The Kinky Tavern

This week, while Mx. Dizzy has abandoned their chaotic pups to go on vacation, the two conspire for an episode on one of their favorite subjects: Pupspace! Listen in this week as Rekkr and Allen sit down for a casual conversation about pup space, the difference between queer, gay, and straight spaces in kink, and so much more! Our favorite pups really dug deep into some of their “why”s and experie...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen sit down and talk more in depth on furries as well as therians and otherkin.

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen sit down with the polycule’s own furry friend and Allen’s partner, Roskoe(he/him)! With coming up on 2 decades in the furry fandom, Roskoe has been to several conventions, interacted with the furry community online in several capacities, and is himself a well-known and highly esteemed member. We are privileged to be able to have this conversation wit...

This week, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr continue their discussion on Dungeons and Parties!  How do you navigate a dungeon space? What kinds of rules can you expect? What does etiquette look like? Using the years of experience we’ve each had in parties of a variety of types, the tw0 of us go over the basics of dungeon etiquette. Support Allen with the costs of their wreck: CashApp: Allensworld111 S...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen discuss Dungeons and Parties!  What are they? What kinds of events are held? How do you navigate a dungeon space? Can you vet a dungeon or a group? What kinds of rules can you expect? What does etiquette look like? Are private parties different from dungeon parties? Using the years of experience we’ve each had in parties of a variety of types, t...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen were allowed the honor and privilege to sit down with Lulu aka tbhimababysub on TikTok! She has been documenting and educating as she’s learned since she started her journey in the kink lifestyle in 2020. While there are a myriad of topics we could cover with this lovely lady, we focused for this episode on self collaring. Before becoming collared by...

TRIGGER WARNING:  All of these are talked about as concepts, warnings of how the statements contained in the survey could contribute to and perpetuate harm in the community: eating disorders, abuse, toxic relationships, sexual predators and their tactics, consent and lack thereof This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen are discussing the very popular BDSMtest.org! Who created this tes...

TW/CW: Brief mention of dealing with past trauma, discussion of mental health This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen are discussing the age-old discourse (well…of the past couple decades of kink), age regression versus age play. The age regression community has lots of ideas about age play and kink which demonize and ostracize us, even if we are also age regressors. On the flip side, they...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen are joined by two queer leather bootblacks Moxie Minion (she/her) and Buck Harder(he/him)! Both of our lovely, esteemed bootblack panelists are always educating on TikTok and IRL (in real life) about bootblacking and kink in general. Of course, we’re joined, as per usual, by our resident bootblack, the gender experience known as Lord Allen! Moxie has...

TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual Assault, Abuse,  This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen give their complex, nuanced, and captivating takes on Consensual Nonconsent. What is it? What does it entail? Is it ethical? How do you ensure it’s done with safety in mind? How do you negotiate? We will answer all these questions and discuss CNC at large. Support Allen with the costs of their wreck: Cash...

This week, to kick off Locktober, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr discuss chastity play. Locktober is an alternative holiday in which those who enjoy chastity play encourage themselves to be locked in chastity for the entire month of October. We talk about the risks and rewards of chastity, many ways that you can enjoy this kink, and advice on how to pursue it. Links from episode: https://piercingstudio-w...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen discuss Praise and Affirmation kinks!  This is a very nuanced type kink and focuses on the psychological domination of someone. Join us to learn about the kinks that overlap, how to use praise and affirmation, and so much more! To help support Allen with the costs of their wreck: CashApp: Allensworld111 Other Resources: Gynecologists who will pe...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen sit down with Devyn Stone; an educator, Leatherman, an author, a dominant, and Founder of Pragmatically Kinking and Executive Producer for the THRIVE conference. We have the pleasure of discussing a couple of their favorite topics: mental health and the leather community. Devyn has a perspective of the community which definitely deserves representati...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen discuss Service Submission vs Consensual Slavery. There are a lot of comparisons between the two, but definitely a few differences. We also discuss why we use the word “slave” and about different types of service. Links from episode: The Books of Gor by John Norman To help support Allen with the costs of their wreck: CashApp: Allensworld111 Other Res...

This week, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr discuss FemDom. What is it? Is it reserved for cisgender heteronormative couples? What kind of styles or archetypes are there for FemDoms? What kinds of subs do FemDoms have? Find out this and more when you join us for this week’s episode! Also, join us on social media, specifically Discord, to get in on the topics we cover as well as questions we answer! Other R...

This week, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr discuss Soft vs Hard Dominance/submission. There are of course lots of different ideas of what soft or hard dominance means throughout the kink community, and we’re going to cover a few of the main thoughts on the matter in this episode! Other Resources: Gynecologists who will perform a tubal sterilization BDSM/Kink Resources and Media Check out Scruff Pup’s #Bar...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen Vydra sit down with BDSM educator and practitioner, leatherperson, hedonist, and sadist; Phrygian Monk. They have been very active on Tiktok the last couple of years, educating people about kink, leather, and BSDM on the daily. In this episode, we discuss a variety of the nuances involved in kink, BDSM, and leather as well as some of the challenges m...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen Vydra sit down to reintroduce themselves and their vision for the podcast. We discuss who we are, what we do, a little bit of our personal histories, and where we want to go with things this NEW SEASON 2 of The Kinky Tavern. Other Resources: Gynecologists who will perform a tubal sterilization BDSM/Kink Resources and Media Check out Scruff Pup’s #Bar...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen Vydra were honored to virtually sit down with esteemed guest, Lee Harrington (he/him) who is described as an “internationally known spiritual and erotic authenticity educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on erotic and sacred experience.” Our conversation touched on issues of privilege in kink, working your rea...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen Vydra discuss Flagging!!  Have you ever heard of the Hanky Code? Flagging in the context of kink, also known as the Hanky Code, has a rich history and is a leather culture tradition alive and well today!  Learn about where it started, how it evolved, what the different colors mean, what’s going on with it today?  Find out all this and...

This week, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr have a conversation about protocol and honorifics in the BDSM community! What is a protocol? Why do people have them? What do the “levels” of protocol mean? What’s the difference between a role or label and an honorific? Should everyone coming into the community have to use your honorifics to refer to you? Find out all this and more by listening to this episode o...

TW: It’s no secret that society has very rarely been kind to queer people. In this episode, there will be mentions of laws, violence, discrimination, etc against people of the non-cis-het varieties. We will not be graphic, but we also don’t want to censor the history of our queer ancestors. In addition, we did our best to include as much as we could find in this timeline, but I’m sure that there a...

This week, Mx. Dizzy, Pup Rekkr, and Lord Allen are joined by the incomparable BiDaily (she/they), host of Off the Cuffs: A Kink and BDSM Podcast and a very popular one at that! Gwen loves to share her experiences and knowledge, especially on her evolution from Evangelical Christian Good Girl ™ to the kinky, outgoing sex working baddie they are today! In our time together, we discuss lots of thing...

This week, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr talk about some Queer History in the Kinky Tavern’s mini-series “Queer History!”  We started our research for this portion of Queer History at the beginning of the “new world,” America and plan to cover up til the most recent events. Of course, so many of the timelines found are very ethnocentric to America and there’s not a wealth of easily found informatio...

This week, Mx. Dizzy and Pup Rekkr sit down with special guest, Magic of Service, a Leather and Queer Historian and a Kink Educator who has presented and taught at several conferences, some international, focusing mainly on the subjects of history, mental health, and their intersections in kink. Magic (they/it) is a queer, disabled, neurodivergent leather slave who has been in the lifestyle since...