The Mental Healness Podcast

If you were targeted by a narcissist, it wasn't because you were weak. Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why self-aware narcissists look for high-value, resilient targets to consume. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://link.me/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

The fallout of a boundary is usually a war. Here is how to survive it. You watched yesterday’s video on the 3 Ways to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist, but now you’re living through the reaction. Why do they get more aggressive when you say "no"? Why does a simple boundary lead to a smear campaign or a week of silence? As a self-aware narcissist, I’m breaking down the "punishment ph...

Why does a narcissist "forget" their promises? Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the truth behind "Narcissistic Amnesia." It's not a memory problem—it's a lack of accountability. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://link.me/mentalhea...

The high is over. The "holiday" is gone. Now comes the fallout. If you woke up today to the silent treatment, a cold shoulder, or a partner who is acting like the chaos of yesterday never happened—you are experiencing the "Valentine's Fallout." On this Sunday after, the narcissist has reclaimed control by ruining your expectations, and now they are using the "Day After...

When you stop giving a narcissist "supply," they don't just walk away quietly. They enter an "Extinction Burst." As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why the behavior gets 10x more aggressive when you start setting boundaries. Learn the signs of the burst and why your reaction is exactly what they are looking for. Connect with Lee: My Courses:...

In this video, we discuss:The Spotlight Struggle: Why your joy feels like a threat to my ego. The Obligation Trap: Why being "forced" to be romantic makes a narcissist want to rebel. Devaluation as a Tool: How ruining a special day gives the narcissist back the control. The "Gift" of Chaos: Why a fight is easier for us to handle than genuine intimacy. If you are feeling the &qu...

What happens when a narcissist can no longer rely on their looks, their money, or their status to control people? As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the shift from "Grandiosity" to "Bitterness. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ht...

"You’re too sensitive." "I never said that." "You're lucky to have me." 🚩Most of you heard these words and felt like they were a report card on your value. You felt small. You felt like you had to change to be "enough."As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on the Internal Playbook. In this Live session, I’m translating your trauma in...

Why do narcissists ignore your boundaries? Because they don't respect feelings—they respect consequences. In this video, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) provides a raw, self-aware look at what actually goes on inside a narcissist's head when someone sets a boundary. Most people make the mistake of explaining their "why," which only gives the narcissist more leverage. Learn the 3 sp...

Why a Narcissist's Treatment of You is Actually a Confession 🪞ConfessionHave you ever wondered why someone who "loved" you could treat you so poorly? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the psychology of Projection. Most people believe that the narcissist’s behavior is a reaction to something they did wrong. The truth is much darker: How a narcissist treats...

"I wish I would have known." 🥀If you’re feeling the weight of the years you "lost" to a toxic relationship, you aren't alone. Regret is often the final trauma bond that keeps you tied to a narcissist long after the relationship is over. As a self-aware narcissist, I see these patterns from the other side. I know how the confusion was manufactured and why you feel like you...

Why 75% of Marriages That Start as Affairs End in Divorce. Does an affair ever actually lead to a "happily ever after"? The data says probably not. In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the grim statistics of relationships that start through betrayal. While it may feel like "destiny" in the beginning, the transition from a secret affair to a legal marriag...

"Was it all a lie? Did I ever actually matter?" In one of his most requested deep-dives, Lee Hammock answers the question that keeps every survivor awake at night. Discover the difference between being "loved" and being "useful," and learn how a narcissist’s lack of object constancy allows them to discard you without a second thought. This is the closure you’ve been l...

Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It’s time to close the "Pain Store" and start your rea...

Did the "fairytale" end as fast as it started? In today’s live session, we are connecting the dots between the intense Love Bombing phase and the cold, calculated Reverse Discard. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on the internal "playbook" used to create a trauma bond. We’ll discuss why narcissists use intensity to bypass your boundaries, the psychology...

In the world of Cluster B personality disorders, NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) are often called "cousins" because they can look identical on the surface, especially during a blowout argument. Is it Narcissism (NPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the core differences in 2026. Learn...

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Is it true love or a "Love Bomb"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the 4 stages of the grooming phase. Learn how narcissists use mirroring, fast-forwarding, and isolation to get you addicted to a version of them that doesn't exist. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls:...

Kanye West (Ye) just took out a full-page ad in the Wall Street Journal to apologize for his "reckless" behavior and antisemitic comments over the last two years. He’s blaming an undiagnosed brain injury from 2002 and a 2025 manic episode—but is that enough? In this reaction, I’m breaking down the "To Those I've Hurt" letter. We’re talking about the massive scale of the dam...

Why is it impossible for a narcissist to say "I'm sorry"? In this episode, Lee Hammock explains the internal mechanics of the narcissistic ego. Learn about the "Narcissistic Injury," why projection is a survival tool, and how the "False Self" acts as a shield against the truth. If you’ve ever felt like you were fighting a brick wall, this episode explains why that...

In this episode, Lee Hammock exposes a sophisticated manipulation tactic: Weaponized Vulnerability . As a self-aware narcissist, Lee explains why "tears" are often used as a defense mechanism to create F.O.G. (Fear, Obligation, and Guilt), effectively turning the victim into the villain. Key Takeaways: The Reverse Gaslight: How shifting the focus to their past trauma stops you from holdi...

It’s not just one person—it’s the whole group. When a group believes they are superior to everyone else and constantly victimized by the outside world, you are dealing with Collective Narcissism . Lee Hammock breaks down the psychology behind this "cult energy" from a self-aware perspective. Learn why narcissists thrive in these environments and how to spot the signs before the group tur...

Is it possible for narcissism to run in families or is it more likely to be a 'one off' type of situation? Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://link.me/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ All My Link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://beacons.page/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss If this episode he...

Can you spot a narcissist with just one question? Lee Hammock breaks down the science-backed "SINS" test and why narcissists often admit the truth. In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast , Lee Hammock dives into the Single Item Narcissism Scale (SINS) —a research-backed method from Ohio State University that claims a single question is nearly as accurate as a 40-question clinical...

In this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast , Lee Hammock explores the complex and often devastating relationship between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and pornography addiction . We dive into the concept of Object Constancy —the inability to maintain an emotional connection when a partner isn't physically present—and how this drives narcissists toward the instant, low-effort supply fou...