The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Many people are very dissatisfied with their careers in midlife, and in this episode, I address how to figure out what to do instead, how to figure out if a career change is really what you are looking for, and how to figure out what is deeply important to you.  Subscribe to hear the life values episode I mention! Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and join my private Faceb...

Subscribe here to hear paid episodes on empathic ruptures, healthy boundaries, are you doomed to repeat bad patterns in all relationships, what women want in bed and more!   https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Today I discuss the modern day parenting myth that you need to entirely overhaul your personality in order to parent your kids, and why this is toxic for your mental health, your...

When women feel this way, it often leads to a similar transformation as when men get all the physical affection they want. Listen and learn, grasshopper! Subscribe to hear about empathy, oral sex, neediness, sex on the first date, and more episodes for paid subscribers only: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Join my secret Facebook group here!  Up to 60 great people already! https://...

Subscribe if this made you laugh AND to hear my upcoming paid episode on when you finally can feel empathy for your younger self: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe   And then join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Wives say this to husbands SERIOUSLY and the husbands are too scared to respond in any way that makes factual sense, thereby per...

Subscribe if I'm adding value to your life with these episodes! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And join my secret Facebook group where people are very nice and like to talk about issues like this one! https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Many individuals who had very difficult childhoods with parents struggling with mental health issues consider whether their lives could...

This is basically the equivalent of the episode Remember There Are Also Men Who Do Nothing And Barely Work And Still Get Women, so refer back to that.  Part of what I like to do is break down your old negative worldviews that do not serve you and prevent you from moving forward in your life.  In that episode I discussed the myth that women only want rich dudes who do everything for them....

Another in a long list of PC topics!  Just kidding.  Today we tackle the horror of my beautiful friend paying for dates with guys she didn't even end up liking, and why offering to split on a date you're invited on may actually be due to certain issues in your family of origin. Please subscribe to hear the next one about oral sex on women https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  ...

So many men are terrified that their wives will stop trying to give them any oral sex that they allow very very bad oral sex which the women knows isn't even hitting the mark.  Therefore, good oral sex never even gets on the regular sex menu for many couples!  In this episode, I discuss many myths and misconceptions about how to give oral and what constitutes a blowjob, and discuss why i...

Subscribe for bonus content: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom A reader asked me a couple of parenting questions that honestly just come down to the question: What do I do when my partner and I parent differently?  This is a great topic to explore, and I hit a lot of interesting points to think about a...

Subscribe here for bonus episodes! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom In today's episode, I discuss the idea of forming a special identity as a couple or family, and how this can help strengthen your bonds and enhance your (and your kids') feelings of security. This framing can also give you ideas on how...

Some people are in the situation where they have never been attracted to their spouse and/or their spouse has never been attracted to them. In this episode, I explore reasons that this happens, ways that different people respond to this dynamic, and things to think about or discuss with your therapist when you're trying to decide what path to take moving forward. Don't miss my baby analogy! Links:...

Subscribe if you love my podcast and to hear my next bonus episode on the role of maintenance sex in a loving relationship! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A subscriber wrote, "I have a suggestion for a topic.  I would like to hear one on how to graciously accept sex from your partner when they are obviously not in the mood.  When they are offering/willing out of love even tho...

Subscribe because you love me: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe   Join my secret Facebook group because you love talking to other DPM aficionados: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Whether you're married or single, listen to the 10 things that women need in a husband, which I have discovered by working for a dozen years as a therapist with individuals and couples....

A reader asked me this question, which made me realize how important it is that people understand how depression has nothing to do with external variables like seeming successful or being in a happy family.  In fact, depression is multifaceted and is an illness.  In this episode, I discuss all the causes of depression, and how much of it is due to genetic, biological, hormonal variables...

Many men fall prey to the illusion that all women get treated like princesses who dole out sexual favors when the mood strikes them.  Don't forget about the other half of women who also exist in the inverse situation.  In my clinical experience, in unhappy marriages, half of the women do all the gruntwork and half the men do all the gruntwork.  This includes work, begging for attent...

Subscribe here for all bonus episodes including the previous one about neediness vs expressing needs in a healthy way! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe   Working out with your partner can be fun and good for the relationship, and there's many other positive reasons to try it.  This is a common wish especially of men, and I explore why this may be the case!  In case you don...

A reader requested this episode about "nice guy syndrome" and "covert contracts" (linked below). Do women really like nice guys as I insist or can there be too much of a good thing?  I touch on what nice really means, how confidence and niceness are linked, and how to raise kids that are genuinely kind vs trying to be "good" to get something. Please subscribe here and join my Facebook group h...

In this episode I give you three versions of a two word response that will transform the communication in your marriage! I just taught my son this in the car ride to school, which prompted this episode. I know you're waiting with bated breath to hear what the magic words are, but please take a moment to SUBSCRIBE to my podcast here: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And join my priva...

In this reader-requested episode, I discuss whether you should get a boob job and what to tell your kids about it.  Spoiler: I have a boob job so I'm biased!! If you love my content please subscribe here for all my bonus episodes: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and join my secret Facebook group where you can see a video about this topic posted today!! https://www.facebook.com/beco...

So many people struggling with their sex life are still masturbating individually! Why do this when the goal is a healthy PARTNERED sex life?  Usually, people are under the misapprehension that masturbation doesn't hurt and may even help, but in fact, it detracts from your sex life as a couple.  Listen to my McDonalds and chess.com analogies and maybe take my challenge of no masturbation...

Please subscribe here to hear my prior episode about healthy boundaries vs anxious rigidity!  That one built off my picky eating episode.  In today's episode, I expand on the idea of bringing your best and your fullest most generous self to your marriage. A reader suggested I discuss how to keep the momentum going when your marriage is finally going better!  If you've been working h...

Subscribe here for bonus episodes! You may be surprised to learn how often I see picky eaters have other issues in their marriages!  Listen and learn about what picky eating tends to represent, the importance of open mindedness and flexibility in relationships, and which type of people tend to end up in frustrating relationships with partners who have endless "boundaries" about what they will...

In this episode, I discuss my own requirement for a partner that I came up with at age 6 and how the specifications given by most adults in this arena are no less anxiety-driven and useless.  Focusing on the big picture and especially the three things I discuss will help you open your mind and perhaps find someone to love that you wouldn't have found if you stuck to your stringent requirement...

A subscriber wrote in about her annoying 6 year old.  I give her some tips on how to deal with him without going insane herself.  There also may be many other issues at play, in both you and your kid, if you are in a parent-child relationship that feels very hard. Listen for other things to think about and ways to normalize how you feel. Especially relevant for parents of kids with behav...

Subscribe here to access all episodes!  In this episode I discuss an interesting thought experiment: what would happen to your marriage if physical intimacy (aka sex and cuddling) was the automatic default in your marriage, versus an extra thing that gets crammed into the schedule randomly?  When partners can rely on intimacy being a regular part of every day, they feel much closer and s...