The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

When you're in love, it changes you deeply. If you feel that love has NOT changed you and made you more empathic, warm, and generous... that's an issue. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episode...

Sharing isn't just an important skill for kids to learn! Our society is becoming increasingly, dysfunctionally focused on the individual at the expense of the group/couple/relationship. If you and your partner struggle with eating the same food, watching the same show, or doing anything you don't each want to do for the sake of the other... listen up!! My newest venture, including ALL BRAN...

Cheating is categorized as "relationship behavior" but it's more about "lack of frustration tolerance." Cheating relates to addictive behaviors and to sensation seeking more than anything in the marriage. An exception is the "exit affair" in preoccupied attachment people. All in today's episode! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/p...

This awesome book held my attention in a way that few do. It is a riveting discussion of Stefan's enmeshment with his mom that manifested in homeschooling which was very isolating but allowed his mother to remain in his babyhood forever. Spoilers after the first few minutes... I give you fair warning though. I'm going to have Stefan as a guest soon so listen and read the book before! It's here! ht...

You know what people don't regret? Stopping or cutting back on drinking. This is the number one thing that can improve your marriage, so stop acting like the fights you have when you're drunk are "just what you're actually thinking anyway"... that is what you are saying to justify doing what you know you shouldn't! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DA...

A completely new way to think about this for the preoccupied attachment woman! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most recently "Sex At Midlife,&q...

Worth the (free) price of listening just for my analogy that women who call ADHD husbands not doing chores well "weaponized incompetence" is no better than the guys who say their depressed wife is just lazy. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts ⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here...

On this episode, I discuss the internet idea that it's abusive not to have sex with your spouse. What? This is nonsense. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes,...

Today we will talk about your midlife crisis, what dimensions it tends to span, and why most deep thinkers have them! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts⁠ Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most recen...

Today I have an awesome guest, Dr. Marc Lener, a psychiatrist who I've collaborated with on cases in the past. We have a rollicking conversation covering everything from misdiagnosing bipolar as depression to marijuana and who shouldn't use it to how AI is impacting the future of psychiatry. Highly recommend if you're interested in Black Mirror :) Dr. Lener studied the biological basis...

Are you a good friend to yourself? Do you give yourself grace and compassion? Would you talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself? Or did you internalize a parent's voice and become a terrible friend to yourself? This episode is for you if you are your own worst enemy! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/posts https://buymeacoffee.com...

Preoccupied attachment partners think their avoidant partners are BETTER than they are considered to be by others, in terms of looks, intelligence, and mental health. Avoidant partners think that their preoccupied attachment partners are WORSE than they are considered by others. This judgement exacerbates the superiority complex of the avoidant and the inferiority complex of the preoccupied. Here&...

Limerence, or unrequited infatuation/preoccupied attachment, can make a partner feel just as objectified as sexual objectification can. All about how this works and why planning a million date nights isn't helping your relationship. The promised resources: My Husband: https://amzn.to/4qy7tWw Video of guy coming up behind wife at sink: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1208664274068724 Limerent wom...

When your spouse asks for something that you can't/won't do, why do you tell them you will instead of answering honestly about your doubts and limitations? You could be a people pleaser, you could have limited self-awareness, and you could be clinging to an outdated or inaccurate self concept. How can you change in this domain for the better? If you enjoy my content, here's my buy me a...

Have you been triggered within your relationships because of past trauma due to being a parentified child, self-esteem issues, or overall stress in your home growing up? This is the episode for you. My awesome guest today is Becca Newkirk, a therapist licensed in MD, DC, and VA who specializes in trauma. Our discussion covers complex trauma, aka trauma from childhood, and how to treat it even if y...

I've turned 45! I've been seeing clients for twenty years now and here's what I have learned about people and relationships. Dispelling some myths about therapists also. And if you'd like to wish me a happy birthday, here's my buy me a coffee link! https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most...

Some men try to compete with their kids for their wife's attention and this invariably ends poorly. Don't go against evolution! Today's episode covers how to balance being a spouse and a parent in a way that will make sense to both you and your wife! Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most recently "The...

When they start dating an avoidant partner, many people are still very close to a friend that fulfills their emotional or intellectual needs, who they flirt with (if they are honest). When the main relationship with the avoidant becomes more serious, like engagement or marriage, they end the friendship bc they want to engage fully in the relationship. Unfortunately, this is when it becomes obvious...

The book The Second Mountain by David Brooks is very interesting and speaks to a lot of issues that my midlife clients discuss with me every day. In this episode, I discuss what this concept means and how to use it to think about yourself and your life in a new way! The book: https://amzn.to/494JDMs Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more epi...

Parenting teenagers is not for the weak! Today's wide ranging conversation with a fellow psychologist in my area covers: - Screen time: limits vs freedom - Perimenopause/menopause and parental issues impacting how you show up at this parenting stage - Anxiety in parents and how this impacts school refusal - How parents are triggered by their teenagers based on their own histories - Why high achiev...

I often discuss how to support partners with depression, especially women, as women are twice as likely to struggle with depression. This episode discusses how specifically to support your husband when he suffers from depression, including what is support vs what is enabling! Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most recent "When...

On today's episode, special guest Russell Knight and I discuss the financial ramifications of divorce. He practices in Illinois and Florida and shares his thoughts about divorce and money, as well as observations about trends in divorce, gray divorce, and tips for practical strategies to manage risk if you think a divorce is in your future! Follow and contact Russell here: https://www.youtube.com/...

There's this idea that you can hack your sex life by getting more free time. This is usually incorrect, for the reasons I very practically discuss in this episode! Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Sex For Pleasure Within Marriage Over Time Is An Extremely New Idea," subscribe here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Today, Suzanna Mathews, Best Life coach, helps a Facebook follower with his dating profile... and I'm there for helpful remarks like telling him to branch out to dating cougars. Just kidding, I help a little too. Thanks so much to our awesome guest Ikshwaku! If you're a lovely lady in Phoenix, reach out to him at ikshwaku@live.com. He's smart, successful, and openminded enough to come...

There are two funnels to go down based on whether this is one week off of regular activity or a long term sexless marriage. As always, sulking or coercing is never an option. Here are some useful scripts and reframes! Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠ To get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Sex For Pleasure Within Marriage Over Time Is An Extremely New Idea,"...