The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Access all bonus episodes by subscribing here: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Building off of this post , I discuss why the idea that both parents should act identically is unhealthy and unhelpful. Often, women say their husbands are harsher on the kids than they are, and the husbands are made to apologize for acting differently than their wives do towards the kids.  This is imbal...

Everyone thinks they deserve a dynamic, unconditionally loving, fun and attractive partner... but what are you bringing to the table?  How would you come off if you went on a date with a new person acting as you do at home?  My podcast gives you an assignment of a new way to think about this, and helps you do a potentially difficult but incredibly useful deep dive into who you are and ho...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader requested the topic "how to know if you're raising emotionally intelligent kids" but I figured many people may want to know what to do if you see that you're not!  In this episode, I discuss the number one way to promote empathy and emotional understanding in your kids.  It may be both simpler and harder than y...

Subscribe if you learned something new! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I discuss how it's healthy and adaptive to train your partner to meet your needs, why you may think this is impossible or have biases against the idea of this, and even how to model this healthy dynamic for your kids!  I address the myth of it being somehow less genuine or meaningful to have to...

Subscribe if you love these episodes!!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I discuss why women often feel their bodies drop off a cliff in their 40's, and what happens to their minds and personalities.  Anyone who is or is married to, or WILL be married to, a 40 year old woman, should listen to this episode!  Essential listening to figure out why this age yields so muc...

Subscribe if you love these episodes!!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Expanding on this post , I discuss the overparenting epidemic and how it hurts both kids and parents. Instead of worrying constantly about doing or saying the "wrong" thing with your kids, recognize that you are a person too, with your own limits and boundaries.  Empower your kids to be confident in themse...

Subscribe if you love these episodes!!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe There's a term in psychology called help rejecting complainer, and it is exactly what it sounds like!  This episode describes this type of communication style, why it is so irritating, how to handle it if your partner or parent acts this way, and what to do if (gasp) you yourself recognize that you are a h...

Please subscribe here! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe As I discuss in this episode expanding on my post Why To Talk About Exes , a wealth of information comes from discussing your past sexual and romantic experiences!  It is silly to talk about families of origin and then just skip over relationship history and expect to understand your partner on a deep level. if you are unable t...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener recorded a question for me about dating with a toddler after divorce! I discuss my thoughts about dating as a single parent, and how to maintain a healthy perspective no matter when you choose to start dating or how casual versus serious you are with this new person. The idea that a child will be traumatized by me...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  Men and women are on totally different planets with how much, how often and to what intensity level they think about their kids, even if they both love the kids equally. In this episode, I discuss how thoughts about the kids pervade every aspect of the average mom's life, and help her husband understand her on a deeper leve...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  What is codependency and how does it differentiate from interdependence? So many people use this buzzword, but what does it really mean?  And how can you work toward a healthier relationship where you have boundaries and your own sense of self? Links:  When a Man Loves a Woman (the movie I mentioned!)  Interd...

In a comment about my post My Male Clients Are Doing Much More Housework And Childcare Than A Decade Ago And Their Wives Are Not Happier , a reader asks what we should teach boys about marriage if it's not just to do the housework and help out.  I directly address this, as well as explore the disparity in what parents nowadays seem to teach boys vs girls about self-worth and the need for a pa...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe People think that if each person brings 50% to the table in their marriage, they end up with 100%.  Unfortunately, this doesn't work in practice. Instead, each partner has to be committed to delivering 100% in their marriage and fully and genuinely prioritizing their partner's needs.  If both people commit to this appro...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I go through all the hormonal, biological, and stage-of-life related reasons your libido may be low that have nothing to do with your spouse or your marriage.  If you are or will one day be (or are married to someone who will be) breastfeeding, on birth control, having a period, going through menopause, on a...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader liked a post on this subject so much he said I should turn it into a book but a 20 minute podcast is a lot quicker!  Check this episode out for a transformative reframe on the topic of sex drive disparities, with helpful analogies that all my sensitive lower-libido listeners can easily empathize with!  Share wi...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many women want alpha males, but these can be easily confused with assholes if you aren't careful.  In this episode, I explore what traits are similar and different across these two types of males.  Also, we discuss the more passive (sometimes called "beta" but that's a mean term) male, and how women need to know the...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook , you'll see a recent conversation with my dating coach friend where she said men shouldn't put that they like sex in their dating profiles and I disagreed. Listen to me talk about honesty, alpha males, the dating marketplace, and the dating app with the sex quiz where I met my husband! L...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many women are partnered with higher libido men but feel very unsexy and never in the mood.  Given that you understand responsive desire now from earlier episodes, how can you use this knowledge coupled with your commitment to your marriage to get yourself into a sexier headspace?  I give you some tips on how to cult...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe I work with many women whose husbands have ADHD.  ADHD can explain a lot more than you think in terms of your husband's behavior, and in this episode of the Dr Psych Mom Show, I teach you exactly what ADHD can entail, including its effect on your marriage and how you can cope moving forward.  Also I talk about who guys...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe This listener wrote in about the "self-improvement" he is hoping to obtain via taking a "sexual mastery course." I explore what his wife may be feeling when she reacts poorly to this news, and how "self-improvement" doesn't have much of a place in long-term sexual relationships, because it makes things about one person versus the...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader wrote in with this question and I give him some tough love and education about emotions, marriage, women, weight, and more!  Thanks for everyone who writes in and genuinely asks for my feedback, because every question helps people out there who don't have the courage to write in!  Thanks for listening everyone...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A lot of men mistakenly think their wives "withhold" sex spitefully when they are mad. Au contraire mon frere!  In fact if you think clearly about it, your wife may be a lot of things, but a spiteful withholder is usually not one of them!  Listen and learn and subscribe!!  Refer back to my responsive desire podcast...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe I think physical touch is the most important love language and not just because it's my own! Listen if you're either the higher or lower libido partner for new ways to conceptualize and communicate about the physical touch love language and what it means for those who have it! Listen for my if-your-house-was-on-fire male/female a...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Here are common reasons that I see women initiate divorce. They aren't usually the same reasons as I discussed for men in my episode about common reasons men ask for divorces. Share with your partner and discuss if any of these are risk factors for you! Links: The Young Mother Stage And Why To Come Home Early From Work How C...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many men wonder why it fails spectacularly when they try and send their wives sexy pics or make sexual comments.  In this episode I clear up why women confusingly say, "I wish we had foreplay all day long" but then in no way want to talk about sex during that time. Required listening if you're a straight guy in a long ter...