The Happy Gynecologist

People ask me all the time (usually with a tone of disdain): "Why do you spend so much time trying to help physicians tolerate medicine when it is such a toxic system? When you could be trying to fix medicine instead?"   The answer I give them is: This is how we change medicine .   One Doc at a time.  By gaining the awareness needed to stand up and say "I'm not OK with this." ...

We are going to be talking feelings today Y'all. I know we as OB/GYN's are so good at stuffing them down. We want to avoid even talking about them or maybe evening listening to a podcast about them...but hear me out! Today I want to teach you an exercise for how you can put feelings to good use in your life. I am going to teach you how feelings can be useful in driving your forward and for helping...

What do you think of when you hear the word "vulnerability" ?  Lots of times, we think "Ew, gross, feelings!" But what if vulnerability wasn't weak or something to fear?  What if instead you embraced it? What might change?  Come listen to how embracing vulnerability changed my life, and how I think it can help change medicine.  Also, I want to have coffee with you! Join me this...

When we make recommendations, it can be really frustrating for us when patients don't agree. Often this topic is a source of emotional exhaustion for us as OB/GYN's, which can lead to burnout. Let's talk about ways to handle this situation that help us rather than frustrating us.  Also, join me for the next Coffee with Coach on May 7th at 9am CST, where we will be talking about "Gaining Confi...

The term "needy" often comes with negative connotations in our society and sometimes we confuse this term with simply having needs. Today I am going to delve into why it matters AND why you should consider dropping this term from your vocabulary all together.  Join me for Coffee with Coach ("How to Gain Confidence in the O.R.") on Saturday May 7th at 9am CST: coach-miles.com/coffee To save yo...

I'm back to answering your questions today in a great episode, where we hit on so many important topics like: being in survival mode, processing emotions, finding thoughts that serve us better, time beliefs, and my process for how to create time.  If you would like more help from me, visit my website: coach-miles.com

Do you every feel emotionally drained at the end of clinic? What about after having a tough conversation? When we feel this way, it can contribute to burnout and job dissatisfaction, and it can lead to avoiding our feelings all together. Today, I am going to teach you my favorite tool to employ with these tough conversations that protects you from feeling drained and helps you be the compassionate...

Ever wish you weren't yelling as much? Want to parent in a way that makes you proud? Today's episode is for you! I am going to teach you my top 3 ways to parent in a way that will make you proud. Even if you are a dog parent or your kids are grown, this episode can be applied to numerous other areas of life.  To submit a podcast topic you'd like to see covered or a question you would like ans...

Today I am going to take you through a powerful exercise in setting priorities in your life. Grab some paper and a pen, because you are not going to want to miss out on figuring out your Top 5 Things in Life. Want to have a question answered or topic discussed here? Go to my website to submit your podcast topic: coach-miles.com/podcasttopic

We are so used to getting things done from a GO!GO!GO! type of energy, where we drive ourselves to keep going and accomplishing things. Often times, this comes from a place of wanting to accomplish things in order to avoid failure. When we are trying to motivate ourselves to do self-care, we need to come from a more loving place. Today I am going to walk you through an exercise to start getting ou...

When I was just starting to work on my burnout, I realized very quickly that going through my day with intentionality made me feel better. Today, I am going to give you a few ways to incorporate being intentional into your day in such a way that you decrease your burnout and process your stress.  Also, join me for my webinar 3/10/22 at 7PM CST "What Burnout Costs Us" by registering here: coac...

Today I'm answering some of YOUR questions about how I do things! In this fun episode, we will touch on being intentional with time, the #1 thing that helped my burnout, and being frustrated with aspects of our job.  Don't forget to join me next Thursday March 10th at 7PM CST for a FREE live class: "What Burnout Costs Us." I'll also be giving you the details of The Happy Gynecologist Group en...

As OB/GYN's, we are often searching for Balance in our lives. Whether that is between home and work, to feel like we aren't being pulled in several  different directions, or to just feel better, we have all searched for it. Today, I want to get you started on find your own Balance and how to examine what that means for you. Join me at my next FREE class: "What Burnout Costs Us" on Thursday Ma...

We are taught many things about money as physicians, good and bad.  The problem is, some of these things can actually lead to us overworking and getting burnt-out. So today, we are going to talk about money and our beliefs about it, our relationship with it, and how to work on our thoughts about it to decrease our chances of burnout. Come join The Happy Gynecologist Group, where we find your...

It's ACOG's Wellness Week and I've been celebrating it up right!  I've been teaching residents and coming up with new stuff for you guys! Today, I am going to teach you my Top 5 Lessons to decrease burnout and create the life you want as an OB/GYN. Also, join me for the next Coffee with Coach by registering here: coach-miles.com/coffee

Emotional exhaustion is not only one of the main components of burnout, but is a sign that you need to stop and re-evaluate how things are going for you. Emotional exhaustion can be a difficult thing to deal with and is a sign that you may be avoiding your emotions too often. Let me walk you through the 3 main ways that we, as OB/GYNs, get emotionally exhausted and how to start working on them.&nb...

Overworking is a common problem that can contribute significantly to burnout. While our jobs can sometimes contribute, there are also several other causes of overworking. Today I am going to walk you through the top 3 reasons we overwork as OB/GYN's and how to start addressing each.  Also, I have another Coffee with Coach coming up! This one is all about How to Handle Complications and Bad Ou...

Today's episode is all about reconnecting with your identity. Who are you without your gift? Who are you if you aren't a OB/GYN? After learning the hard way that I needed to do this work, I encourage you to do the same--as we will all need to know this someday if we retire or leave medicine. Today I am going to take you through an exercise to dig deeper into this work and reconnect with who you ar...

After a recent conversation with a friend, I realized that I needed to talk about where to start when everything is awful. After a bad call night, you can't just sit down and write in your journal or meditate when you are exhausted and mad and frustrated and just want to quit. You need to take these 6 steps FIRST. Join me today and I'll teach you what you need to know about your basic human needs...

As we start out in 2022, how do we look forward when the pandemic still persists? The uncertainty and lack of control we feel often lead us to feeling angry or frustrated. So how do we acknowledge that things aren't going how we would like them to and yet still look past how they are going? Tune in today where I walk you through the steps for making goals and dreaming in times of uncertainty.&nbsp...

Today, I am answering a slew of questions from listeners like you! We are talking my favorite books and podcasts, how to handle narcissistic bosses, if I'm writing a book, and weight loss (come join me for ALL the details at Coffee with Coach Saturday January 1st, 2022 at 10AM CST by registering for FREE here: coach-miles.com/coffee).

Living this crazy life as an OB/GYN isn't always easy, and it is much easier when we feel supported. But what do you do if you aren't feeling that support at home? Today I am going to walk you through an excellent listener question that touches on relationships, housework, The Patriarchy, when the division of work isn't fair, and where the feeling of support actually comes from. You can also submi...

Do you ever disagree with how your partners manage patients? Do you ever find yourself on the receiving end of a judgmental sign-out? Do you ever find yourself judging your partners harshly for how they manage patients?  We have all been there at some point! Today's episode is another listener topic and will walk you through several scenarios and how to handle the conflict within the call gro...

Today we are talking about making the transition from work to home a better one. By being intentional about de-stressing and planning ahead of time to do so, we can make our time at home more enjoyable and feel more present. Today, I will walk you through several ways to do this and how to apply them to your life.  If you'd like to submit a topic to be featured or a question to be answered, g...

This exclusive replay of Coffee with Coach focuses on all things charting! Let me teach you how to get in a better charting mindset by improving the relationship you have with your EMR. We talk charts, tasks, portal messages and more. I give you 3 steps to get started and lots of my favorite tips to increase efficiency and decrease brain drama when it comes to charting.