The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

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Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it matters. Many couples struggle with repair because of shame, defensiveness, and/or avoidance. Here's what to do and what not to do! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 235 more e...

You may be jealous because you in fact aren't being very nice to your partner! A new way to understand yourself. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 235 more episodes, most recently "How Can I Have Sex If My Wife Doesn't Want To?"...

I read about how AI is causing "cognitive surrender," meaning you don't even try to think for yourself because AI can do it readily and confidently for you. This also happens in codependent relationships, and I've seen it in both genders of underfunctioners. Take back your ability to think, execute, plan, and do things for yourself and your family! Remember guys! Heather's FA...

There was some discussion about this in the secret group. Reality is that you can be sex positive and open while also having some boundaries. Here's my thoughts on this as a mom of teenagers and a psychologist! Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30! ⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/intimacyworkshops⁠⁠⁠ Join our anxious/avoidant workshop...

In this alliteratively titled episode, we discuss how being rigid about your preferences, routine or beliefs can harm your relationships with other people. This includes your marriage, your friendships, and your family. Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30! ⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/intimacyworkshops⁠⁠ Join our anxious/avoidant works...

A clarion call to stop making your partner feel bad for feeling stressed by parenting. It is NORMAL to feel stressed by raising kids and when you imply it's abnormal, all you're doing is making your marriage worse. Remember guys! Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30! ⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/intimacyworkshops⁠ Join our anxious/avoidant workshop Fri Sep...

Got a comment that watching porn doesn't impact frequency that men want sex, although the commenter could see it might impact the type of sex men want (eg more novelty). Yet, it impacts both! This is a free way to make your sex life and marriage much better. Heather's FALLing into intimacy series is here and starts Sept 30! https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/intimacyworkshops Join ou...

If you are constantly frustrated by your spouse not doing things your way, which you think of as the "right" way, then this episode is for you! Join our anxious/avoidant workshop Fri Sept 25! ⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/anxious-avoidant-dance-workshop⁠⁠ My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom...

Here's the anxious/avoidant dance workshop I promised: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/anxious-avoidant-dance-workshop ⁠Both men and women can be know it alls, and this ruins relationships with partners, kids, friends, and coworkers. If you think you know more than others, here's why your spouse may be frustrated and pull away.⁠ My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

When you complain about your marriage to similarly situated friends... does it help? Or is it co-rumination that makes things worse? It depends, and I dive into this entire topic on today's episode. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 230 more ep...

A recent trip to Ohio sparked this podcast episode! Listen to how this can be both good and bad. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 230 more episodes, most recently "Try To Be A More Reliable Narrator"... subscribe here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Some people think that avoidant partners become bad parents. This misconception is at the heart of today's episode! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 230 more episodes, most recently "Try To Be A More Reliable Narrator"... subscribe h...

If you think your partner is the main problem in your relationship and your main problem is you're frustrated by how objectively bad/avoidant/irritating they are... listen up! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 230 more episodes, most recently &qu...

Many people, especially "producers" and those who feel deeply aligned with their careers, fear retirement. Here's a new way to think about this stage of life and what I've seen to help many clients! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 2...

The heartbreaking Lindsay Clancy murder case is all over the news, if you don't know about it, can read this: What We Know About Lindsay Clancy’s Trial for the Deaths of Her Children - The New York Times Here's what I think as a psychologist and mom of three. Also, if you or someone you know needs support, free and confidential help is available right now. You can call the National Materna...

When my son recently had to say no to a school activity in favor of other activities, he was worried about disappointing the person in charge. I said this line to him and it came out funny, but it is 100% true for all humans. It is useful to think about this as a fact of life, and something you need to come to terms with in order to lead an authentic and meaningful life! My newest venture, includi...

So many people think the solution to all their marital problems is to change their partner. After all, they think, shouldn't my partner WANT to improve? Yet somehow, no matter what incremental progress your partner makes toward your goals, whether that's more sex, more conversations, or anything else, nothing will fall into place until you accept them for who they are, or decide that you c...

By micromanaging your partner's behavior, whether in the home, with the kids, or in other arenas, you are never giving yourself a chance to do "exposure therapy" for the anxiety that their way of living will cause irreparable harm. It won't! All this and more. Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up and learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://w...

You may think you have a lot of frustration tolerance and grit, but you may not be considering your inability to tolerate your partner or child struggling, even in small ways. When you overfunction to prevent them from ever experiencing frustration or irritation, you are stopping them from learning how to handle life activities and the negative emotions that you can't control! Join our men&#39...

Today we talk about the real world benefits of being with an avoidant partner, and yes, they exist! Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up and learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠...

Some men think their issue with their marriage is a libido disparity, but the reality is that it is much deeper. Women who are scared of "adulting" and shy away from an adult role tend to also not want much sex. The major issue in these marriages is that the man takes over everything or almost everything in the home and tells himself that this would be ok if there was more sex, but there...

In this child centered world, parents struggle with giving advice to their kids. Why, and what sorts of things do I hear from adult clients about parents who never proffered advice? Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up and learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW P...

If you focus on what you want, you risk a constricted and anxiety-driven life. Instead, try this new way of framing your life decisions! Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up and learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Why? Because you are no longer hungry in any sense. You thus turn to meeting your needs for pleasure and comfort, becoming your own pet. But if you are a wild animal at heart, this transition is anything but easy. Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up and learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group⁠⁠⁠⁠ My newest vent...