The Evolved Caveman: Stress, Relationships, and Emotional Mastery for Men

Humanity is at a crossroads between the world as we know it and the rapid pace of disruption. The smallest changes are reshaping our world faster than we can comprehend. Over the next few years, we will experience more disruption than in the previous 100 years. Do we notice this change happening? Are we numb or oblivious to this change? Are things changing too fast and too regularly to notice? Eve...

What makes for a successful person? A common trait among successful people is the ability to handle conflict well. This means having: 1.   A willingness to enter into highly emotionally charged conversations (they don’t shy away from conflict),  2.   The ability to remain calm themselves, 3.   The ability to calm others down so that  4.   Workable solutions are discovered.  But what if we are talk...

What lies beneath your annoyance? Why are we all so darn irritated? How do we get beyond it? How do we minimize the negative emotions so we can get to spending more time in positive emotions (like happiness)?    The new science of emotions has shown that core emotions provide a clear and direct path to happiness, physical and psychological well-being. Everyone can learn to deal with emotions effec...

  Dr. John shares some positive psychology tools and frameworks to help you learn to be happier.    What is happiness?    What is the PERMA framework?    Why are positive emotions so important for happiness?    How well can you spot your own positive emotions?    What is the emotion of elevation?    How can I make my work more meaningful (as meaningful work is the #1 predictor of happiness in men!...

In this episode of the Best Of The Evolved Caveman, Dr. John talks to trainer-to-the-stars, Alex VanHouten, about the need for testosterone as we age.   What is the “dad bod?”   Why does it happen? How do I avoid it?   Why is testosterone so important for great sex?   To what extent does testosterone decline as we age?   How does our testosterone production enter into our physical decline as men?...

This was one of the first solo casts that I did – a partial retelling of my divorce story. I did not realize it would hit so many so powerfully. I believe it is important for us to share our darkest moments if we think that serves others. This story is an attempt to share a tiny bit of how difficult it is to get out of a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies. You are far better of...

A powerful and deep conversation with Ethan Kross on the inner critic and how to quiet it. Ethan is the author of Chatter: The Voice in our heads, why it matters and how to harness it. He is one of the world’s leading experts on managing the conscious mind. An award-winning professor in the University of Michigan’s top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he is the directo...

Nothing epitomizes traditional masculinity like facing active fire in the military. Cameron Harman lived this after volunteering for the Army and getting rocked in the Afghanistan War. This is his story and it is remarkable. Cameron recently published his book outlining his whole story. Tune in and learn the good and the bad of old school masculinity.   How does one go from solider to PTSD to spir...

“Man up!’ “Stop being a pussy!” “Nut up!” “Suck it up!” These are just a few of the insults by which we are molded into men. Men are brought up to be tough, self-reliant, emotionless, and invulnerable. This process happens through a variety of influences such as fathers, friends, brothers, coaches, media and porn. As we live in a rule-driven society, naturally, the process of male socialization ta...

If you are in a relationship or want to be in one, this episode is for you!  Two top marriage experts  — Tod Jacobs and Dr. Peter Lynn —  join Dr. John all the way from Jerusalem, and who for the past 15 years, have prepared hundreds of individuals to develop a mature and idealistic version of marriage. Their credentials are both broad and deep. With a background in finance and investigative journ...

Dr. Michael F. Steger is Professor of Psychology and the Director for the Center for Meaning and Purpose at Colorado State University. He is an internationally recognized authority on the benefits of finding meaning in one’s life and in one’s work. Dr. Steger is a sought-after speaker and enjoys providing keynotes, workshops, and retreats around the world on topics ranging from meaning and purpose...

A fascinating deep dive into sex and relationship with therapist and men’s coach, Shana James. Some of the topics include…   What does the tears of men reveal about the conflict between men and women? What happens when someone gives you 100% permission to feel everything you feel? How do authenticity and vulnerability in men improve their romantic relationships?   How can men create more of a spar...

Great leaders are great storytellers. One of the key skills Dr. John teaches is that of honing your best stories to move and influence others. Stories teach, connect and inspire us. This is why Dr. John was thrilled to meet Sarah Elkins, professional storyteller. He was eager to learn all he could from a pro.  Sarah is a communication coach, Gallup certified StrengthsFinder coach, storyteller, key...

A poignant and actionable conversation on mindful leadership with Charlie White, Founder of Move Mountains.  Topics covered include: How do we get others to WANT to follow our lead?  What skills do we need to cultivate to create the best possibility that others want to follow?  What are some of the most common areas of weakness in leaders today? Are there leaders who have too much empathy for thei...

Research into the therapeutic use of psychedelics has gained speed in the past decade. Findings from research indicate substances such as psilocybin, LSD and MDMA have substantial, lasting benefits for many people who have mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and PTSD. These changes take place on two levels: 1) There are changes that take place to the neuronal structure and neural networ...

A new CDC report says folks with anxiety and/or depression rose from 11% to 42% during COVID (April 2, 2021). We have never seen anything like this. What we have here is a coming mental health epidemic. The real emotional work of COVID begins now. Now we begin to re-emerge - back...into the real world of people. And we have a moment to exhale, slightly. But now, our emotions have a chance to final...

Scott Miller has had an impressive and brilliant career with FranklinCovey. In his 25-year career, Scott hosts the On Leadership podcast which has over 8 million listeners. He served as CMO and executive vice president of business development for FranklinCovey and currently serves as their senior advisor on thought leadership. He is a talented and intelligent guy.    Find out what some of the best...

Primal World Beliefs is a new area of research that seems to be the foundation of your perceptions, thoughts, emotions and actions. The implications of this are massive. Consider that you might change your behavior towards others by shifting what you believe about how safe the world is in general. How about changing your relationship with money by altering what your belief is about how abundant re...

An incredible interview with Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT on men, leadership, relationships, Man Box culture, and emotional awareness. How does Man Box culture influence our leadership as men? And as women? To what extent to women need to adapt masculine ways to succeed in the male dominated workplace? To what extent does our skill in relationship and communication impact our leadershi...

This is a very important solo cast by Dr. John. If you listen to only one podcast this year, this is the One. Powerful. Actionable. Life-changing. This is the real shit. How do finally get that infernal inner critic to shut the f*ck up?! Find out the latest tools here! There is a story about the great spiritual teacher Gurdjieff many moons ago. One day he asked his students, “If a prisoner wants t...

Body image issues are no longer just for women. On average, roughly 40 percent of men are unhappy with some aspect of their looks. In one study, nearly 80% of professional soccer players were unsatisfied with some part of their physical appearance. Join us for an intimate & humorous talk on male body image and it’s connection with confidence, sexuality and swagger. Dr. John’s guest is the lead...

**The Simple Habit That Makes or Breaks Your Relationship**   *Straight from the research of Dr. John Gottman* What if one tiny, almost invisible habit was the difference between relationship bliss… and a total emotional dumpster fire? In this quick-hitting episode, Dr. John drops a truth bomb from Dr. John Gottman — the godfather of couples research — who tracked couples over six years to uncover...

Pete Buecker was a successful orthopaedic surgeon who felt that he was merely treating the symptoms of his patients. He left the field and got a Ph. D. in mind-body medicine. Now he works on creating virtual reality mental health programs to treat the root causes — stress, anxiety, depression, inflammation. An absolutely amazing conversation Anger is one of our biggest barriers to evolution. Anger...

Joree Rose, LMFT, is a marriage and family therapist, host of the Journey Forward with Joree Rose podcast, entrepreneur, Dr. John’s fiancee and has a brilliantly insightful mind. In this episode, Joree and I discuss the cutting edge research into primal world beliefs and core beliefs and how they dramatically impact your success and happiness. These beliefs seem to be the foundation of everything...

For the 100th episode, a solo cast by Dr. John Schinnerer on the man box culture we all grew up in, how its affected us, how it has cut us off from greater happiness, and what we can do about it. Topics covered: What is the Man Box Culture? Why should you care? What are the rules about what it means to be a man? Which insults are used to easily manipulate men? How does the Man Box damage us as men...