The Naked Unashamed Life

Do you wish you could just confidently ask for what you want in bed, but instead you freeze up? I've got you. In this episode I cover the 5 main obstacles that women and vulva havers face in confident sexual communication that have nothing to do with being silly, a prude, or generally anything, "wrong", with you. And then I cover what you can do about them to make it easier. Remember...

Sex shouldn't hurt, and yet so many women and vulva havers suffer in silence about painful sex. I spoke with April Maria aka Venus Libido about her own personal experience of having undiagnosed endometriosis, the frustration of battling the medical system, finding pleasurable sex on her own terms, and how you can still have great sex when you're experiencing pain. We covered: Her personal...

From being stuck in her head, struggling to vocalize what she wanted, and sooooo much Good Christian Girl conditioning, to being able to FEEL, to know what her boundaries were, and feel pleasure. I spoke with my former client, Shae Court on her experience working with me, which included why having multiple splooshing orgasms was not what she really needed, she needed to be able to feel first. I ho...

"When will I just be *there*?!! Fully healed?! Raging hot libido and orgasming everywhere? WHEN will this happen?!" Ever felt that about your sexual healing journey? Or maybe about another kind of healing journey? You just want to be *there*, cumming easily, no more shame, completely uninhibited. In this episode I talk about how to stop feeling frustrated about it and what to do instead....

If you resonate with being a high achieving, overfunctioning woman, this episode is DEFINITELY for you! I was delighted to speak with Tamu Thomas from LiveThreeSixty on what it means to be an overfunctioning, Type-A woman/person, how it shows up in life, business, love, and sex, and the healing power of pleasure. In this episode we cover: Introducing ourselves The crossovers in our work in attract...

This episode has been a long time coming, and it's for you if you or your boo is on antidepressants and they have zapped your libido. Here's the why, what, and how so that antidepressants do NOT have to be the end of your sex life, including my own personal experience of being on antidepressants since I was 16. In this episode I cover: Why all is NOT lost Why antidepressants are not bad an...

Ever wondered just what it's like to work with me? Wish you could peek behind the Zoom doors into a client session? Well now you can! (Kind of.) This episode is a treat because it's my first interview with a former client of mine, life coach, Justine Dean. We talked about her unique journey in working with me-- including being open about being a survivor of childhood SA, being a life coach...

Want to know THE most powerful exercise I teach my clients that is also one of my favourites too? It's this: Hand. Heart. Vulva. It's a way to build that mind/body and mind/sex/vulva connection, and it's so simple to do. In this episode, I lead you through this guided meditation/practice so you can try it for yourself and get the benefits. I mention: - Why if you feel numb around your...

"Help, my libido has gone!" Want to know one of THE most common issues I work with? When your libido has done a disappearing act and your sex drive has completely gone. In this episode I break down all the possible reasons why your libido could have disappeared, and some action steps to start trying. When women and femmes think it's just their hormones (it's not!) Why libido, des...

Welcome to the Naked and Unashamed Life Podcast with me, Certified Sex Coach and Sexologist, Lucy Rowett. In this podcast we aim to bridge the gap between sex, gender, spirituality, body image, relationships, embodiment, trauma, living a sexually authentic life, and more. This podcast is for you if you are sexually curious, if you want to deconstruct your beliefs around sex, embrace your full sexu...

What do you do if you can't get out of your head and stop overthinking during sex? "Am I cumming yet?", "What if he/she isn't into it?", "Does my bum look too big?", "What do I do now?". This is so common, and in this episode I break down first why it happens, and then 6 ways to actually get out of your head and ENJOY sex again! Want to connect more?...

CW: Pregnancy loss, ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage A more personal episode, and it's a bold statement, but it's true. Back in February this year, I had an ectopic pregnancy and it was through masturbating and having an orgasm that the cramping started and I sought medical attention in the first place. So, masturbation really did save my life. I hope this episode helps you in releasing mast...

How do you heal sexual shame? Phew, that's a big, meaty question, and while I don't have all the answers, I have some very practical advice based both on my own personal journey of healing my own sexual shame, and professionally. I believe the most potent antidote to sexual shame is overt celebration, along with education, affirming spaces, treating yourself with tenderness and care, and g...

Happy Masturbation Month! Yes, it's May, and it's the most sacred month of the year for Sexologists because it's MASTURBATION MONTH! A whole month to celebrate and raise awareness of how goooood masturbation is. I am giving you 7 prompts to uplevel your current masturbation or self pleasuring practice to make it even better. Why? Because I know you've gotten into a rut with it and...

Did you know you could be accidentally blocking your own orgasms? Yes, we all do it until we learn differently, and so I wanted to explain the 5 most common mistakes women and vulva havers make that are getting in the way of you having incredible, satisfying, and pleasurable orgasms-- or having orgasms at all. This is aimed at women and vulva havers, but most of what I say is applicable to any gen...

Did you know that it's super common that when you leave Christianity or other religions to swing to the other side and jump full on into woo, spirituality, and conspiracy theories? Did I tell you about the time I stood in front of a statue of Jesus in a church and sent him sexual energy? Here's what happened when I realised I was no longer angry at the church and started doing deeper somat...

Responsive desire is when you struggle to, "get in the mood" for sex on your own, you only really get into it when your partner initiates and then you enjoy it. But what do you do when you have responsive desire and your sex life has fallen flat? How do you initiate sex if either you have responsive desire, BOTH of you have responsive desire (especially if you're Queer) or where you&...

Does having sex with someone really create a soul tie? Do your souls really become merged or do you store a part of them inside you forever? Let's debunk this Purity Culture Myth that also exists in the conscious sexuality and neo-tantra world too. I am covering this from a more spiritually minded perspective for people who come from Purity Culture, rather than evidence-based, because when you...

What do you do when your partner rejects you in bed? It can really hurt and put you into a shame and trigger spiral, so in this episode I give practical advice on how to manage your own response, how to not take it personally, and a completely unexpected tool that will flip how you see, "rejection", on it's head. I cover: When you pluck up the courage to ask and then they turn you do...

How did an Evangelical Christian girl grow up to be a Sexologist? This is the first part of my own story from Evangelical Christianity, to chronic illness and health breakdown, healing, getting into new age spirituality, growing up, exploring sexuality, and deciding to train as a sexologist. Because even when I didn't consciously believe it anymore, I still felt the lingering shame in my body...