The Calm Confidence Podcast: Social Anxiety and Being Yourself

We can't avoid judgement from others, so don't bother trying. Our attempts to avoid it only make our social anxiety worse and it won't stop the judgment from coming anyway. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #confidence #resilience #freedom Interested in getting in contact?https://charlesperrytherapy.com/Podcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d...

We're often taught that if we want to feel confident in something, we have to practice until we have mastered it. We believe that confidence comes from developing skills and constantly improving ourselves. While this is sound advice in certain situations, it does little in building long lasting, internal confidence. What do we do if we are learning something new? How can we feel confident in o...

Anxiety, and mental health in general, is a dream crusher. It prevents you from living a full life and makes you believe you have to put your life on hold. Your life will slowly shrink more and more as you give in to the anxiety. In this video, I explore how you can begin to break free of this cycle and start dreaming again. #anxiety #anxietyrelief #anxietyanddepression #anxietyrelief Interested i...

Are you an overthinker? In this video I break 4 common mistakers overthinkers make, and how to overcome them! #overthinking #worry #rumination #anxiety #anxietyrelief Interested in getting in contact? For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-session YouTube: https://www.youtube...

Depression will change you in ways you cannot even imagine. It's important we recognize the power of depression so we don't fall into the trap of blaming ourselves, and we are able to recognize how depression is clouding our thoughts, emotions and behaviors. #depression #depressionawareness #depressed #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness Interested in getting in contact? For NY/NJ resident...

Social anxiety isn't just a fear of talking to others. In this video, I examine 6 oddly specific symptoms/signs of social anxiety that you may relate to. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #socialanxietyproblems #selfconscious Interested in getting in contact? For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly....

I've battled with social anxiety for most of my life. Now older and wiser, I've reflected on the 5 main ideas/mindset changes that helped me break free of my social anxiety and become a more confident person. In this video, I share these 5 ideas in hopes that it can connect to some of you out there who are struggling with social anxiety so you can live a freer and more confident life. It&#...

Are you tired of being a people pleaser and constantly suppressing your emotions? In this video, we'll explore the connection between people-pleasing, emotional suppression, and social anxiety. Learn why managing anger and expressing emotions in healthy ways is essential for building confidence and setting boundaries. In this video I discuss how anger can be a powerful tool for communication a...

Do you ever find yourself struggling with social anxiety or feeling less confident when you're around others? You’re not alone, in this video we’ll tackle the challenges of social anxiety, explore the endless cycle of comparing yourself to others, and how to start building real confidence. In this video I explore why putting people on a pedestal is at the crux of your social anxiety. It's...

Self consciousness is at the core of all of our social anxiety. We worry about how others perceive us and this prevents us from showing the world who we are. In this video I explain how to rid yourself of your self consciousness for good. THIS IS NOT A REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO THERAPY. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #selfconscious #egodeath Youtube: https://youtu.be/rQD9Ix0omwI...

Do you struggle with worry and rumination? Welcome to the club. In this episode I discuss how you can get out of your head once and for all. THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. #anxiety #anxietytherapy #anxietyrelief #worry #rumination #mindfulness Podcast link: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6a Apple: https://podcasts.apple....

Sometimes labeling and identifying a diagnosis can be helpful, but when we over-identify with a diagnosis, we box ourselves in. This is very common with social anxiety. We convince ourselves that the social anxiety IS our personality, which makes us believe there is nothing we can do. In this video I explain why social anxiety is actually a parasite that is preventing you from letting your true pe...

Loneliness is an isolating feeling despite the fact that WE ALL feel it. In this episode I discuss a different way to connect to others when you feel alone. #alone #loneliness #lonely THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. Sources: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-017-04047-3 Podcast link: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6a...

THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. There's so much (bad) advice out there telling people they should stop caring what other people think. If you struggle with social anxiety or confidence, you may have tried to "not care about what others think," only to find yourself either stuck in the same boat or trying to fake something that doesn't feel genuine. You're not alone her...

THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. Sometimes as therapists we overanalyze things. Whether it's our own ego or our genuine thirst for discovery, we sometimes read into things that aren't there. One of the most common ways I find we do this is when we are convinced that someone is just try to "distract" themselves from their pain. It's important for us to realize that somet...

Public speaking is one of the most common fears known to man. However, as much as we like to avoid it, speaking publicly often plays a crucial role in our career development, our relationships and our own sense of confidence. Mastering this skill can transform our lives. In this episode, I explore practical ways to attack this monster head on, so we can feel more empowered in our lives. It is also...

THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. We all want to like ourselves, but it's easier said than done. The reality however, is that many of the things we judge ourselves for are completely out of our control. In this episode I discuss how to embrace your differences by challenging the judgments you make about yourself and others. #socialanxiety #selfacceptance #acceptance #men...

We like to think that it is our thoughts themselves that cause our pain and distress, but what if it is action the WAY we think about our thoughts? This is what we call Meta-Cognition. In this video I explore the 5 faulty ways that we think about our thoughts that lead to worsened anxiety and depression. Rather than changing and trying to control our thoughts, we are going to change the way we thi...

When we are depressed we can fall into a nihilistic philosophy. Existential nihilism is the philosophical belief that life has no meaning or purpose, and therefor there is no reason to enjoy life, take action, love, etc. When we are depressed we can also start to believe that this philosophy makes sense, and therefore there is no reason to "cure" our depression, because we see the problem as exter...

We all have a tendency to externalize our stress. When we feel stressed, we blame the thing or the world instead of looking inward. While this may help us feel better temporarily, it ultimately leaves us feeling powerless and out of control. Take the power back in your life by taking responsibility for how you react to the world around you. Please don't forget to like, subscribe and share with you...

Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder are very different, but are often confused for one another. They are also two of the more stigmatized mental health conditions in the world. In this episode I debunk the myths and misconceptions about each of them. #bipolar #bipolardisorderawareness #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #mentalhealth #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthmatters Please...

Social Anxiety can truly prevent us from living the life we want to live. The fear can make us do things that may feel good or safe in the moment, but have long term negative consequences. In this episode, I explore 8 things you should not do if you have social anxiety. You can also find the youtube video at: https://youtu.be/4oCtyQQQxY0 Website: www.charlesperrytherapy.com Instagram Link: Instagr...

We all want to feel validated, but we have to admit that sometimes our emotions are not always in alignment with reality. This can be a hard pill to swallow, but can also be a very freeing concept to embrace. It gives us a sense of more control over our emotions and reactions, and ultimately leads to healthier relationships with others and ourselves. You can also find the youtube video at: https:/...

Panic Attacks are the Worst! In this episode I explain what panic attacks are and how to best navigate them, so you can go back to living your life in full. Remember, this podcast is merely educational and is not intended to be used as a replacement for real therapy. Please go to therapy.

In this episode I discuss how to build motivation when you are depressed. Take it slow and be kind to yourself.