series, we’re talking about what it actually means to let go—for real. Not just saying “I’m done,” but emotionally detaching, reclaiming your power, and choosing yourself without guilt. Because closure doesn’t always come from them.  Sometimes it comes from you deciding yo...

Let’s be honest… you already know. You know what hurt you.  You know what didn’t sit right.  You know what you should’ve walked away from. But instead of facing it… you stayed busy, distracted, and “focused on other things.” In this episode, we’re unpacking emotional avoidance—the habits, distractions, and behaviors that keep you from actually dealing with what’s real. Because staying busy is not...

You keep saying it’s different this time… but it keeps ending the same way. Different person. Same outcome. Same feelings. Same frustration. In this episode, we’re breaking down the emotional patterns you keep repeating in your relationships—whether that’s romantic, friendships, or even family. Because it’s not always about who you’re choosing… it’s about what you haven’t healed. We’re talking abo...

You’ve been holding it together for everybody… but who’s holding space for you? In this episode, we’re unpacking what it really looks like to carry unprocessed emotions, unresolved pain, and old survival habits that no longer serve you. Just because you’ve learned how to function through it doesn’t mean you’ve healed from it. This is your wake-up call to stop romanticizing your resilience and star...

High-Functioning but Highly Unhealed In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores the emotional reality many high-achieving women face — appearing successful on the outside while quietly carrying emotional exhaustion on the inside. This conversation addresses high-functioning depression, burnout, emotional suppression, and the pressure women feel to keep everything togeth...

In this Women’s History Month episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores one of the quietest and most complicated forms of grief women carry — the mother wound . What happens when the person who was supposed to nurture you couldn’t?  What does healing look like when your mother is still alive, but the relationship is painful, distant, or unresolved? In this raw conversation, Sh...

Healing Isn’t Pretty: The Rage Women Were Never Allowed to Feel In this Women’s History Month episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores the anger women were taught to suppress and how that suppressed rage often turns into anxiety, burnout, and emotional exhaustion. This episode discusses emotional suppression, boundary setting, and the role anger plays in the healing process....

In this Women’s History Month episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge unpacks the hidden emotional cost of being the “strong woman.” If you’ve ever been praised for holding it together while quietly falling apart, this episode is for you. We’re talking mental load, suppressed rage, generational trauma, divorce survival mode, and the audacity to heal out loud. 🎯 Join the FREE 5-Day A...

Birthdays often come with pressure—to be further along, more healed, or completely reinvented. But healing doesn’t work on deadlines. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge reflects on birthday month energy, integration, and what it means to return to yourself instead of constantly trying to become someone new. Through thoughtful reflection and guided journaling prompts, thi...

Self-abandonment often gets mislabeled as being “too nice,” “too accommodating,” or “just the way you are”—but it’s actually a learned survival response. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores how self-abandonment forms, why choosing yourself can feel uncomfortable, and how to begin prioritizing your needs without guilt or emotional shutdown. This episode includes r...

Rebuilding self-trust after burnout, betrayal, or self-abandonment can feel overwhelming—especially when survival mode taught you to doubt your own instincts. In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores how self-trust gets broken, why shame keeps it fractured, and how to rebuild internal safety through compassion, consistency, and small promises to yourself. This episode...

Who are you when you’re not performing for survival, approval, or productivity? In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti Refuge explores how performance becomes a survival strategy—and why slowing down can feel uncomfortable when your nervous system is used to staying alert. This conversation invites listeners to examine identity beyond roles, productivity, and people-pleasing, and t...

The healed version of you doesn’t argue—she moves differently. In the final episode of the New Year, Better Me series, Shawnti reflects on peace, detachment, clarity, and choosing yourself without explanation. This is about integration, not reinvention. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the bes...

Healing still requires effort. This episode reframes discipline as devotion—not punishment—and challenges the idea that motivation alone leads to change. If you want peace that lasts, this conversation will help you build it intentionally. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book...

What if you’re not stuck—just afraid? In this episode, Shawnti unpacks the fear of becoming someone new, outgrowing relationships, and losing identities rooted in pain. Healing has a cost, and this conversation names it. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”,...

Waiting for closure keeps you tied to people who may never give it. This episode explores why healing doesn’t require apologies, understanding, or acknowledgment—and how waiting can quietly delay your growth. This is a grounding conversation about reclaiming your power without permission. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Ke...