The Power of Choosing

Why do so many of us feel like we're never quite enough? Whether it's comparing ourselves to others, chasing the next achievement, or constantly looking for ways to improve, it's easy to believe there's something wrong with us. In this episode, Claire and Trudi explore why that belief is so common and why it simply isn't true. Together they discuss: • Why our brains naturally f...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi discuss how the labels we adopt, often from a young age, shape our identity, perceived limitations, and behaviour, and how rarely we question them. Claire shares her long-held label of “always late,” how joking about it reinforced the identity, and how she is now choosing a new label to support getting her child to school on time through p...

Can Your Mind Shape Your Reality? In this episode of The Power of Choosing, the hosts explore how the mind filters reality based on what you focus on, using an example of only spotting what you are looking for to illustrate selective attention. They discuss how this shows up in daily life, like noticing more of a car model after buying it. They speak of how focusing on what’s “not working” can cre...

Do you ever catch yourself thinking "that's not for me" when it comes to the life you actually want? In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, we're diving into how to get what you want and why the first step might not be what you think. We talk about: Why so many of us have quietly decided we don't deserve more A powerful question to help you reconnect with what trul...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the beauty of slowing down especially in a fast-paced world that rewards constant productivity. They highlight how rest, stillness, and “nothingness” are necessary for both body and mind and discuss how pushing through without pauses can lead to burnout,. They use examples from exercise, sleep deprivation, and the way stress often...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, Trudi and Claire explore emotional boundaries and how important they are even when they feel uncomfortable. They share a real moment where one host, stressed about a move, said “no” when asked what she wanted to do next, then later realized she’d been uncomfortable setting that boundary and spun stories about being judged, while the other host had...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore how all emotions are valid, necessary, and part of the human experience. Our emotions act as indicators of needs, boundaries being crossed, and important information to guide what to do next. They discuss how society often shames or suppresses emotions—especially crying—through automatic “don’t cry, you’ll be fine” responses. They...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the challenges of trying to fit in when you don’t truly know yourself, and how that can create unconscious patterns driven by a need for approval. Trudi shares how her former self used social drinking to keep up, while avoiding unprocessed grief, and how it led to feeling disconnected from her own value. Together they discuss how s...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, the hosts explore the impact of trust and the science behind how it can help change your life. They describe trust as a felt sense of safety and relaxation. They discuss cultivating trust as a practice, especially when it feels difficult, and frame trust as both trusting yourself and trusting the universe (or God/source) as working for you, not aga...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire go straight at a muscle most people don’t use nearly enough - the ability to question everything. Most of us walk around living stories we never chose. Careers. Beliefs. Roles. Parenting choices. Even what we eat for dinner. If you don’t learn to question what you’ve been handed, you’ll keep living on autopilot. In this episode:~ Why Clair...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, the hosts talk about what to do when you feel stuck. Trudi shares how she is currently in a stuck season after a major move, life changes, and the stress of unpacked boxes while also supporting a dog through recovery. They explore the contrast between being in flow and feeling blocked, frustrated, or overwhelmed, and emphasize self-compassion, focu...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into the complexities of change and the emotions it can bring up. They discuss their personal experiences with major life changes, such as relocating to a different state or country, and the accompanying stress and excitement. They address the challenges of the interim period between the old and the new, emphasizing the importance of...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, the hosts delve into the topic of trusting your intuition. They discuss personal experiences and the journey of learning to trust one's 'gut feeling,' highlighting its significance in making life choices, from parenting to career decisions. Key points include:~ The importance of knowing oneself to better hear and follow intuition~ How s...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire discuss how to manage when the world feels overwhelming. They explore taking in loads of information versus staying in a bubble, and how to balance these approaches. Claire talks about her preference for avoiding the news due to feeling deeply affected by it and relying on her husband for updates. Trudi reflects on their privilege as white...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, Trudi and Claire discuss letting go. Inspired by the poem 'She Let Go' by Sapphire Rose they delve into what it would be like if letting go didn't have to be overly planned or difficult. Discussing personal anecdotes and reflective thoughts, they explore how letting go of worries, control, and the need for approval can lead to a simpler...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the essential practice of reflecting on past achievements to appreciate the moment you are in now. The discussion emphasizes how easily we forget our past struggles and accomplishments and the importance of celebrating these victories, both big and small. They share personal anecdotes demonstrating growth from past to present, high...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, we delve into the importance of honouring yourself. We discuss why it's essential to know yourself and believe you're important enough to be the main character in your life. Through personal stories and practical examples, we explore how failing to ask for what you need often leads to frustration and resentment. We highlight the value of clear comm...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, we delve into how to navigate the pressure and expectations of the festive season to find genuine joy and connection. We discuss the importance of learning to say no, ensuring self-care, and choosing how you want to celebrate to avoid overwhelm and keep your holiday season enjoyable. Key highlights include:~ The significance of saying no to avoid overcommi...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire discuss the subtle yet impactful habit of over-apologizing with phrases like 'I'm sorry' and how it can manifest as playing small and people-pleasing behaviour, particularly among women. Sparked by an anecdote from a squash game, the conversation flows to the energy and consequences behind these phrases. Key insights include:~...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi explore how effective communication and clear expectations can save your marriage. They discuss the significance of open communication in relationships and how unchecked expectations can lead to unnecessary conflicts. With personal anecdotes and actionable advice, they highlight the importance of understanding your own needs, the value of...

What if the biggest critic in your life isn't out there—it's the voice inside your head? In this episode, Claire and Trudi get honest about the internal commentary that tells us we're being judged, that we said the wrong thing, or that everyone is watching our every move. Sparked by Claire's real-time experience of her brain critiquing her while recording, this conversation explores how our inner...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire dive into the struggles around commitment. Brought about by a client's question, they explore why people often avoid putting events in their diaries and how the word 'why' keeps us stuck. They share personal stories and insights on shifting from 'why' to 'what' to open up new possibilities. Key points inc...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, recorded from sunny France, we discuss the importance of shifting away from blaming others for our unhappiness and instead focusing on our own needs and emotions. The conversation was inspired by a client who struggled with her husband's drinking habits. We delve into why it's easier to blame others, the significance of understanding our own need...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into the essential topic of self-love as the foundation for achieving personal and professional goals. They discuss the challenges of loving oneself in a society that often promotes self-criticism and consumerism. The conversation highlights experiences with clients who struggle with self-worth and explores practical ways to embrace...

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the idea that it’s okay for people to have differing opinions and why it’s important not to seek constant agreement. The discussion delves into how societal and evolutionary pressures make us want to fit in and be liked and the freedom that comes with accepting that not everyone will agree with us. They touch on topics such as peop...