The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

This is something I love to do. It can be a fascinating way to explore your own psyche and to bond with your spouse as well. And it's free and easy! All in today's episode. Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up and learn more: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group⁠⁠ My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome to this amazing episode with Lenore Skenazy, the wonderful author of a book I loved as a younger mom, Free Range Kids , and the President of Let Grow! One of my favorite topics is the anxious culture of overparenting, and we dive into how this impacts kids and ways to change and give our kids healthy levels of independence and freedom! Let Grow: https://letgrow.org Lenore on Instagram: @le...

Do you recognize yourself, your partner, or your parents/inlaws in this? Here is the person who acts like they are the scrappy underdog in all interactions, from going to the grocery store to cooking dinner for their family. Why are people like this, how can you interact with them more successfully, and how can you understand yourself better and improve in this dimension if this hits uncomfortably...

There's a lot of nuance to the topic of whether you should tell your kids about negative things from your past, including poverty, abuse, parents' mental health issues, or more. How can you navigate the balance between authenticity and care with your children during these topics, and how does your approach change over time? Join our men's coaching group! email info@bestlifebehavioralhe...

A personality disorder that many have never heard of! Here's what HPD entails. Does this sound like anyone in your life? is uncomfortable in situations in which they are not the center of attention interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions consistently uses physical appeara...

Here's what I think about why men are lonely, including some thoughts about society now vs a generation ago, as well as some practical strategies to increase your circle. IF YOU'RE INTERESTED IN THE MEN'S GROUP, it starts June 23. Email us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up or learn more here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-group My newest venture,...

I always discuss how if you're depressed or have ADHD, you may get less done than other people, and it doesn't mean you're lazy. But you know what, some people are truly lazy! And that is OKAY.... except if you're a super productive person married to one. Here's how to understand what "laziness" really is and how to think about it in a more objective way. My newest ve...

Both partners in this dynamic suffer and end up with lower self esteem, even though we usually think the preoccupied attachment/pursuer partner suffers more. How does this dynamic impact both partners negatively? My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Gro...

I've discussed the self-made man before, as this is a common type that I get as a therapy or coaching client. This is about the self-made women! Some differences and some similarities. And how does this woman behave in intimate relationships? Resources I promised: Etched in Sand: https://amzn.to/4e03f5C Wall St Journal article: https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/careers/surprising-lessons-from-talk...

Common dynamic with men who say because they are the higher earner, everything should move around their schedule. Some of them even want their wives to quit their jobs because their priority is her to not be stressed... so that she can be a better companion to them, even if her job is meaningful to her. All about jobs and money and why earning more doesn't mean you're better, on today'...

Women escaping into romance novels or online relationship content is not healthy IF THEY ARE THE PURSUING PARTNER. This fake media raises expectations beyond what a man can provide in the natural universe, and increases the distance between what she wants and what he can give, just like porn does for men. But some women don't at all want more romance and are the avoidant partner, not the preoc...

There are certain relationship dynamics that I have seen crop up when the wife is a teacher. This adds to my episode on relationship issues when the man is in IT, a lawyer, a doctor, or a CEO/entrepreneur. Listen up for common issues that I've observed in my many clients who are teachers! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/d...

What's an emotional hangover? I didn't make up this term but it resonates with many people who haven't understood why they feel so awful the day or even week after a fight. Today we learn all about what this is, who gets them more than others, and how to avoid them. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠...

Wouldn't it be great to be married to someone who is good at everything? Well, my caseload is filled with high achieving men with marriage issues, so I guess it's not that simple. Today I discuss what's bound to be a classic episode... The King Midas Problem in marriage and in the bedroom! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee...

Why does optimizing your sex life never work, even though it works in other aspects of your life? A wake up call to the high achieving men who just can't make their wife do what they wish she would, despite how "it would be better for both of us." My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jo...

This is a common phrase from women at midlife. "I don't have any more F's to give!" "I realized I don't give a flying F anymore" etc etc. What does this mean and how does it look different for preoccupied vs avoidant vs secure women? My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's...

Bad news: if you think you're not, you're probably picking up on something real. But you may be able to increase how interesting you are with these really practical tips and reframes! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Do you like to create in your spare time, which I call a PRODUCER, or do you like to enjoy what others have created, which I call a CONSUMER? Make music/food/crafts/projects/money? Or attend concerts, watch TV, listen to music? Today we discuss what happens when a producer marries a consumer, and when two of each marry one another! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Today we have the most special guest, Michael Flax, CPA of flaxcpa.com . This is my own accountant and he will field all of my questions which includes many things I have forgotten about my own tax situation, lol. Michael is an awesome accountant and I refer him to so many other therapists that I thought it would be useful to be able to point them to this podcast. We cover things like: - WTF is an...

Today I discuss my new term "financial attachment style" and the analogues for avoidant and preoccupied attachment as it applies to how you spend money. Many of my clients struggle with hoarding money or overspending. Where do these styles emerge from and how do they function within relationships? My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffe...

There is some idea now that any woman with a loving husband wants sex. This could not be less true. Women may not want sex for all kinds of reasons that have zero to do with their husbands. They may be tired or stressed NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE DOES IN THE HOUSE (including 100% of the chores which I've seen many times), they may just have lower drives (remember there's a normal distribution of most e...

Having siblings of the opposite sex really helps your (heterosexual) marriage. Here's how men with sisters and women with brothers act differently and why people with opposite sex vs same sex siblings tend to pair up with each other! And how to learn about men/women if you didn't have opposite gender siblings! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bu...

Scheduling sex works for some people. Listen to this episode to find out who! Hint: it's not going to be the magic bullet that unilaterally makes your wife like sex or repairs your sexless marriage. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsych...

A listener asked if I could do an episode on the distinction between avoidant and selfish partners, and that is a real logical puzzle. I can't really think of any! But don't worry, preoccupied attachment partners are selfish too. All this and more in today's episode! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jo...

As you know if you listened to my episode about Homeschooled, I found it to be a fascinating deep dive into an enmeshed relationship between the author and his homeschooling mom. Today I'm thrilled to have Stefan as a guest! He is wonderful, open, smart, and introspective. He is a kindred spirit and I identify a lot with many of the themes he brings up in his work, from my own childhood. Note:...