The Evolved Caveman: Stress, Relationships, and Emotional Mastery for Men

Purpose is critical for a thriving life. As an example, Viktor Frankl lived through three concentration camps during WW II. He endured these concentration camps as the physician for the prisoners. One thing that he discovered was that if you weren't shot or starved outright by the Nazis, purpose was a big predictor of whether you would survive. If a prisoner lost their purpose, they would start ge...

Many men don’t understand the importance of their romantic relationship in terms of their overall happiness. To be clear, there is little happiness if your marriage/relationship is unhappy. Sex is a key lagging indicator of how satisfying your relationship is (at least if you’ve been together more than a year). If your relationship is struggling, odds are, so is your sex life. And a recent survey...

As a Ph. D. in psychology, here’s one truth I’ve seen again and again — every single one of the 7.3 billion humans bumbling around this planet is chasing one thing: happiness. Sure, we all take different routes to get there. Some go after money. Others chase fame, power, or six-pack abs. But the endgame is the same — we all just want to feel good.   Now here’s the kicker: science (yes, real scienc...

**From Power Suit to Purpose: Jeff Nischwitz on Ditching Success to Find Meaning** After 17 years of crushing it in the legal world — big money, status, women, toys — Jeff Nischwitz had everything… except happiness. Fulfillment? Nope. Meaning? Nada. He was living the dream, only to realize it was someone else’s dream entirely. So Jeff blew it all up. He walked away from the “success script” and be...

**Parental Alienation: How to Stay Connected with Your Kids Through Divorce — with Dr. Joshua Coleman** One of the most gut-wrenching, soul-punching outcomes of divorce? When your own child cuts you out of their life. Radio silence. Blocked texts. Cold stares. And let’s be honest — it happens way more often to fathers than mothers. Men are nearly *twice* as likely to be alienated from their kids a...

Society has long understood the importance of mothers in parenting. It seems only recently that fathers are starting to be valued as well. Fathers and mothers serve different purposes in parenting and both are needed and important. Topics covered: The most important lessons we learn from dad. How men tend to look for external validation and how it messes us up. The importance of learning be intern...

**Embrace the Pain, Ditch the Bullsh*t, and Own Your Story — with Brian Bogert** This one hits deep. Brian Bogert, a dear friend of mine, has one hell of a story — a freak accident at age 7 that nearly cost him his arm. His arm was cut off from his body after getting run over by a truck! Somehow, it was surgically reattached but forever changed. But instead of getting stuck in victimhood, Brian tu...

The world is hungry for inspiration, motivation, and hope. Join Tom and Dr. John to find yours now! Tom Ziglar took over the family business from his father Zig Ziglar. Zig was one of the world’s top speakers and truth-tellers. Find out what lessons Tom learned along the way. Discover the idea of consilience - using different fields of study to converge on one truth Hear about the top ways to moti...

An in-depth interview with Frederik Sandvall - Former Swedish Special Forces. Frederik is an investor, entrepreneur, dealmaker, author, and former special forces soldier in Sweden. Topics covered include: The critical need to reframe “failure” as “a learning opportunity” - the why and the how. Best mindset for success in extreme, stressful circumstances. The importance of servant leadership in the...

A Conversation Between Author, Mark Winkler and Dr. John Schinnerer This episode is an attempt to provide a way forward through the increasingly divisive topic of traditional masculine ideology (i.e., those who subscribe to the ideas that men shouldn't feel, women belong in the kitchen, women are sexual conquests men should be hypersexual, men are homophobic, men who don't fight back are weak, gay...

A fascinating deep dive into sex and relationship with men’s coach, Shana James. Some of the topics include… What do the tears of men reveal about the conflict between men and women? What happens when someone gives you 100% permission to feel everything you feel? How do authenticity and vulnerability in men improve their romantic relationships? How can men create more of a spark in their romantic...

Happy New Year! Finally, 2021 is here! [Deep exhale.] With the hope that this year will be much better than last year, now is the perfect time to take a look at who you are and who you want to be. This is the perfect conversation to set your new year heading in the right direction. A deep and poignant conversation between Dr. John and Eric Yusko on the future direction of men for greater success a...

Dr. John discusses the best mindsets for success in business with best-selling author and business coach, Dan LeFave. Topics discussed include… The best mindsets for entrepreneurs. Best ways to implement new mindsets. Other tools to manage the mind including Dan’s free gift, his productivity planner. The best ways to scale a business. Bio Dan LeFave received life’s second chance when he survived a...

When he was a young man, Kon was drafted into the special forces in the Air Force in his native Greece. He also loved performing arts and dance. Impressively, he did both simultaneously. This part of Kon’s story really interested me in terms of how he balanced the masculine with the feminine. How did Kon balance military, antiterrorism work (i.e., more stereotypically masculine) during the day wit...

Watching Band of Brothers inspired Cameron Harman to volunteer for the U.S. Army. He wound up in the Afghanistan war. This is his story. How does one go from solider to PTSD to spiritual student? Is it necessary to be a mean, out-of-control asshole to be respected as a leader in the military? What motivates people better — fear or love? To what extent is fear a necessary motivator in battle? To wh...

Anger, frustration, resentment, irritability — all of these are nearly inevitable during the shelter-in-place stress of COVID. But what do we DO about them? How do we turn down the volume on these destructive emotions as well as the relationship-killing behaviors that they fuel? Relationships die via the death of a 1000 paper cuts. These paper cuts consist of small (to large) acts that create ange...

I used to hate salespeople – always trying to push some product on me they didn’t believe in and that I didn’t need. Now, in my maturity (wink, wink), I realize the importance of sales – the fact that in some undeniable way, all of life is sales. That is, nearly every conversation we have is an attempt to persuade one another. Whether it’s about what to have for dinner, or what car to buy. Begrudg...

Join Dr. John for a revealing conversation with a brilliant, young therapist, Eli Weinstein. What’s it like to work in a psych unit? How do you stay calm when the shit hits the fan? What is radical self - care and why is it more needed now than ever before? What are some ideas for how to engage in radical self - care? How well do movie representations of therapists accurately depict true therapy (...

How to go from a leader with no followers to a leader of tens of thousands? How do John Gottman’s 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse (which predict divorce) also apply to business relationships? How does the Man Box culture train men to be experts in these 4 Horsemen - critical, contemptuous, defensive stonewallers? How do you pick yourself up and move forward after a heart-breaking divorce? How do you...

Jon Rennie is a former Cold War nuclear submarine officer turned CEO. He led eight manufacturing businesses in Corporate America for 22 years before starting his own manufacturing business in 2016. He writes and speaks on leadership issues and hosts the Deep Leadership podcast. His latest book, "I Have the Watch: Becoming a Leader Worth Following" is an Amazon best-seller. Questions answered: What...

A valuable conversation with Jay Scherr on what we need for greater success AND happiness, including topics of ... What motivates us to radical change and transformation? The need for men to check their egos for greater success and happiness The path to happiness for men - Internal validation (vs. external validation) Being aware of the misery caused by social comparisons At what age do we stop le...

What is the “dad bod?” Why does it happen? How do I avoid it? Why is testosterone so important for men? To what extent does testosterone decline as we age? How does our testosterone production enter into our physical decline as men? What can we do to naturally increase testosterone production? About Alex VanHouten: As a personal trainer and nutritionist of 14 years, carrier of a brutal genetic dis...

An important and enlightening conversation with two of the top experts on masculinity - Dr. Ron Levant and Shayna Pryor, M.A. What is the difference between being a man (biological sex) and masculinity (gender roles)? Why should we care about masculinity and Man Box culture? How do men learn what it means to be a man? How do men deal with divorce? How do men deal with being a single parent? Are bo...

One of Dr. John’s passions is emotions: How they are expressed; how to manage them; and how to recognize them in one’s self AND others. Did you ever see the Fox TV show Lie To Me? That show was 95% based on the science of Dr. Paul Ekman, who has been called the world’s best lie detector. Our guest this week, Dan Hill, studied extensively under Dr. Ekman. And the truth is written all over your face...

Great leaders are great storytellers. One of the key skills Dr. John teaches is that of honing your best stories to move and influence others. Stories teach, connect and inspire us. This is why Dr. John was thrilled to meet Sarah Elkins, professional storyteller. He was eager to learn all he could from a pro. Sarah is a communication coach, Gallup certified StrengthsFinder coach, storyteller, keyn...