The Happy Gynecologist

When we are stressed or anxious, our brains can get stuck in Black and White thinking. Also known as "all-or-nothing thinking" or "Dichotomous Thinking," this flawed thought pattern can keep us stuck in a spiral of shame, blame, judgement and criticism. It also blocks our brains from seeing the potential solutions that are within the gray area of the situation. When I had a series of complications...

Coaching has taught me so many valuable tools and lessons over the years, both from getting coached and coaching clients. Today I am passing along 10 of the most life-altering lessons I have learned from getting coached. I want to give you the wisdom that helped me take back my power and become the person I am today, free of burnout.  I also want to know what your top lessons are from the pod...

How do we protect our longevity in this field? Today I am walking you through 3 ways to do so. With an analogy I picked up in a random business book, I am teaching you what The Golden Goose has to do with being an OB/GYN.

When we learn this work and begin to feel excited and hopeful again, the response from others may not come as expected. When you start having new beliefs, you will then feel differently and act differently. People around you may not understand or may even be upset, because their beliefs differ. Today, I am going to give you the support you need for when people around you "don't get it."  As a...

Many high achievers self-identify as perfectionists. We often learn from an early age that achieving is "good" and that we are good at it. However, when it comes to perfectionism, there are beliefs we have about it that aren't actually true. Today I am talking about the Fallacy of Perfectionism. By examining the 3 parts of this Fallacy, we can start to evaluate whether our perfectionist thoughts a...

When I was burnt-out, I had some small, seemingly insignificant thoughts that greatly affected my burnout. Now, I see those in my clients as well. These Sneaky Burnout Thoughts are subtle. I didn't know they even needed addressed at first. Now, I know exactly what to do about them. Join me to discover if you have the Sneaky Burnout Thoughts too and how to start working on them.  Join The Happ...

We often value other people's opinions of us. So much so, we can fall into the trap of accepting others' opinions of us, as our own. This is problematic when we have a patient transfer from our practice or leave a negative review online. We may feel terrible when this happens and it contributes more to burnout.  It seems as though our hard work is meaningless when we place so much emphasis on...

When we feel emotional pain, there are usually 2 types of pain: Clean Pain and Dirty Pain. Clean pain is the authentic pain that comes with grief, disappointment, and nostalgia. Dirty pain is more of a suffering pain that comes from negative thoughts about our circumstances.  In this episode, I am going to walk you through some examples of Clean vs. Dirty Pain, and give you 3 ways to get out...

Today we are talking about Indulgent Emotions, when they arise for us, and how they keep us stuck.  To register for my upcoming Coffee with Coach: 3 Steps to Enjoying This Job Again click here: coach-miles.com/coffee To submit a podcast topic, click here: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic

When I was burnt-out, I didn't feel much of anything...except like crap. I remember striving to produce more in hopes of making my employer proud, so then I could feel proud too. But when I was recognized as doing well, I still didn't feel proud. I didn't know back then that MY thoughts are what create my feelings...not others' thoughts about me.  In today's 100th episode, we are celebrating...

After recently coaching a group that was in burnout following a colleague retiring, I wanted to share a valuable lesson with you. Medicine teaches us many things, and one of the beliefs we uncovered for their group was "Someone has to see the patients." This belief led them to taking more than humanly possible, overworking, and burning out. With a belief such as this, we put ourselves last and try...

Another Q&A Episode with coaching on:  Ruminating about potential complications Avoiding going home When to retire Ways to get out of survival mode  For more free help from me, check out my Free Course: "3 Steps to Ending Your Burnout." You can get instant access by signing up here: coach-miles.com/freeresources

Ever feel like you are juggling everything? Like if someone asked you to do one more thing, everything would fall apart?  Today, I want to equip you with some tools so that you don't have to be overwhelmed by all of the balls you have in the air.  Links mentioned in today's episode:  For my free course, enter your info here: coach-miles.com/freeresources To submit a topic to be feat...

I used to live in survival-mode back when I was burnt-out. I recently found myself there again and was able to get out in 10 minutes, using the 2 steps I am going to teach you today.  To get my Free Course (3 Steps to End Your Burnout) click here: coach-miles.com/freeresources To submit a podcast topic for me to cover on an upcoming podcast, click here: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic To tell me...

As OB/GYN's we are often haunted by certain cases or events in our career. We get stuck and have a hard time moving on. This can be due to an underlying thought of "It's all my fault." This subtle thought and those that come with it can keep us stuck, and unable to process what happened. Most of us don't even realize that we are blaming ourselves. Today, I am going to walk you through the steps to...

Resentment was a HUGE part of my burnout. I felt it most when comparing myself to others, even those that I loved. Today, I want to talk about how I struggled with this emotion and how to start identifying where it might be showing up for you. When we can identify resentment better, we can start meeting our needs better, and reduce our burnout.  To get on the Priority Enrollment List for the...

Today I am going to teach you a tool to harness your imagination to align your daily life right now with the future vision you have for yourself.  To get the help you need applying this tool or for support during this time as an OB/GYN, come join The Happy Gynecologist Group by clicking here: coach-miles.com/enroll

I am going to teach you the tool called 3 Good Things. This amazingly simple tool (created by Dr. J Bryan Sexton) can reduce burnout by up to 22% if you do it before bed for 2 weeks. Episode Links and Notes:  Coffee with Coach (3 Steps to Enjoying This Job Again) is Saturday July 16th at 9amCST. Register (FREE) here: coach-miles.com/coffee Get the help you need by becoming a member of Th...

When we are burnt-out we often feel alone and disconnected from those we love. We find ourselves "checked out" on the couch at night. Our brains jump to thoughts that create disconnection, especially when it comes to our job. We know that physical connection can help ease burnout, but did you know that emotional connection can too? Today, I am going to teach you several ways to create more connect...

With Roe v. Wade being overturned, I have had a lot of people reach out to vent, to process and because they are struggling to feel better with thought work.  Today, I am going to review The Model, how we use it, and go through some common scenarios of what to do when thought work isn't working.  If this resonates with you, you need to register for Coffee with Coach: 3 Steps to Enjoying...

Today I am going to teach you what to do when you are faced with ANY problem. I am going to go in depth about how being problem focused can keep you stuck and feeling like dirt, as well as how to get out of that mindset. Join me at the next Coffee with Coach (3 Steps to Enjoying This Job Again) on July 16th at 9am by registering here: coach-miles.com/coffee  

Have you ever pushed yourself to achieve so much that it is harmful? Come listen to the continuing saga of the puppies at Happy Gynecologist Headquarters and how I found myself in a harmful achievement mindset.  You can find me on Instagram @CoachMilesMD or Facebook at: facebook.com/CoachMilesMD

Do you ever ruminate or worry all night after a tough case? Or after a patient complaint? Or with current events? After recently finding my brain going down the proverbial rabbit hole of rumination and worry, I spent some time really working on how to get out. I want to share with you my process for doing the same, by asking yourself 3 simple questions.  To save your spot for August (remember...

Do you feel like you live your life just trying to put out one fire after the next? Most people do, and here is why: their brain is confused about the difference between something being urgent vs. important.  In today's episode, I will teach you about why this difference matters as OB/GYN's, to help you waste less time and energy.  For more free help from me, visit: coach-miles.com/freer...

Today I am taking you through an exercise to prove to you what a Badass you are.  We don't celebrate our badassery nearly enough and it is time we do.  Come listen to this episode with a piece of paper ready to go through the exercise that will give you all the proof you need.  If you'd like more free help from me, you can click here to access hours of free help from me.