The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Men are less likely to ask for divorces than women, so what can drive them to it?  These four things, which, coincidentally, are the exact things men look for in partners post-divorce ! Please subscribe and you have access to all my other episodes that you can't hear for free!  Thanks for listening everyone. Related lin...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I discuss the various reasons that women can be ambivalent about making more money.  If this speaks to you, think deeply about which of these reasons are holding you back and what your life could look like if you were able to recognize and resolve these issues!  Please subscribe to paid episodes to get...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader wrote in: "Hi there, I loved your recent article about how to show kids that sex is a positive thing , there were some great practical tips there. However I have a question about how you can introduce this when you have re-partnered? My kids haven’t been used to seeing me be romantic with anyone in a long time, and even...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader asked: "I used to feel guilty when I would conjure up different scenarios in my head and do mental role playing during sex with my husband. However after reading your articles about women's sex drives in monogamous relationships, I’ve felt somewhat relieved. However, in terms of getting yourself off, is nothing really of...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader of DrPsychMom.com wrote in with a story about how she attracts these "friends" that end up using her for childcare or whatever else.  I explore how her family of origin issues likely set her up for these difficult situations, how to assert boundaries early on, and a reframe for what is really the kindest and most et...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener wrote, "Do you have any advice on what else I can do to reconcile my difficult past with my mother? I really don't think I'll ever be able to talk to her about it because she always shuts me down when I try. I have tried many times over the years. She will interrupt and change the subject, or literally just walk o...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe People don't admit when they don't like their kids because it feels so shameful, but you are not alone if you feel this way.  If you want to learn concrete ways to deal with it, listen to this episode and read the below links.  You are NOT a bad parent if you don't like your child. There is a difference between thoughts...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode of The Dr Psych Mom Show, I give you a rough overview of the many aspects of recovering from affairs.  The betrayed partner and the betraying partner have different needs during the repair and recovery process, and I go through many things you may not have been aware of that are important to consider, includi...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Many people find it awkward or scary to discuss their secret desires with their partner.  In this episode, I talk about why people feel this way, how to get past it, and even give you a role play for how to bring it up!  (Not the fun kind of role play, just a therapy kind.) Thanks for listening and please subscribe! Lin...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A subscriber asked me a great question about why some women in particular that she knows find it very hard to meet men to be in a serious relationship with, even though they want to get married and have kids.  I discuss two main reasons that people find it difficult to find partners that they are attracted to, and discuss on...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener wrote in saying that to her and other women of her age, the culture and teachings around sex for adolescents seem very fear-based. She says, "There is all this talk about consent, as if rape and rape- avoidance are the main factors in relationships. Is this a fashion or a shift in western society’s values? You are a mo...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe New podcast based on a listener question!  This listener is totally not my husband sending me a voice message on his drive home or anything!  In this episode, I respond to the question, "What about when your wife just wants you to listen?  Doesn't trying to move the conversation along and cheer her up, as your sugg...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you know me, you know that I base what I talk about on what REAL couples in my office discuss and want, versus what society tells people to want.  I continually see women who want to be protected and cared for, but their husbands have no idea how to do this without being a chauvinistic jerk.  Never fear!  I am h...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I help all my listeners with small kids figure out concrete ways to get more connected couple time together. This is especially useful for all my couples who don't have family help. Share my practical tips with your partner and you two can discuss which you can try!  Related links:  100 Date Night Quest...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe I always discuss how toxic marital scorekeeping is ... but is there any way that it can actually improve your dynamic when done differently?  Listen and learn, grasshoppers. Realize that you will be reframing your unhelpful beliefs and also, as usual, thinking deeply about their origin in your earlier life. Specifically, we...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many of us deal with treatment resistant depression.  What do you do when therapy and meds don't work?  I outline other ways to address your depression, and ways to reframe your life that allow you to move forward with meaning and purpose while being depressed.   "Where There Is Life, There Is Hope!" (couldn't f...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode I expand on my post Men Need To Think Their Wives Are Really Hot For Things To Work and my companion post about women needing a margin of error of attraction to their husbands . Everyone deserves to be with a partner who thinks they are attractive, and all women have the deep desired to be adored.  He's only...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If your kids say rude things or are ungrateful for nice things you do, it may be because you haven't explicitly and consistently trained them to be kind to you.  This often originates in your own upbringing and trying to be a better parent than the ones you had, and I outline how sometimes you can swing 180 degrees and then...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you are a Highly Sensitive Person or tend towards anxiety/depression, it is likely you are the more difficult partner.  You may try to seem laid back or blame your demandingness on external variables, but this only serves to gaslight your partner. If you are the one who chooses most activities and has the more specific ne...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many men have no idea what their female partners mean when they ask for more romance. Others understand what romance is but they don't deeply understand how sad their wives are about the lack of it. If you have ever dismissed or minimized your wife's desire for romance, or if you have no idea how to execute on it, this is the...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener sent me in a voice question! (If you'd like to record a question, ask me on the Anchor app where I record my podcasts!)  She listened to my episode "When Men Won't Take Care Of You" and needs advice about her boyfriend.  I use attachment theory and other variables to tell her how to better communicate with he...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Many women are sad that the guys they are with never seem to take care of them or protect them.  This isn't just because you meet the “wrong” men or guys who are “selfish.” Instead, you may be subconsciously drawn to dynamic that you remember from earlier in your life. In this episode, I discuss the two categories of wo...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe There are many red flags that your partner will eventually start regarding sex with disinterest if not outright distaste.  Most people aren't vigilant for these signs, but if you are on the dating market (or considering dating in the future), this article is a MUST READ. I also discuss what may be going on if you are in a se...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe This episode explores the psychological and relationship consequences of women out-earning their husbands, which is a more and more common phenomenon that I encounter among my couples clients. How does power shift when women make more, or equal, money to their male partners?  What can be done to address dissatisfaction that...

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe From my work with couples, I can tell you that many men are just as dissatisfied with their sex lives as women are.  Often, women have no idea, thinking that when a man gets laid, he's happy.  This "pizza" theory of sex (all pizza is good pizza) is WRONG especially as a man gets older.  In this episode, I discuss 6...