The Mental Healness Podcast

Why do narcissists act like children? Today, as a diagnosed narcissist, I’m diving deep into the concept of "Arrested Development." I’m explaining why narcissistic people often have an emotional "pause button" that gets stuck in childhood, leading to adult tantrums, a lack of empathy, and the "Toddler in a Suit" syndrome. We’ll discuss why they can't handle bounda...

I used to think my wife was nagging me, but I finally realized she was just expressing her feelings. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down why I took every honest conversation as a direct criticism and an attack on my character. Today, we’re diving into "Defensive Listening," the Narcissistic Filter, and why toxic partners use the word "nagging" to silence and gaslight t...

What happens when a narcissist is finally alone? As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m getting raw about how my own mind attacks me the second the "audience" leaves. Today, we’re discussing why narcissists have a negative default setting, why silence feels like a death sentence, and how we use external validation (supply) as a shield against intense self-hatred. If you’ve ever wondered why your toxic par...

Female narcissists are often much harder to spot than men because they hide behind social norms like motherhood, caretaking, and "feminine vulnerability." Today, I’m reacting to the MSN article "15 Traits That Reveal Narcissistic Behavior in Women" and providing a diagnosed narcissist's perspective on how these traits manifest in real life. We are breaking down the "So...

When you get a serious diagnosis, a narcissist doesn't see a partner in pain—they see a "malfunctioning tool." Today, I’m breaking down the "Hospital Room Discard" and the harsh reality of why toxic partners bail during a medical crisis. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m explaining the logic behind the "6x more likely" abandonment statistic and how to recognize when...

The "Alpine Divorce" is the most chilling relationship trend of 2026. From viral TikToks to the tragic Thomas Plamberger conviction, we are seeing the literal physical reality of narcissistic abandonment. Today, I’m breaking down the NPD perspective on why a partner would leave you to freeze. We discuss the transition from "Micro-Abandonments" to the ultimate discard and how to...

Tanner Horner has pleaded guilty in the Athena Strand trial, but his claim that an alter ego named "Zero" committed the crime is a pathetic narcissistic deflection. Today, I’m providing a diagnosed narcissist's perspective on this extreme lack of accountability and the chilling "hero-to-villain" shift revealed during his interrogation. We are breaking down why this "pa...

Lynette Hooker went missing in the Bahamas and now her husband Brian is under arrest. There were inklings of previous violence in the relationship according to her daughter and now she thinks her stepdad had something to do with it. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-...

If you’re terrified to start dating again because you’re afraid you’ll just attract another narcissist—that fear is actually your intuition trying to protect you. But today, we’re talking about how to turn that fear into a standard. We are moving from being "paralyzed" to being "empowered" in your choice. You don't need to trust other people yet; you just need to learn how...

Never go grocery shopping when you’re hungry, and never go dating when you’re vulnerable. When you are in a season of pain or transition, your "predator radar" is compromised. You aren't looking for character; you’re looking for an escape. In this video, we discuss why being in a vulnerable state makes you the primary target for narcissistic "Hero" tactics and how to protec...

"I told you what I did, so why are you still bringing it up?"Have you ever had a narcissist finally admit to a lie, a betrayal, or a mistake—only for them to get angry at YOU because you were actually hurt by it? This is called the Confession Trap, and it is one of the most manipulative moves in the NPD playbook. Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

"You think showing a narcissist a video of how they treat you will finally make them understand. In reality, it’s often the spark that sets off the biggest explosion of the relationship." Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

"Is No Contact a temporary boundary or a lifetime sentence? Today, I’m going to explain why 'forever' is usually the only safe answer when dealing with a narcissist." Connect with Lee: My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ h...

"A narcissist has a 30-second statute of limitations on their own mistakes, but a lifetime contract on yours. Today, I’m explaining why we weaponize history to avoid accountability." In this video, we discuss: The Deflection Loop: Why bringing up your past is a narcissist's favorite "get out of jail free" card. The "Old News" Shield: How we use time to make our ow...

"Forgiveness isn't about him; it's about the weight I'm tired of carrying."For years, I carried a lot of anger toward my father. He was emotionally neglectful, shut off, and displayed the classic traits of a narcissist. But as I’ve done my own healing, I’ve realized where that "emptiness" came from. My father was just a child when his own dad committed suicide, and...

"The person you fell in love with was actually just a better version of yourself."It’s the most painful realization in recovery: the 'soulmate' you think you lost was a manufactured character. Today, I’m taking the mask off to explain the "Representative"—the fake persona narcissists use to hook you—and how we use mirroring to make you fall in love with your own best qu...

Most people assume this behavior is just about the bedroom, but for a narcissist, it’s a calculated move to avoid the one thing we fear most: Vulnerability. Today, I’m taking the mask off to explain why transactional dynamics are the "perfect supply." When you pay for a service, there are no expectations, no "mirror" reflecting our flaws, and a guaranteed discard. In this video...

"They aren't listening; they're just waiting for their turn to talk." Have you ever shared something personal, only for the other person to immediately say, "That reminds me of the time I..."? That is the Shift Response. Today, I’m breaking down conversational narcissists. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m telling you why we do this. It’s not just "bad manners"—i...

"Is it a breakthrough, or is it just better acting?" The most common question I get is: "Lee, can narcissists actually change?" The answer is yes, but it doesn't look like a Hallmark movie. It looks like a long, painful, and often ugly process of self-control. Today, I’m breaking down the difference between a narcissist who is "performing" therapy and a narcissist...

"The most dangerous monsters don't look like monsters—they look like the guy who mows your lawn." Detroit is in shock today over the Ronnell Agee case. Neighbors are on camera saying he was "the nicest guy we’ve ever known" and that "this can't be his character." But as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you: that "nicest guy" brand is exactly h...

Ever wonder why narcissists keep you around even when they don't seem to like you? It’s because you’re serving a specific purpose on the "Supply Menu." Today, I’m breaking down the different categories of supply—from the bank account to the bedroom and everywhere in between. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m giving you the unfiltered truth about how we categorize people. We’re talking a...

"Your brain is literally wired to fall for the vain narcissist."A groundbreaking 2026 study has revealed that humans mentally categorize narcissists into two distinct groups: the Vain and the Selfish. While the "selfish" face is easy to spot and avoid, the "vain" face is a trap. We often mistake vanity for competence, success, and leadership potential. Today, I’m brea...

"There is nothing narcissists love more than a stage, and a witness stand is the ultimate platform. Today on MentalHealness, I’m breaking down the top 4 narcissists I’ve seen testify in their own defense..." As a diagnosed narcissist, I see the playbook they were using: the "pity play," the word salad, and the absolute refusal to take accountability. We’re deep-diving into the...

"If I’m done with you, why am I still stalking your page?"It’s one of the most confusing parts of the narcissistic cycle. They’ve discarded you, they’ve moved on, yet the moment you start to heal or find someone new, they reappear to blow your life up. Today at [Time], I’m breaking down the Narcissistic Ownership Mindset. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m telling you the truth: it’s not bec...

"Is she a genius psychologist, or is she the real problem?" Marisa Tomei is coming for the narcs on March 27th! I just watched the trailer for the new movie "You’re Dating A Narcissist!" and as a diagnosed narcissist, I have thoughts. Tomei plays Judy, a professor who thinks her daughter is marrying a "narc," but is she seeing real red flags or is she just projecting...