The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

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A member of my private FB group (join! https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom ) wrote in asking for advice on a tween with an attitude, and gave examples of a monotone/no eye contact when interacting with adults, and not doing her chores in front of friends or possibly ever. I explore ways to deal with this and revisit parenting approaches and what is seen to work best with kids! &nbs...

Hopefully you subscribed to hear my bonus episode on attachment theory, because today we are going more in depth into avoidant attachment and how it manifests in women.  If your wife never seems to want to be close, and never likes to "need" you, this is the podcast to help you understand your marriage!  I cover the many ways you can tell if your wife is avoidant and what you may be doin...

Today I have my very first and possibly only podcast guest!  Ralph who created Dad Starting Over gives me his thoughts on men, women, relationships, vulnerability, and of course SEX. Why don't men share their vulnerable feelings with women? What is the metric by which men assess their lives?  And how did Ralph even come up with DSO in the first place (hint: a divorce is involved), neverm...

I answer this question that perplexes so many men by diving into attachment theory and the deepest recesses of your wife's psyche!  Subscribe if this helped you and to hear the next paid episode where I will finally formally explain attachment, which I've quickly referenced in so many other podcasts and which is so integral to understanding your relationship and yourself! https://anchor.fm/dr...

Subscribe if you love my content to get access to paid episodes: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And if you like talking about relationships, psychology, parenting and more with me and group members, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom   Many people are upset with their partners for being the exact type of person that they needed when...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for paid episodes, and separately for private discussion with me and fans, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom This episode explains more about imago theory.  When we have unresolved issues from our upbringing, we tend to find partners that affirm our negative views about love, relationships,...

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Guess what? I've never yet had a woman in therapy brag to me about what an awesome debater her husband is.  Listen to this podcast to see what you're doing to irritate your wife if not outright retraumatize her. Subscribe for the next paid episode on why to initiate sex daily and all my other paid episodes! Links: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/04/11/6-reasons-that-your-husband-plays-devils-...

Mother's Day is tomorrow and usually the week after Mother's Day is a garbage fire in couples counseling because the wife is so resentful about the way it went down.  Don't let this be you!  Actionable tips that you can use TODAY to ensure that tomorrow is not a hellscape. You're welcome. Subscribe for the upcoming paid episode on why to initiate sex daily and all my other paid episodes...

By request from a member of my private Facebook group, I present this episode on what to do when you are... "coparenting with different values, so the kids have different rules or expectations at each house. One house eats a certain way, and the other house does not. One house goes to church, the other is an agnostic. One house prioritizes sports, the other does not. One house prioritizes fitness,...

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Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for my most recent paid episode on when sacrifice is healthy within marriage and when it's not! And join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom In the marriages I see where men put their kids' needs over their wives' needs, this leads to a conflictual marriage that is no good for anyone.  In this epis...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for the next paid episode on sacrifice for your partner, and also join my private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom ! When clients tell me about their early relationship in couples counseling, it can be extremely informative. Learning about the first date, first time in bed and when they knew they loved each ot...

Obviously your job is going to be more secure, more fulfilling, and a more significant source of self-worth if you are NECESSARY to the company.  So why don't people take the same pragmatic approach when it comes to marriage?  I'll give you two reasons: people don't want to do a objective self-inventory, and people have an idealistic self-sabotaging view of love/relationships.  I al...

In my secret group (join! https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ ), someone started a thread about what's the most important thing to you in a relationship, and I said that one of mine is shared sense of humor!  My husband makes me laugh a lot and this is important to me.  This episode elaborates on that, and includes why women in particular find it so important that they f...

Please subscribe if you are getting value from my podcast! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Emotional labor, as I discuss in the first post linked below, was originally meant as something very different from what it means now.  Jobs which require emotional labor can make you feel disconnected from your own emotions, and therefore can lead to emotional burnout and detachment overall....

A reader on Medium (follow me there: https://medium.com/@DrPsychMom/membership ) read my article Men Need To Think Their Wives Are Hot (also a podcast here ) and asked what about when women stop trying to be attractive?  Of course people of both genders stop trying, and I will address both separately; today is women and men will be in a paid episode next!  Subscribe so you don't miss it!...

This is a tongue-in-cheek episode title because only in today's hypervigilant parenting culture would anything that I say be deemed controversial!  But if you want to be forewarned, some of the craaaaazy things I say here include: bodies maintain homeostasis, children emulate parents, and infinity options aren't always best!  Thanks for the suggestion for this podcast from a subscriber,...

A subscriber in my private group (which you should join here: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom ) asked this question and it's a good one.  "Fake it till you make it" has a bad connotation but it is actually one of the most productive ways to self-improve according to behavioral activation theory, which I explain in this episode!  I examine the interplay between emotion...

Inlaw issues are a major driver of marital conflict, but in this episode I help you see why they aren't the deeper issue, no matter how self-absorbed and off-the-wall they act.  You can learn to actually bond over this topic, and I describe multiple reframes that allow couples to genuinely put the marriage first and present a united front.   People that this podcast applies to may also b...

By reader request.... the gray rock method! I teach my 12 year old in real time how to gray rock.  She pretends to be a 32 year old woman hosting her awful mother (me) for Christmas... I try and try to get her but she deftly avoids my drama via the gray rock method! If tween can learn this, you as an adult can learn it too! Link: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2021/12/12/how-to-gray-rock-your-dif...

Someone in my private Facebook group that you should join ASAP ( https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom ) asked for an episode on what to do when you can't move past resentment about a past empathic rupture . Sometimes this even occurs when the person who hurt you has apologized already. In this episode, I discuss your path forward, and what I have observed is at play when this happen...

Please subscribe if you love this podcast!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A subscriber asked, "Can you explain healthy conflict vs unhealthy conflict in front of kids - don’t they need to see some level of conflict to learn? Such as watching mom and dad disagreeing on where to eat or a promise that was broken but then also see it resolved?" I've written about how toxic constant m...