The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

The narcissist-borderline dynamic is common in couples counseling and underlies many super high conflict relationships. Here we cover what Borderline Personality is (extreme preoccupied attachment is one helpful lens), how it interacts with Narcissist Personality Disorder and why these two types are drawn to one another, and what to do if this episode leads to a lightbulb recognition moment about...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Next upcoming one about personality traits that accord with sexless marriages from what I see in my office. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com O Cruel World!  Y...

By special subscriber request!  Note this is a lot shorter than the one on Mother's Day! lol You're welcome, guys! Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Most recent one was about personality traits that accord with sexless marriages. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including the most recent one on why people hate certain traits! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, try: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Many men can't understand why their wife just doesn't exercise!  Isn't it easy a...

Subscribe: The most recent paid episode was on why we hate traits/people and the way to understand your particular dislikes in a new way: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Join: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Therapy: www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Many of my clients are pretty smart and haven't clicked with other therapists because they feel they can outthink...

Subscribe: The most recent paid episode was on why we hate traits/people and the way to understand your particular dislikes in a new way: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Join: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Therapy: www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com I work with a lot of wealthy individuals, some self-made, and the one similar theme that continues to emerge is th...

Most people don't even know that Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder is a thing, and that it is different from OCD.  Here we cover what OCPD is, why people with this disorder can feel impossible to deal with, and what to do if you are this person, or are married to someone like this or have them as a parent. Subscribe!  The most recent paid episode was on men who feel everyone thin...

So many men fight with their wives and then want sex. Women won't usually have sex if they feel attacked in daily life, because women have to feel secure and safe to respond sexually. Most women can't even orgasm if they are stressed out, because their sympathetic nervous system is activated. This episodes covers why you fight, how passive aggression can be fighting, how to figure out who you real...

Have you heard "Why would you want me to do something I don't want to do?" Or been faced with a rigid partner who puts their own boundaries and preferences above you and the relationship as a whole? This episode covers a lot, including analogies between parenting where people bring their A game and relationships where people don't, the logical conundrum of thinking your partner shouldn't even want...

Subscribe!  The most recent paid episode was on men who feel everyone thinks their wife is out of their league. https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe   Join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Today we tackle empathy!  What is it, why might you struggle with it (if you've been told you do), and what are concrete strategies to develop it...

So many women hate their husbands' politics, more with every year than ever before!  I expand on this post: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2016/11/29/husband-voted-trump-lost-respect/ but he doesn't have to have voted for Trump for this to resonate with many couples.  Why is this, what can you do about it, and how can you move forward? Please subscribe if you look forward to my podcasts! &nb...

Many people don't!  Building on this post, I tell you what foreplay is and isn't and why so many men and women feel deeply frustrated and unfulfilled by their too-quick encounters: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2021/09/12/foreplay-big-enough-part-sex-life/ Therapy: www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Remember to subscribe to listen to the oral sex on women one; between that one and this one you'll...

Women detest when men play devil's advocate, as I discuss here: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/04/11/6-reasons-that-your-husband-plays-devils-advocate/ but men don't understand that this type of being difficult and irritating also comes off as weak and passive versus what the man is aiming for (clever, helpful, and/or interesting).  The only man who should use devil's advocate style arguing...

When kids grow into preteens and teenagers, it is normal for them to start developing their own belief systems. Note I say normal, not fun.  What do you do when your child's beliefs, e.g. values, religion, etc, are different than yours?  Hint: how you react will lay the groundwork for a respectful and close adult relationship with your child one day!  Therapy: www.bestlifebehavioral...

In other areas, codependence is bad, but with sex within monogamy, it's good!  Make your partner feel they NEED you physically and your marriage will improve.  Today we explore how to make your partner physically dependent on you like you are their captor (but in a fun way not a weird way!).  Honestly I hate writing these episode descriptions lol Links: Subscribe if you have been lu...

I've gotten many requests for an episode on blending families, because so many of you listeners are parents in second marriages (like me), or dating post-divorce. In this episode I cover how to set things up in your new family so that your kids and spouse have the best chance of being in a healthy, loving dynamic with one another!   SUBSCRIBE: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for al...

When a partner struggles with behaviors they don't want to have (e.g., addiction, even "low level" ones like sugar or phone time), how should you balance helping them be their best selves with not being a codependent doormat?  That's what we explore today on the DPM Show! Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including most recently, The Wife Who Wan...

No. Listen for why! Remember: if my podcast adds value to your life, please SUBSCRIBE : https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including most recently, The Wife Who Wants More And Her Annoyingly Satisfied Husband, and prior, 35 other awesome episodes! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsyc...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including most recently, The Wife Who Wants More And Her Annoyingly Satisfied Husband, and prior, 35 other awesome episodes! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Many people struggle with getting a partner into counseling when they fe...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including most recently, The Wife Who Wants More And Her Annoyingly Satisfied Husband! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom If your parent cheated, how will this impact you? In this episode, I discuss the emotional ramifications of se...

Got an idea to write about this from my friend Dad Starting Over. I see yearning for what he calls "The One Who Got Away" in both men and women!  How have I seen this play out in practice? What does it mean when people yearn for an ex?  How is this different in males vs females? Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including most recently, The...

A member of my private FB group asked this question, and I give you my answer!  Listen to learn about when this happens, what it generally leads too, and a related discussion about why many couples end up in endless couples counseling where at least one partner feels frustrated and stuck! Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on wo...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! And for discussion about these topics and to see the thread where I got this idea, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Someone in my FB group suggested this! I cover what to do w...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Your partner's best and most loving side likely comes out with your kids.  Observing them carefull...

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including oral sex on women, the Couple You Meet In Counseling series, and attachment theory! And for discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Therapy: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Today we will discuss the difference between types of male emotio...