The Mental Healness Podcast

"No is a complete sentence, but to a narcissist, it’s a declaration of war."Have you ever noticed how a simple "No" can turn a charming partner into a raging stranger? Today on MentalHealness, I’m breaking down the psychology of what happens inside a narcissist’s mind when they lose control. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m telling you why that one little word feels like a physic...

Losing my dog, Lala, has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever faced. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m giving you an inside look at how I used to process grief versus how I’m handling it now. For years, therapy has been about stripping away the armor, and nothing tests that work like the loss of a "soul dog." Lala was a Jackabee (Jack Russell & Beagle mix) who taught me more about u...

"The truth doesn't just set you free—it strips them of their power."They spend their entire lives building a facade. They lie, they manipulate, and they curate a version of themselves that the world loves. But what happens when you pull back the curtain? Today on MentalHealness, I’m breaking down why exposure is the ultimate "Narcissistic Injury."As a diagnosed narcissist,...

"I’ve been pretending to be happy since I was a kid."On March 13, 2026, Doja Cat dropped a bombshell on TikTok: she’s been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). As a diagnosed narcissist, her description of "masking"—faking her personality and her joy for nearly 30 years—stopped me in my tracks. Today, we’re looking at the psychology of the "Celebrity Mask....

"It’s not just an annoyance; it’s a threat to our existence."Ever wondered why a narcissist seems to have a personal vendetta against certain people while they "tolerate" others? Today at 3:30 PM EST, I’m pulling back the curtain on the Narcissistic Hit List. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down the four categories of people who trigger our deepest rage and why your &qu...

"How can they sleep at night after what they did to me?"It’s the question that haunts every survivor. You’re looking for a sign of a conscience, a tear, or a genuine "I’m sorry." But it never comes. In this video, I’m breaking down the psychological mechanics of guilt and remorse from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist. I’m explaining why we don't experience "R...

"He’s back... but he’s not the man you remember." Today on MentalHealness , I’m telling the story of Timmy and Michelle. They were young, they were in love, and Timmy blew it with drugs and cheating. Fast forward 20 years—Michelle has moved on, but Timmy shows up with a "surprise" visit. He’s older, he’s divorced, and he’s got 6 kids he doesn't even take care of. I’m breaki...

"It was the only time I felt like they actually loved me."In a narcissistic relationship, physical intimacy is rarely just about connection—it’s about control. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m breaking down the truth about the "Bedroom Power Dynamic." We’re discussing why the bedroom becomes the only place you feel "seen," and how a narcissist uses that bond to keep yo...

"But they’re your family..."It’s the phrase that keeps people trapped in cycles of abuse for decades. But what happens when the people who were supposed to protect you are the ones you need protection from? Going No Contact with a narcissist is hard; going No Contact with an entire narcissistic family system is a battlefield. Today, I’m breaking down the mechanics of the "Toxic Fami...

Does the narcissist in your life become a completely different person when they drink, or are you finally seeing who they really are? Many people believe that alcohol "changes" the narcissist, but from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist, I can tell you that it usually just lowers the inhibitions that were keeping the rage in check. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Have you ever wondered if narcissists are born that way or if life made them that way? Today, we are doing a full "workup" on how male narcissists are created. As a diagnosed narcissist who has spent nearly a decade in therapy, I’m taking you behind the mask to show you exactly how the environment, parenting, and societal pressure combine to create the personality you see today. Connect...

"If I’m still chasing, they must be worth it... right?"Wrong. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m telling you the truth about what happens in our heads when you pursue us after we’ve treated you like trash. To you, the chase is an act of love. To us, the chase is a "Get Out of Jail Free" card. When you chase a narcissist, you aren't showing them your value; you are showing them...

Have you ever tried to hold a narcissist accountable, only to end up being the one apologizing? That isn't an accident. Narcissists have a specific set of excuses they use to deflect, distract, and devalue your concerns. Today, we are breaking down the Top 5 excuses I used—and that most narcissists use—to stay in control of the narrative. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

"Get out then!"It’s what they’ve been saying for weeks. They’ve devalued you, ignored you, and treated you like a burden until you finally had enough and packed your bags. But instead of the relief you expected them to feel, they exploded. They raged. They begged. They lost their minds. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net...

Are you addicted to "Pain Shopping"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explains why survivors compulsively check their ex's social media and how narcissists use their profiles as a weapon. Learn how to break the digital trauma bond and stop the cycle of self-harm today. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.ne...

"Will this ever end?"Channel Memberships For More perks- www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1vYQOEQRo6X4Dy8KoGPMw/joinIt’s the question that keeps you up at night. You’ve gone No Contact, you’ve blocked the numbers, but you’re still looking over your shoulder. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m going to give you the honest truth about the "Mental Rolodex" we keep. Do we ever truly let go,...

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"I know who they are... but I’m staying."Not everyone is ready to leave. Whether it's for the kids, financial stability, or a hope that things will change, many people choose to remain in a relationship with a narcissist. As a self-aware narcissist, I want to have a real, judgment-free conversation about what that actually looks like. If you choose to stay, you have to know the price...

Are they "scared" of intimacy, or are they "managing" you? It’s the question that keeps thousands of people stuck in toxic cycles. You see them pulling away, shutting down, and becoming cold—but is it because they have an Avoidant Attachment Style or is it Narcissistic Devaluation? All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessAs a self-aware narcissist, I’m breaking down...

Are you swiping right on a predator? Online dating is a narcissist's dream. It allows them to curate a "Perfect Mask" before you ever meet them. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on how we use dating profiles to target empathetic, successful, and high-value people. From the "Nice Guy" bio to the weaponized religious photos, I’m showing you exactly wha...

"Just go No Contact!" feels like a slap in the face when you have shared custody, a business, or legal ties to a narcissist. For many survivors, complete severance isn't an option. But that doesn't mean you have to remain their emotional punching bag. As a self-aware narcissist, I know exactly how we use children, finances, and property as leverage to keep getting "supply&qu...

Are you spiraling because the narcissist replaced you with someone who feels like a massive "downgrade"?It’s not about love; it’s about logistics. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m explaining the concept of "Transitional Supply." This is the person we jump to out of pure necessity—because we need a place to stay, money for bills, or simply because we cannot stand to be alone with...

Are you "Grade A Supply" without even knowing it? Most people think narcissists target "broken" people. As a self-aware narcissist, I’m telling you that’s a lie. We want the best. We want the person with the biggest heart, the most success, and the most to give. But there is a dark side to being "the best"—to a narcissist, you are a high-value asset that is ultimately...

Have you ever discovered a betrayal—infidelity, a lie, or a discard—and suddenly felt a surge of intense desire to be close to the person who hurt you? That isn’t love—it’s Hysterical Bonding. Hysterical bonding is a biological survival response. When a narcissist pulls away or betrays you, your brain treats the loss of the relationship as a life-or-death threat. This triggers a frantic need to re...

ou finally figured out your partner was a narcissist—and then you looked at your parents. Then your friends. Then your boss. It’s called the "Awakening," and it is one of the most overwhelming parts of the healing journey. Once you learn the patterns of narcissistic behavior, you can’t "un-see" them. Today, I’m explaining why this happens and why you aren't "crazy&quot...