The Angry Therapist Podcast

Today, John and Vanessa discuss the complexities of relationships, focusing on communication, attachment styles, and the importance of maintaining individuality. They touch on the dynamics of 'runners' and 'grabbers' in relationships, the significance of co-regulation, and give practical tips for sustaining a healthy partnership. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s ne...

Today, John Kim explores the concept of feeling incomplete and the importance of reparenting oneself to heal fragmented parts of our identity. He emphasizes the need for self-compassion, curiosity, and nurturing our inner child to create a sense of wholeness and alignment with our desires.  Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow Joh...

Today, John does a deep dive with Sean Cardinalli about sex, love, and porn addiction. They discuss the signs of what this looks like, how to address addiction, how to heal from it, and much more. Sean Cardinalli is a coach, writer, and activist who returned to coaching on sex & love addiction. Sean earned his local certificate through Linda Bark’s holistic coaching methodology and is pursuing his...

Today, John explores the concept of silent disagreements in relationships, emphasizing how unaddressed conflicts can lead to resentment and distance. He discusses the importance of open communication, the need for partners to express their expectations and desires, and the value of creating a safe space for dialogue. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On...

Today, John discusses the concept of a relationship agreement, emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding, conflict resolution, and personal responsibility. He highlights the necessity of fighting fair, taking ownership of one's actions, and navigating the delicate balance between control and invitation in relationships. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into John’s new...

Today, John reflects on his journey as a father, discusses the challenges and joys of parenting, his personal growth, and the legacy he wishes to create. Through candid reflections, he explores the complexities of fatherhood, the importance of connection, and the desire to be a better parent than his own father was to him. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Sing...

Today, John discusses the roots of hurt and the need for compassion, explaining that hurt often stems from unresolved personal issues. He provides insights on supporting partners dealing with depression, advocating for understanding and patience while navigating past relationship residues, and how boredom is a sign of disconnection from oneself.  You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Pur...

Today, John asks thought-provoking questions to help examine your own narratives and beliefs in the New Year. He also emphasizes the need to awaken from autopilot living, embrace change, and pursue personal goals without the fear of failure. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out more abo...

In part two of The Unfinished Man Series, John and Lair explore the complexities of fatherhood, identity, and emotional health. They discuss Lair's personal experiences growing up without a father, the impact of that absence on his adult relationships, the challenges of transitioning into fatherhood, and much more. Find out more about Lair HERE Follow Lair on Instagram HERE Buy Lair's book The Pra...

Today, John explores the themes of self-discovery, alignment, and personal growth. He discusses the subtlety of alignment in everyday life, encouraging listeners to notice and trust their organic feelings and desires as they navigate their paths. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out mor...

Today, John discusses the significance of timing in breakups, the need for healing, and how his current relationship with Vanessa has provided him with a corrective love experience. He emphasizes the importance of honesty, self-discovery, and the lessons learned from both healthy and toxic relationships. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On...

Today, John discusses how the environment we grow up in shapes our sense of self and emotional intelligence. He emphasizes that those who have endured hardships often emerge as empathetic and creative individuals, possessing a unique resilience and capacity for growth, and encourages listeners to recognize the strength within their stories. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,...

In this first episode of a five-part series, John and Lair Torrent (LMFT) explore the foundations of healthy relationships, the evolving role of men, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. They also discuss the importance of vulnerability, expressing emotional needs, reconnecting with one's authentic self, healing your inner child, and more.  Find out more about Lair HERE...

Today, John and Brian Reeves do a deep dive into the depths of men's work. They discuss the impact of fatherhood on masculinity, the significance of rites of passage, men seeking connection, retreats, and more.  Join Bryan's biweekly classes just for men in the SOP app HERE Find out more about Bryan HERE Follow Bryan on Instagram HERE Find out more about Elevate 2025 (An Initiation Journey For Men...

Today, John talks about the necessity of repairing ruptures in relationships and how anxiety can serve as a marker for personal growth.  He also discusses the importance of openness in relationships, particularly when addressing issues like intimacy and connection, and more.  You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John...

Today, John explores the concept of closure, challenging the traditional view that it is a definitive end. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance over resolution, self-generated closure, the messy, non-linear nature of healing, and provides actionable steps to take. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on Ins...

Today, John shares a client story about a couple, Kayla and Mark, who faced a stagnant marriage. John explores themes of transformation, co-creation, and the cyclical nature of relationships, emphasizing that allowing a relationship to 'die' can lead to a stronger, more authentic partnership. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app...

Today, John addresses two significant questions from his Single On Purpose community regarding dating and relationships. He discusses the challenges of putting oneself out there after a long period of being single, the anxiety that often arises in relationships, particularly around the six-month mark, and emphasizes the importance of self-connection and personal growth while single.  You can pre-o...

Today, John explores the concept of co-creation in relationships, emphasizing the importance of collaboration, mutual respect, and adaptability. He critiques traditional relationship models that rely on outdated dynamics and predefined roles, and concludes that the best relationships are built through intentional co-creation, rather than simply found. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. O...

Today, John explores the concepts of healthy and unhealthy love, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, communication, and personal growth in relationships. He also discusses the evolving nature of love and the complexities involved in navigating relationships, ultimately highlighting that love can be both challenging and healing. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HER...

Today, John reflects on his recent wedding in Mexico, sharing personal insights about love, relationships, and the importance of presence. He discusses the unconventional nature of his wedding, the significance of celebrating love authentically, the lessons learned from his journey, and more. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app...

Today, John explores the complex nature of obsession, discussing its duality as both a gift and a curse. He reflects on his personal experiences with obsession, and dives into the importance of recognizing when obsession becomes unhealthy and the need for balance in life. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follow John on I...

Today, John explores the eight different types of breakups, emphasizing that each type carries unique lessons and opportunities for personal growth. He discusses the emotional impacts of various breakups, from the initial heartbreak of 'the big one' to the complexities of divorce, and how to move on from each. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Singl...

Today, John brings on Francesca Sipma to discuss the journey of unlocking one's purpose through self-discovery and healing. They explore the importance of addressing emotional barriers, understanding intuition versus ego, aligning with the present, the transformative power of breathwork, and much more. Francesca is a former New Yorker, who spent her career in advertising and marketing for top glob...

Today, John talks to Buddy Wakefield about the importance of balance in life, clarity that can come from celibacy, and the creative process that navigates both light and dark experiences. They also touch on cultural identity, the impermanence of life, the responsibility we hold in the current societal landscape, and much more. Follow Buddy on Instagram HERE Find out more about Buddy HERE You can p...