The Dr Christian Heim Podcast

Using words isn’t the only way we communicate. There’s something more going on: our feelings underneath. Intent vs impact and eye contact are how our feelings are transmitted unconsciously. Negotiating diversity involves being skilled and sensitive to each other but screen technology means that we are deskilling in this area. Like this content? Join our email list: https://www.drchristianheim.com/...

Negotiating diversity well takes altruism and trust, both of which have their networks in the brain. We explore these to see what factors help us choose altruism and trust. Belief can be a stumbling block to negotiating diversity so it helps to understand how belief works in the brain.

Cultural neuroscience is an emerging and exciting area of science that can be applied to diversity. In this episode we talk about how we not only have a biological but also a cultural inheritance. We also discuss the mere exposure effect. Join our email list for more content like this: https://www.drchristianheim.com/subscribe-1

Geert Hofstede and Fons Trompenaar also articulated ideas about how diverse we people are. Understanding and accepting these differences will be key to negotiating the diversity of our day and moving forward to being able to accept diversity. Like this content? Sign up for our email list and a free chapter of Dr Heim's latest book here https://www.drchristianheim.com/subscribe-1

We begin to delve deeper into the diversity of people interactions through the insights of anthropologist Edward T. Hall who articulated how we all feel comfortable within our personal space, with being task-oriented or people-oriented, and with cultures that are either more direct with words or indirect with words.

It’s often overlooked but cultural diversity affects mental health. Here we look at cultural diversity and mental health and how cultural diversity can present as depression, anxiety or suicidality and what can be done about it. We also look at the problem of stigma. Like this content? Sign up for our email list and a free chapter of Dr Heim's latest book here https://www.drchristianheim.com/subsc...

To help negotiate diversity, we step into the science of how did diversity emerge. We then consider what culture and diversity are and look into the importance of the feelings we carry underneath our social masks. These have a bearing on how we get on as people and how we negotiate diversity. Sign up to our email list for more topics like this https://dr-christian-heim.ck.page/a07608a667

From myth to philosophy to science, we explore “Why are we all so different?” To negotiate diversity we look at this question and why other people can be such a problem and what enlightenment philosophers called “the state of nature.” Join our email list to get a free chapter of Dr Heim's new book "The 7 Types of Love" https://dr-christian-heim.ck.page/a07608a667

A world of diversity seems to be a world of conflict: social upheavals, differing opinions, new rules, confusion, anxiety, disorientation. Is there something we can do, as individuals, to better at negotiating diversity in this world? to understand others? to keep enjoying friendships? to trust strangers? Yes. Join our email list for mental health tips and a free chapter: https://dr-christian-heim...

Did you know that there were 7 types of love and you can mix them up and get hurt? We can mix up romance with liking sex, friendship with romance, or someone’s kindness with thinking they mean something more. Our personal relationships each have a unique blend of different loves. Listen to the audio book now! https://www.drchristianheim.com/7-love-types

In this podcast we look at ways of how to be a good friend. You can’t choose your family, but you can choose how to be a good friend. We look at what makes this Love Type one of the most easy-going of relationships. We look at what makes a good friend, what makes friendships difficult, what goes on in the brain and how to go deeper. Get your free chapter of Dr Heim’s The & Love Types here! https:/...

What are you asking: Is it physically possible? do you want permission? Is it a good idea? how to get away with it? In this recording of our Late Night Love Episode, we look at the science and psychology of how and why people cheat and the brain chemicals and hormones driving long-term love, sex and trust.

Can I love myself without becoming selfish? What if I don’t even like myself? How do I love myself without becoming narcissistic? We all have selfishness. It’s natural, but narcissism is unhealthy self-love. It keeps you preoccupied with yourself and cuts off from the flow of love with others. Self-compassion is healthy self-love; it keeps love with others flowing.

What is love scientifically? Is it just an emotion? Is it a behaviour we all have to put up with? Is it a brain chemical that’s driving us crazy? Are we all on some weird trip? Find out more

In our image saturated society, we can become preoccupied with our constructed selves, our false selves. A world of appearance is not good for the brain. Where can you get under the masks, kick off your shoes, go barefoot, and share feel good brain chemicals with people rather than be a rabbit-in-the-headlights? If you could read my mind what a tail my thought would tell? Says Gordon. We talk depr...

Time to sum up the series and make it actually happen: overcome those useless thoughts everyday. But what works for me? Our brains are unique so unique solutions are needed. To help you find these for yourself, we delve into Brief Solution-Focussed Therapy to do more of what works and less of what doesn’t for your unique brain. Plus a few bonus techniques to celebrate.

How can you get the NACC of being focussed on useful thoughts all day? By cultivating the attitude of gratitude. A simple DOSE of gratitude can give you the DOSE of Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins that your brain needs to have good conversations running between your frontal lobe and your limbic system. It’s focussed neuroplasticity.

The science of neuroplasticity tells us that with new skills our brain changes. In this podcast, we will use the principles of neuroplasticity – learning and practice, rewards, use it or lose it, what fires together wires together, neurons out of sync fail to link – to build a new roadway to the new thoughts you want to have.

Mindfulness can help overcome useless thoughts if you get the NACC: NOTICE your thoughts to be AWARE of them and CHOOSE to CONCENTRATE on thoughts you want. Specifically, we’ll use seven MINDFUL techniques: Meditate, Inhale & exhale, Notice the NACC, Do what you’re doing, Focus on your Five senses, Unwind and relax, and Listen deeply.

We’ll expose the roots of your useless thoughts. Are they from your childhood? Did someone else put them there? Are they driven from your unconscious mind? Psychoanalysis has some insights that are relevant to us here. We explore six insights for you to understand, accept, resolve, forgive and let go so you can choose to concentrate what’s useful.

Useless thoughts? So what. Leave them alone. Let them be. Let them sulk in a corner of your mind while you get on with what you want to do in life. Easier said than done, but it’s possible if you can accept your thoughts, separate from your thoughts, value your values, commit to living out your values and noticing it all

You are separate from your thoughts. They have their story, you have yours. They’re the problem, you’re not. Writing creative stories can equip you to capture your thoughts and direct them towards your preferred thought-life. You have important allies in your battle against useless thoughts: your values, your skills, and people who care.

By doing something active and useful we can make ourselves feel capable and useful. This generates a bunch of useful thoughts to crowd out the useless thoughts. It can be fun to BE A DOER and be rewarded for it. Acquire skills, exercise, and do anything useful to find an antidote to useless thoughts

Our thoughts have power over us because we believe them. Why not challenge their authority instead? Here we put thoughts through the wringer of logic, keeping emotions out, understanding what we can & can’t control, and proactively working on them. We find COLDMOP errors and correct them by ANT EATing.

Negative thinking is not always useless and positive thinking is not always useful. This is discussed by an important story. We then start applying the two basic thought skills to help you notice your thoughts and start working on them to help make your mind a better place to be. We start chucking out some garbage: garbage out!