The Naked Unashamed Life

Content note: This episode contains references to emotional and sexual abuse (in passing), religious trauma, and faith deconstruction. Listen with care — or skip it and make yourself a very large cup of tea. If you grew up in the British evangelical world in the 2000s; Soul Survivor festivals, worship tents, Saturday night cry sessions, this one's for you. I'm back (sort of-- still technic...

For the ex purity culture folk, this is for you. I've been asked this in various different places so now I created an episode for you. How DO you release purity culture messaging from your body and mind? As in-- real tangible, practical things? Let's explore. (Yes the title is clickbait, I hope you'll forgive me. There's no ONE way to do this work.) This episode explores how purity culture conditi...

In this episode, I explore what it really means when you do practices like Hand Heart Vulva or Feel Again -- or any tantric, embodiment, or self-connection work -- and instead of pleasure, you feel numbness, blankness, or just... nothing. I unpack why numbness is not a sign of failure but often a sign your body is giving you real, usable information. We dive into cultural conditioning, physiology,...

Alternative titles: "Tea, Smut, and Shaking My Arse: My Real-Life Libido Practices"?! or "Why I’m Not Forcing My Libido — and What I’m Doing Instead" In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and talking honestly about how I’m nourishing my own libido right now-- in a season of pregnancy, big life transitions, and lower capacity. Because it’s easy to look at a “sexpert” onl...

Ever found yourself saying, "I don't know what I want!!"-- be it in bed, in love, or in your life? Try this deceptively simple yet powerful practice I call the "Want Walk" . Designed to help you reconnect with your desires, especially if you've spent years prioritizing everybody else's needs over your own. This practice is particularly valuable for women and vulva o...

This episode is for you if you’ve tried tantric massage, yoni eggs, crystal wands sex coaching, or all the toys... and it just didn’t work. I explain possibly why they didn't, why you're not broken, and how I work instead. I share why your body might resist erotic practices and how that resistance is actually protection, not failure. In this episode I cover: How frustrating and shame-induc...

If you've been going round and round in your head about how to fix your low libido, this episode is for you. In this episode, I explore why we tend to overcomplicate libido and desire, and offer a completely different view on understanding your relationship with intimacy and pleasure. Episode summary: Redefining libido beyond just feeling horny- Moving away from the myth that libido must mean...

In this powerful follow-up to Part 1, I’m joined again by Dr. Angela Wright—trauma-informed medical doctor and clinical sexologist—for a raw, compassionate, and deeply necessary conversation on trauma-informed medical care, especially when it comes to pelvic exams and gynecological procedures. We explore how traditional medicine often fails to take trauma, consent, and nervous system regulation in...

In this deeply honest and validating conversation, I'm joined by my friend and colleague Dr. Angela Wright, a trauma-informed medical doctor and clinical sexologist—for a no-holds-barred exploration of hormonal sensitivity, PMDD, menopause, ADHD, neurodivergence, chronic illness, the invisible ways trauma shows up in our medical stories, and making medical care trauma informed. We’re both neur...

Discover the pleasure potential your sex ed never taught you by doing the exact opposite of what you usually do in sex: relaaaaaxxxx into pleasure and orgasms. I recorded this as a voicenote as I walked in the park and I know this knowledge will change your life. In this episode to celebrate Masturbation Month, I cover: The difference between relaxed pleasure and excited pleasure Relaxed orgasms v...

Have you ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships? Where you become so focused on being everything and being the "good girlfriend/wife/partner" that you stop doing the things YOU want to do? And then in sex you have no idea what it is YOU like because you've been so focused on pleasing your partner? Are you definitely a chronic people-pleaser and know you need to break out of it? Babe, th...

What happens when a neurodivergent sex coach talks about her own sex life? This podcast episode! In this episode I talk about all the ways that my own neurodivergence affects my sex life. I'm formally diagnosed with ADHD with highly suspected autism and it abso-bloody-lutely runs on both sides of my family too. How much is the same for you? What's completely different for you? How do you f...

If you feel numb your libido has vanished, or pleasure feels like a distant memory, this episode is for you. You’re not alone, and you’re not broken, but staying stuck in shutdown doesn’t have to be your reality. In this episode, I dive deep into why so many women and people with vulvas feel disconnected from their bodies— and exactly how to begin reclaiming your spark, your sensuality, and your a...

Starting 2025 with a hard hitting, uncomfortable truth. Ladies, this one's for you: Have you ever felt uncomfortable, triggered or even betrayed when your partner does some “self loving”? If so, you’re not alone—but it’s time to challenge those feelings and unravel the stories we’ve all been told about men, relationships, and sexuality.  What if you could move from feeling triggered to openly supp...

After years of therapy, coaching, somatic work, personal development, spiritual work and more, I felt frustrated that I still felt like a hot mess on the inside and that I couldn’t be perfectly “regulated” and symptom-free. It wasn't until I learned (and have to keep remembering) to embrace that I am highly sensitive with big needs and big wants by default that I stopped feeling so broken. Think o...

You're in for a giggling treat as I saw down with my friend, collaborator, and co-conspirator Lisa Rombach in her cozy studio in Vienna. We talked everything intimacy, sensuality, pleasure, and motherhood. In this episode we covered: When therapy and healing work leaves out sexuality When most women don't know what their boundaries are What bliss and pleasure can look like outside of sex Sensualit...

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Sometimes sexual fantasies get a bad wrap. In tantra, spirituality, therapy, and the embodiment world. This is why I was so excited for this interview with Artemisia de Vine to thoroughly debunk myths about fantasies, and why they are actually the key to your wholeness. Because what if your sexual fantasies were the bridge to your sexual liberation and spiritual growth too? Listen to this episode...

Have you lost your libido? Or not sure where it disappeared to? In this episode I explain why although there are many causes of low libido, most women and vulva havers forget about this one simple thing: Pleasure! In this episode I cover: * What happens when you’ve got low libido * Some causes of low libido * When the word "pleasure" feels too triggering or loaded * Thinking pleasure and...

I'm going to make a bold statement: what if when it came to how ADHD affects your sex life, there was NOTHING inherently wrong with you? These are my thoughts after the epic interview with Dr. Kate Lister on ADHD and the history of sex. In this episode I cover: * Feeling disappointed that so much traditional medical and therapeutic advice about ADHD and sex is pathologizing * Why we need to st...

It was such a delight to chat with someone I have fangirled over for years, the one and only sex historian Dr. Kate Lister! In this episode we covered everything from our ADHD diagnoses and how we live with it, working in (and recovering from) academia, spotting predators in tantra, why studying sex is tricky, gay subcultures, and why we should all keep a sex diary and time capsule for future hist...

How do you feel about porn? Is it something you enjoy, feel uncomfortable about, or have mixed feelings? I get it, because porn is a super activating topic, especially when we know the track record of the big porn companies and free tube sites aren't... brilliant. And yet, I'm always banging the drum that there is a whole world of alternative porn and erotica out there-- made by independen...

How do you market your work when you're a sexuality professional and constantly dealing with internet censorship? What if the traditional marketing and business advice just doesn't apply to you because of the nature of what you do? No we bloody well can't run paid ads easily, it's not just our mindset when we are always facing the very real possibility of our Instagram accounts get...

How do you heal from purity culture? How do you get to a place where the shame no longer affects you? How can you recover your sexuality and know deep in your bones that it is something good? Yes the title is clickbaity and this episode is full of caveats about what healing is and isn't. In this long-form episode I give my take on healing (and why there are no rules to it and I absolutely do n...

Yes I said it, I believe women and vulva havers in relationships should self-pleasure MORE! (And those not in relationships too) Why? Because self-pleasuring/masturbating/w*nking is one of the most powerful acts of self love, self care, and self honouring you can do. It's a gift you give to yourself that is separate from the intimacy you have with your lover, and in this episode I break it dow...